Maybe the family's situation changed (job promotion, family reasons, etc.). Whatever the reason, I agree with PPs about doing a search on your own. If you like the friend's of the family, certainly include them in your job search, but also look at other offers. Not everyone has their nannies for the year. There are a ton of families posting, especially for after school nannies.

I moved across the country with two weeks notice. I did NOT know "months in advance" or anything. This is business. Assume the best in people - it'll help you in every interaction you have.

Anonymous wrote:You’re an adult, you don’t have to accept their job offer. Unless they are complete a**holes, I’d be happy to have something lined up.

A celt their job offer and then let them dangle while you enjoy you real new job. Then you can ask them how it feel to be screwed

It was crappy but they may not have known and it may have just come up. Most people with school aged kids are not going to hire a nanny so that's not relevant. Start looking now.

Yes, they lied to you & that is not okay.

After all the love + care you have given their son....then to treat you like this....!!!

I wouldn’t accept the new job.
Obviously this newer family knew what your bosses were up to and they thought it was okay.

I would just leave them.
You will be okay on your own, I promise you.
Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:You’re an adult, you don’t have to accept their job offer. Unless they are complete a**holes, I’d be happy to have something lined up.

A good nanny in this area can find a great job either through places like care.com or an agency. OP doesn’t need to be happy to have something lined up by her former employer.

You’re an adult, you don’t have to accept their job offer. Unless they are complete a**holes, I’d be happy to have something lined up.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think that just because they were dishonest that that means their friends are too. Interview with them, but don’t discount them just because their friends don’t have morals.

“Birds of a feather...”.

The new family knew what the crappy family did long before OP did. Not trustworthy people.

OP here
To make it worse
I went to the kids birthday party a couple months ago and I just realized that that day (kids party) I was secretly introduced to my new employer!!!!
So they talked about me a couple months ago, I didn’t meet them yet, I never talked to them, but they already made plans behind my back months ago , I’m sick to my stomach

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think that just because they were dishonest that that means their friends are too. Interview with them, but don’t discount them just because their friends don’t have morals.

“Birds of a feather...”.

The new family knew what the crappy family did long before OP did. Not trustworthy people.

I don’t think that just because they were dishonest that that means their friends are too. Interview with them, but don’t discount them just because their friends don’t have morals.

I’m sorry, OP. Yeah, it’s clear that you were lied to at hire. They simply couldn’t find a short-term nanny.

Please don’t take the job from her friend. Go out and find your next job. Chances are the friend is just as dishonest and unscrupulous as your current employer.


Still, keep it all cordial and friendly - you need the recommendation.

Again, I’m sorry, OP. Friday the 13th

Sooooo a few months ago I started a new job, wonderful child wonderful family
The mother, however, works out of state a few days a week and travels a lot, by plane.
They had a nanny before me and she quit because she was about to give birth.
So they hired me. They have a lot of family here. I asked many times if they would move out of state, they said NO.
Just now today they told me they’re moving out of state in a month. I’m like wth?!?!?!
The more I talked to my boyfriend about it, the more we realized they knew this for a long time, as they have to move stuff , the dad made an
internal transfer in his company to get a job in that state where she works.
Oh and she’s pregnant with baby 2.
So I’m really bumped as they obviously lied to me, and now I’m out a job just when al schools are back on and people have their nannies for the year.
The only good thing is their friend offered me a job to start right after this one ends.
What do you guys think? I’m speechless
The kid loves me and I love him!