Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 13:42     Subject: Opinions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t get over it at all op! These people are rude on this board. Your boss is a rude bitch and I’m actually on the verge of quitting myself for similar reasons after 3 years. My employers especially DB will act like I’m a cushion on the sofa and only talk to the 18 month old and never ask me about his day or how I’m doing after being there 8am - 6pm and having a 4 and 6 year old brother too. It’s disgusting behavior to display to people that essentially raise your children for you.

You have every right to feel slighted. My nanny family has gotten increasingly comfortable the more responsibility I take on and treating me ruder by the week.



Stop using phrases like “nanny family” (they are not your family) and “DB” (he isn’t your dad). These are strictly employers and not friends or family. You love your charge but never the employers.

For me, as a nanny, making these distinctions really helped make my life easier and my job more enjoyable.

If your employers are rude - that’s on them. Greet them everyday with a smile and cheerful greeting and stop caring about what they give back to you. As a PP wrote above, their lack of social graces is on them. If they are rude to you - who cares? You know your own worth.


The terms Nanny family, Dad boss and Mom boss have been used on this board for ages and everyone knows what the terms mean. Stay on topic please.

And just because you like to be disrespected and suck it up doesn’t mean other nannies feel the same way. Knowing your own worth doesn’t mean a thing if you still allow others to mistreat you. “I know my own worth, but SHHHHH! It’s a secret!” Gmafb
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 13:40     Subject: Opinions
OP here. I personally think she should have asked me how the girls day was.As the was things that day she needed to be informed about. I had to text her after I left. I was not upset she didn't say hi & my name. I just thought since I spend 50 to 60 hours week taking care of her children. It's important we communicate. She just never dose its starting to get to me.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 12:53     Subject: Opinions
Was it a one time thing? If yes, you get over it and move on.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 12:32     Subject: Opinions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t get over it at all op! These people are rude on this board. Your boss is a rude bitch and I’m actually on the verge of quitting myself for similar reasons after 3 years. My employers especially DB will act like I’m a cushion on the sofa and only talk to the 18 month old and never ask me about his day or how I’m doing after being there 8am - 6pm and having a 4 and 6 year old brother too. It’s disgusting behavior to display to people that essentially raise your children for you.

You have every right to feel slighted. My nanny family has gotten increasingly comfortable the more responsibility I take on and treating me ruder by the week.



Stop using phrases like “nanny family” (they are not your family) and “DB” (he isn’t your dad). These are strictly employers and not friends or family. You love your charge but never the employers.

For me, as a nanny, making these distinctions really helped make my life easier and my job more enjoyable.

If your employers are rude - that’s on them. Greet them everyday with a smile and cheerful greeting and stop caring about what they give back to you. As a PP wrote above, their lack of social graces is on them. If they are rude to you - who cares? You know your own worth.


This. Maybe she had a bad day and needed a few minutes to decompress and talk to someone about it. Call your own mom or dad if you want to talk about something. This is a job, not your family, not your kids, and not your parents. Boundaries. You are there to do a job for a paycheck.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 12:28     Subject: Opinions
Anonymous wrote:Don’t get over it at all op! These people are rude on this board. Your boss is a rude bitch and I’m actually on the verge of quitting myself for similar reasons after 3 years. My employers especially DB will act like I’m a cushion on the sofa and only talk to the 18 month old and never ask me about his day or how I’m doing after being there 8am - 6pm and having a 4 and 6 year old brother too. It’s disgusting behavior to display to people that essentially raise your children for you.

You have every right to feel slighted. My nanny family has gotten increasingly comfortable the more responsibility I take on and treating me ruder by the week.



Stop using phrases like “nanny family” (they are not your family) and “DB” (he isn’t your dad). These are strictly employers and not friends or family. You love your charge but never the employers.

For me, as a nanny, making these distinctions really helped make my life easier and my job more enjoyable.

If your employers are rude - that’s on them. Greet them everyday with a smile and cheerful greeting and stop caring about what they give back to you. As a PP wrote above, their lack of social graces is on them. If they are rude to you - who cares? You know your own worth.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 12:21     Subject: Opinions
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get over it. It's one moment. You're the employee. The girls are HER CHILDREN. This doesn't matter.


You must be the rude bitch OP is talking about.

OP, I cannot believe this is the first time she has treated you so rudely and, personally, I would be looking for a new job.


I'm not, but when I walk in from work, I yell hello to whoever is in the house. I have two girls and a dog barrelling towards me, and the girls are yelling over each other trying to tell me things, with a dog jumping up and down and barking. Luckily my nanny doesn't stand on ceremony waiting to be greeted personally.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 11:30     Subject: Opinions
Don’t get over it at all op! These people are rude on this board. Your boss is a rude bitch and I’m actually on the verge of quitting myself for similar reasons after 3 years. My employers especially DB will act like I’m a cushion on the sofa and only talk to the 18 month old and never ask me about his day or how I’m doing after being there 8am - 6pm and having a 4 and 6 year old brother too. It’s disgusting behavior to display to people that essentially raise your children for you.

You have every right to feel slighted. My nanny family has gotten increasingly comfortable the more responsibility I take on and treating me ruder by the week.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 10:23     Subject: Re:Opinions
I had an employer like that years ago. Let it roll off your back, OP. It’s a form of social ineptitude on her part and has nothing to do with you.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 07:44     Subject: Re:Opinions
Yes its rude. Question is what do you want to do about it.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 07:34     Subject: Opinions
I had a boss like this. I wouldn't put up with it now. You deserve much better OP.
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 03:53     Subject: Opinions
I would have found it disrespectful as well.

Like, am I that invisible to her??!
Anonymous
Post 07/25/2019 02:21     Subject: Opinions
Anonymous wrote:Get over it. It's one moment. You're the employee. The girls are HER CHILDREN. This doesn't matter.


You must be the rude bitch OP is talking about.

OP, I cannot believe this is the first time she has treated you so rudely and, personally, I would be looking for a new job.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2019 23:58     Subject: Opinions
Um yes get over it. If she doesn’t say hi, then YOU say hi.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2019 19:37     Subject: Opinions
Get over it. It's one moment. You're the employee. The girls are HER CHILDREN. This doesn't matter.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2019 19:23     Subject: Opinions
I am a nanny & wanted to get others opinions. Today at the end of my 10 hour day with 17 month old twins & 3 & half year old. Mom walked in play room with phone said "hi" to girls then didn't say anything to me & then said "I am done working. I am going to call Grandma." She has phone on her ear then starts talking on phone. I personally found it very rude that she didn't acknowledge sme or ask how her children day was.