Anonymous
01/20/2020 19:25
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Anonymous wrote:As a potential employer, one bad reference out of four likely would not sway me too much.
As a Nanny, I would explain to a potential employer that things didn’t end well w/a certain family & that you decided not to include them as your reference.
Tell them briefly about the situation, making it general + very brief.
Important! ->> Do not speak badly of your ex-bosses at all.
Just say it was not a good match in the end.
A PP suggested you claim the bad family is not available to speak to them, but I wouldn’t encourage you to do this at all.
It sounds a little shady to me.
As if you are intentionally hiding something and/or lying.
+1. I agree - good advice.
Anonymous
01/20/2020 18:45
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
As a potential employer, one bad reference out of four likely would not sway me too much.
As a Nanny, I would explain to a potential employer that things didn’t end well w/a certain family & that you decided not to include them as your reference.
Tell them briefly about the situation, making it general + very brief.
Important! ->> Do not speak badly of your ex-bosses at all.
Just say it was not a good match in the end.
A PP suggested you claim the bad family is not available to speak to them, but I wouldn’t encourage you to do this at all.
It sounds a little shady to me.
As if you are intentionally hiding something and/or lying.
As a Nanny, I would explain to a potential employer that things didn’t end well w/a certain family & that you decided not to include them as your reference.
Tell them briefly about the situation, making it general + very brief.
Important! ->> Do not speak badly of your ex-bosses at all.
Just say it was not a good match in the end.
A PP suggested you claim the bad family is not available to speak to them, but I wouldn’t encourage you to do this at all.
It sounds a little shady to me.
As if you are intentionally hiding something and/or lying.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 22:01
Subject: Re:One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Anonymous wrote:No reasonably intelligent employer is going to believe one over three. You can also get references from teachers in classes you attended with the bad-references-kid to attest to your skill and dedication while you worked for the bad one to make her look even worse.
+1. I have one troubled employer on my resume who seemed to have a break from reality. Her best friend offered to counter any bad reference she gave (unbeknownst to my former employer). I intend just to leave her off my reference list. My other references are glowing. I’m not worried at all.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 16:39
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you have enough references that are good, I’d leave out the reference that is not as good.
OP here. What about the hole in my resume? I had that bad job for two years.
You leave the job on your resume. You give the contact info for the 2-3 references you actually want your potential employer to speak with. If they ask about that particular job reference, I would say they are hard to get into contact with.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 16:12
Subject: Re:One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
No reasonably intelligent employer is going to believe one over three. You can also get references from teachers in classes you attended with the bad-references-kid to attest to your skill and dedication while you worked for the bad one to make her look even worse.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 15:34
Subject: Re:One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
As a nanny, I give references that are more relevant to a position. Sometimes it’s flexibility with schedule that determines which two, sometimes it’s the kids’ ages. My resume lists everything I’ve done, references are separate.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 15:04
Subject: Re:One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
As an employer, if three references were glowing I’d assume the one bad reference was nuts. And we all know difficult and issue-plagued mothers.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 14:34
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
I never give more then 2 references. I mix them up to not big them all when I’m looking for a new job. Most employers only check one reference. Very few have checked 2. When I’m asked for my references I give them one then another if specifically asked.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 14:33
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
What was your vibe from that family? Sometimes it could be the family and not the nanny. I'd talk to the nanny about her experience there.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 14:30
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Was it your most recent job? I still say that 3 good references should suffice. Are all 3 good references in form of a reference letter? I would hand prospective employers the 3 letters and then if they ask about the time span, I’d fill them in on what happened.
OP here. Not letters - all my former employers are in town and happy to give phone recommendations.
And no, it wasn’t my most recent job.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 14:29
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Anonymous wrote:Was it your most recent job? I still say that 3 good references should suffice. Are all 3 good references in form of a reference letter? I would hand prospective employers the 3 letters and then if they ask about the time span, I’d fill them in on what happened.
OP here. Not letters - all my former employers are in town and happy to give phone recommendations.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 14:24
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Was it your most recent job? I still say that 3 good references should suffice. Are all 3 good references in form of a reference letter? I would hand prospective employers the 3 letters and then if they ask about the time span, I’d fill them in on what happened.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 13:20
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
Anonymous wrote:If you have enough references that are good, I’d leave out the reference that is not as good.
OP here. What about the hole in my resume? I had that bad job for two years.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 13:14
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
If you have enough references that are good, I’d leave out the reference that is not as good.
Anonymous
01/19/2020 12:56
Subject: One bad reference out of four (other three are stellar).
As the employer, would you be swayed by one poor reference out of four?
As a nanny, if you ever had a bad parting with one employer who you know is going to trash you to a potential employer, what did you do?
Thank you.
As a nanny, if you ever had a bad parting with one employer who you know is going to trash you to a potential employer, what did you do?
Thank you.