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Anonymous wrote:I think you were in the wrong to an extent. First of all if you have a hard limit on how far you are willing to travel, then you need to explain that in the phone interview and ask for the address. It sounds like you asked for the address but didn’t explain what a big deal it was. I also think you could have followed up a little sooner, rather than sending one text and then waiting until they replied day-of. Finally, I would have been more apologetic “I am so sorry I didn’t take the time to confirm that you are in my driving radius!” Vs. blame-y “You didn’t send me the address.”

I agree with this. Also, you may have been able to negotiate for travel time if it was outside of your radius but you and the family were otherwise a good fit. Your behavior seems a bit immature and that will be the last family your previous family recommends you to.

You are ridiculous! She has a set amount of time she allows for travel. I wouldn't care if they paid me 1.5 time of it took me four hours of travel time each day. You are an imbecile.

Thank you for all the great advice everyone!

The new Mother did contact me and apologize for texting me the address so late.
She said she was crazy busy, the kids were sick, etc.

We both agreed it was just an honest mistake.
No one really at fault.

- OP

Anonymous wrote:I think you were in the wrong to an extent. First of all if you have a hard limit on how far you are willing to travel, then you need to explain that in the phone interview and ask for the address. It sounds like you asked for the address but didn’t explain what a big deal it was. I also think you could have followed up a little sooner, rather than sending one text and then waiting until they replied day-of. Finally, I would have been more apologetic “I am so sorry I didn’t take the time to confirm that you are in my driving radius!” Vs. blame-y “You didn’t send me the address.”

I agree with this. Also, you may have been able to negotiate for travel time if it was outside of your radius but you and the family were otherwise a good fit. Your behavior seems a bit immature and that will be the last family your previous family recommends you to.

You’re not wrong. Anyone I’ve interviewed with have always sent me their address they say we confirm the interview date and time. Like you said, you want to have time to nap it out. What if you lived 2hrs away but she texted you 1 hr before the scheduled time? I wouldn’t reach out anymore and would move on and searched for a new family. Good luck in your job search Op!

Anonymous wrote:Don’t think too much into it. Miscommunication happens and she should have sent you her address right away. But you could have gone for the interview just to see. Sometimes it doesn’t take as long as apps say.

She asked for the address days earlier and received no answer. Tough. No reason why shebshould waste her time. It is a huge red flag that the prospective MB waited so long before sending her address and it would tell me that she has no respect for other people's time.

You dodged a bullet, OP.

You weren't wrong! Stick to your guns.
-MB

You weren’t wrong. But the potential employer may well have thought you already knew the address from your former employer and were just blowing her off.

Whatever is the case, it isn’t worth worrying about.

I think you were in the wrong to an extent. First of all if you have a hard limit on how far you are willing to travel, then you need to explain that in the phone interview and ask for the address. It sounds like you asked for the address but didn’t explain what a big deal it was. I also think you could have followed up a little sooner, rather than sending one text and then waiting until they replied day-of. Finally, I would have been more apologetic “I am so sorry I didn’t take the time to confirm that you are in my driving radius!” Vs. blame-y “You didn’t send me the address.”

Eh, don't worry about it.

Don’t think too much into it. Miscommunication happens and she should have sent you her address right away. But you could have gone for the interview just to see. Sometimes it doesn’t take as long as apps say.

A wonderful NF I used to have, referred me to another family.

The Mother of the potential new family called me a few days ago & we seemed to be a good fit thus far.
So we scheduled a meeting a few days later at 2PM.
She mentioned where she was located and there was some light concern on my end that it possibly was too far.
I asked her to please text me her address.

Well a few days passed + I didn’t hear anything from her.
I assumed that she found someone else, changed her mind, etc.

On the day of our meeting, she sent me her home address 1.5 hrs. to our meeting and when I checked the location on my iPhone,
it was a little too far away than I would have liked.
I don’t like to commute more than say....30min./one way.
She lives about a 42min. commute away.

I kindly texted her that I would have liked to know her location earlier, by the night before preferably.
Because once I looked up her address - it was actually too far for me.

Am I wrong here?
Because all I am receiving are crickets from both her and my previous NF.