Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

I feel so bad for your nanny. She tried to give you the standard notice, which is two weeks. (Sorry parents who disagree, but two weeks is standard for any job!) She was nice enough to work with you and extend her notice to three weeks, and to extend it AGAIN, then you found someone and cancel on her for the last week of her notice. And you phrase that as you, “were able to honor her 3 week request.” Three weeks was never her request, it was yours, then you asked for a month. Way to end a relationship with your nanny on a terrible note! And over what? One week’s pay?

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny quit a few weeks ago. It was a nanny share, and she chose to stay with the other family, and quit from working with us. She gave us 2 weeks notice originally, although extended to 3 weeks notice, although our contract asked for 30 days.

We were rushing to find other care, and eventually as we got closer to the end of the 3 weeks, we asked if she'd be willing to work the rest of the 30 days in case we couldn't find other care before then. She said yes. Luckily, we found other care, and were able to honor her 3 weeks request, and move on. We thought everything was done with her.

Now she is contacting us asking for money. Even though the other family from the share is paying her full-time, she is asking for money from us to finish out the 30 days. It's ironic because she didn't even remember the 30 day part of the contract until we reminded her of it.

So even though she wanted to quit with only 2 weeks notice originally, now she wants 30 days of pay even though she's still being paid full-time by the other family! If we had known she felt this way, we would have waited to start our other care after the 30 days. But we were rushing to meet her needs.

We feel stressed by her continuing to contact us, and worried about her taking things further. Any suggestions?

Anonymous wrote:She quit, therefore you only owe for the days worked, you don't owe payment for a notice unless you terminate the contract.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.

Agreed. Even at normal jobs, if you tell your employer you’re giving them two weeks notice, they have to pay you for those two weeks even if they ask you to not work your notice. This happened to me at an accounting position because they weren’t comfortable having an employee writing checks who would be leaving the company. They issued me a check for two weeks of pay and all wages owed and gave it to me on my last day. I think she could take you to small claims court if you don’t pay her. Also, are you sure she is working for the other family during this time period? When I left one nanny job for a new one, my old boss asked me to extend my notice from three weeks to four, and I asked my new family if that was ok with them. They arranged for other childcare until I could start fulltime. If my boss had said she no longer wanted me to work my notice, I would’ve be out of work until the new job started on the arranged date.

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely do not pay her. She quit on you. You do not owe her additional pay.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.

Agreed. Even at normal jobs, if you tell your employer you’re giving them two weeks notice, they have to pay you for those two weeks even if they ask you to not work your notice. This happened to me at an accounting position because they weren’t comfortable having an employee writing checks who would be leaving the company. They issued me a check for two weeks of pay and all wages owed and gave it to me on my last day. I think she could take you to small claims court if you don’t pay her. Also, are you sure she is working for the other family during this time period? When I left one nanny job for a new one, my old boss asked me to extend my notice from three weeks to four, and I asked my new family if that was ok with them. They arranged for other childcare until I could start fulltime. If my boss had said she no longer wanted me to work my notice, I would’ve be out of work until the new job started on the arranged date.

Anonymous wrote:You may owe her the money, OP. You contracted to have her work for those days and it seems right that you pay her. I know it sort of sucks but you and the nanny made an agreement.