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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can afford her, you just don't want to.

What's wrong if she doesn't want to? YOU can keep doing things that YOU don't want to do.

Her money, her decision.

You don't know the money situation. Keeping a nanny is every expensive except for the super wealthy. Can you afford to pay someone full time who only works a few hours a week? Can you afford a full-time nanny on your salary for then next 18 years?

This is such an infuriating comment. If the OP says she can't afford her, then take her at her word. No job is a lifetime appointment. We had to find other options for our children as well when we could no longer afford our nanny. But we found her another (better paying) job and gave her a bonus when she left. Stop assuming all families are just trying to take advantage of their nannies.

My nanny growing up was 68 when she was hired and stayed with my brother and I until she chose to retire at 80. She didn’t die until well into her 90’s and my brother and I were with her in hospice when she passed away and both spoke at her funeral. I love her to this day!

I wouldn’t worry about her age, OP. Just make sure she can still visit your child.

You give your nanny plenty of notice and time off to interview. Give her glowing recommendations and give them in a timely fashion (take the call or call back immediately). A month severance is basic/standard but two months is certainly better. Set times when she can babysit or visit with your kids.

I echo the others that 60 is the new 40 and older nannies in good health are in demand.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can afford her, you just don't want to.

What's wrong if she doesn't want to? YOU can keep doing things that YOU don't want to do.

Her money, her decision.

You don't know the money situation. Keeping a nanny is every expensive except for the super wealthy. Can you afford to pay someone full time who only works a few hours a week? Can you afford a full-time nanny on your salary for then next 18 years?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see it as an issue anymore. Our nanny is 67, amazing - and in brilliant health - was hired by us at 66. The upshot is no need for healthcare insurance!

Yes, some parents do suffer from ageism but not the vast majority of people anymore. Plus the potential employers won’t know her age until she fills out the paperwork.

As they say, “60 is the new 40”. My own mother is 65 and finished the Boston Marathon this past spring.

+1. And please ignore the idiot posters trying to shame you, OP. All nannies know the job will end. We don’t follow our charges to college.

And so many parents are liking for the no-drama and experience of an older nanny. Plus she won’t be addicted to her damn phone.

So true!

Anonymous wrote:You can afford her, you just don't want to.

What's wrong if she doesn't want to? YOU can keep doing things that YOU don't want to do.

Her money, her decision.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see it as an issue anymore. Our nanny is 67, amazing - and in brilliant health - was hired by us at 66. The upshot is no need for healthcare insurance!

Yes, some parents do suffer from ageism but not the vast majority of people anymore. Plus the potential employers won’t know her age until she fills out the paperwork.

As they say, “60 is the new 40”. My own mother is 65 and finished the Boston Marathon this past spring.

+1. And please ignore the idiot posters trying to shame you, OP. All nannies know the job will end. We don’t follow our charges to college.

And so many parents are liking for the no-drama and experience of an older nanny. Plus she won’t be addicted to her damn phone.

Every Nanny, if she is honest w/herself knows that eventually her time w/a certain family will end.
Especially once the children grow up + attend school.

Or at the very least, end up w/a significant pay cut.

It’s the nature of the job.
I would just tell the Nanny sooner rather than later, offer to be a glowing reference for her resume & offer her a nice monetary or homemade gift as an act of goodwill.

You can afford her, you just don't want to.

Wow I’m so happy to hear that you (bosses) are concerned and thoughtful of your nannies .

I worked for a family over 8 years and love the children like my own. I took care the children during sick, diarrhea, ear infection, vomit, colic, refused to take bottles and kept in my home when mom had to travel for work. They just left for vacation without a thank you note. I was fine until my nanny friends asked me if the family did anything nice for me. I know I was just a nanny but my family and friends know how much I cared and helped them and they didn’t even give me a thank you card. Parents also know that I love and care about their children and that’s why I was with them for that many years. Children will start full day school so they don’t need me .

I don’t see it as an issue anymore. Our nanny is 67, amazing - and in brilliant health - was hired by us at 66. The upshot is no need for healthcare insurance!

Yes, some parents do suffer from ageism but not the vast majority of people anymore. Plus the potential employers won’t know her age until she fills out the paperwork.

As they say, “60 is the new 40”. My own mother is 65 and finished the Boston Marathon this past spring.

I hope you don’t need your nanny for sick days or the summer