Anonymous wrote:Oh thank y’all! I’m so annoyed .. it’s so demeaning honestly. I just can’t deal with it.. I’m hurt for various reasons.

Demeaning is the right word. They are asking you to contribute to the reno.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. You need to find another position. Obviously you turn them down and get ready for their bad attitude.

So sorry OP. Say no and look for another job.

I know the feeling as this actually HAS happened to me, to an extent. The family I was working for (3 kids, 5, 3, and 9 months) was sending their 5 year old to kindergarten and asked if I could take a pay cut for the hours he wouldn’t be home. I would still be responsible for his laundry, sick days, packing lunch, pickup, drop off, etc. but they wanted to cut me back down to my previous 2-kid pay. I told them I understood where they were coming from but since I would still be responsible for him to a certain extent it didn’t feel right not to be compensated for that. They “understood” but kept trying to nickel and dime me from there, which I had never had a problem with from them. I quit about 6 months later and if I hadn’t been with them for nearly 5 years it would’ve been a lot sooner than that. It’s so unfortunate, OP, but it will probably continue, even if you don’t accept and they seem ok with it right now.

Regardless of their response to your ultimatum, start looking for another job. They are unethical and stunningly unappreciative.

Anonymous wrote:I would not accept and immediately start looking for a new position. Depending on the relationship, I may be honest about my thoughts and how I now need to consider the security of this position in terms of my future. Do you plan to stay or look for a new position? How long had you planned to stay with this family prior to this request?

I plan on being blunt “under no terms can I accept a pay cut”. We will see what happens from there. I’m low key looking for a position if they are hell bent on the pay cut. The confusing part of this is after I was informed about the cut, DB says,”I don’t want to put them in daycare”. But thinking about it now it could just be a guilt trip type of thing. Before the Reno, it was discussed I’d stay on until the younger child went to kindergarten.

I would not accept and immediately start looking for a new position. Depending on the relationship, I may be honest about my thoughts and how I now need to consider the security of this position in terms of my future. Do you plan to stay or look for a new position? How long had you planned to stay with this family prior to this request?

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been a nanny for over 20 years. I currently nanny for a 4 year old who happens to be special needs as well as a 2 year old. I’ve been with the kids for 3 years. I was blindsided today. The parents asked if I would take a pay cut. The reason being is because their reno was more expensive. I’m livid not to mention feel disrespected. Has anyone had this happen?

O would have told them HELL NO! I we oukd be looking for a new job without delay. They cannot afford you.

Start looking for a new job, OP. This is completely unacceptable as well as insulting. I don’t see how you could stay in your current job.

Give your notice according to your contract and get out of there.

Anonymous wrote:sounds fake

I wish it was fake. However, it’s not.

sounds fake

They’re not trying to offend you, just to make their budget work. You say you understand but your bills have not changed, so you’re unable to accept.

Oh thank y’all! I’m so annoyed .. it’s so demeaning honestly. I just can’t deal with it.. I’m hurt for various reasons.

I’m sorry, OP. You need to find another position. Obviously you turn them down and get ready for their bad attitude.

No, in all honesty I haven’t however I would be really miffed if my employers asked me to do this for such an outrageous reason!!

Why don’t they instead try to negotiate the reno cost w/their contractor.

Why the Nanny?
Do they really think so much more of their home then the person who cares for their precious (+ special needs) children so they can go to work and afford to live in a nice, updated home?

So sorry OP - -
I wouldn’t accept unless they can offer you a benefit or two that would sweeten the pot.

• Use of family washer & dryer for your clothing.
• Monthly gym membership.
• More Paid Time Off (PTO) and/or add’l vacation days.
Etc.

Otherwise, it would entirely up to you.
But it is highly likely that you will have to leave & find another family to work with.

Either way, I am just so sorry they asked this of you.
Unfair, inconsiderate and just plain lacking any tact.

I’ve been a nanny for over 20 years. I currently nanny for a 4 year old who happens to be special needs as well as a 2 year old. I’ve been with the kids for 3 years. I was blindsided today. The parents asked if I would take a pay cut. The reason being is because their reno was more expensive. I’m livid not to mention feel disrespected. Has anyone had this happen?