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Anonymous wrote:Do you leave the house at 7am? If so then she should not be giving you attitude. If you are asking her to be upstairs while you are lounging around or doing stuff with the kids yourself she may resent what she sees as an unnecessary early start time. If this is the case you may need to spell out exactly what you want her to do or your expectations for the morning routine.

This is so odd to me - that an AP should resent it when parents are around the morning but wants them scheduled to do work. Maybe the parents need to tend a household task (let the dog out, empty the dishwasher, etc.) Maybe the parent is not a morning person but wants 20 minutes to have a coffee and get ready for their day. These are valid choices.

Our AP starts early with me there. I have MS so a lot of nerve pain issues in the morning. Having an extra pair of hands to do the bending, etc, helps me as my meds kick in.

Anonymous wrote:Do you leave the house at 7am? If so then she should not be giving you attitude. If you are asking her to be upstairs while you are lounging around or doing stuff with the kids yourself she may resent what she sees as an unnecessary early start time. If this is the case you may need to spell out exactly what you want her to do or your expectations for the morning routine.

This is so odd to me - that an AP should resent it when parents are around the morning but wants them scheduled to do work. Maybe the parents need to tend a household task (let the dog out, empty the dishwasher, etc.) Maybe the parent is not a morning person but wants 20 minutes to have a coffee and get ready for their day. These are valid choices.

Do you leave the house at 7am? If so then she should not be giving you attitude. If you are asking her to be upstairs while you are lounging around or doing stuff with the kids yourself she may resent what she sees as an unnecessary early start time. If this is the case you may need to spell out exactly what you want her to do or your expectations for the morning routine.

Our starts at 7:45am. Makes breakfast for the kids and packs their lunches. We are out the door by 8:30am.

6:30am Monday to Friday. This is our fourth year and it has not been a problem.

7:30-4:30 M-TH; 7:30-3:30 on F all year.

I am a high school teacher and need to be at my school by 7. So Au Pair starts at 6:30. She works til 3:30 when i get home. All discussed ahead of time -- I have no flexibility in those hours, obviously.

She gets all the snow days and teacher holidays off, which are the only perks i can afford to give. (I do work summers, so her hours remain the same. ) Never any serious issues. I discuss every single thing ahead of time.

7 AM should not be a problem for start time. Are the kids awake? Is this a split shift?

Yeah... 7 is plenty late... Not only that, she knew what the schedule was before coming.

That attitude needs to be dropped. She was well aware of 7 am during matching. That's the job. Deal with it or rematch.

6:10am. DS leaves for school at 6:45, and BP drives three days a week (I do one day and DH does one day). Never had a peep of attitude.

Previous au pair was 7 am. Never complained. Fix problem right now but I don’t think she will last.

7 am for us. Never had an AP complain about this, I think most APs with school age kids start at this time. If they are tired they can take a nap in the afternoon or just not stay out so late.

Now mine starts at 8am, but it was 7am and sometimes 6:30am for The first year she was with us. She never complained. 7am is perfectly reasonable and very common. Sounds like you have a princess on your hands who doesn’t understand the meaning of work.

Getting some attitude about 7AM, which was discussed at length in matching process.