Anonymous
Post 01/15/2020 18:23     Subject: Slurp Crunch
Anonymous wrote:You address it by addressing your own issues and keeping your mouth shut. This is supposed to be a cultural exchange, right?


Maybe our part of the exchange is to show them that in America, we tell people to eat with their mouths closed. Ever considered that?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2020 18:21     Subject: Re:Slurp Crunch
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This totally gets to me too. Google misophonia. Our current makes noises like "ummm" as she's eating. Nails on a chalkboard.


My foreign MIL does the umm thing, and it's unnerving in how sexual it sounds. I fixed this by minimizing meals together.


OMG me too! I lie to her and tell her that restaurants have "no sex sounds" rules.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2020 12:52     Subject: Slurp Crunch
Our Au Pair chews ice with her mouth open and my kids have started doing it!!! Argh.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2019 07:24     Subject: Slurp Crunch
Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand it and I’m going to have to add it to screening qualifications. Bad table manners make my hair stand on end!!!![/quote

It's not really "bad table manners" if it's common in their home country. It is ok to let them know that it is considered rude in the US -- imagine them at restaurants, job interviews if they come back, etc ...

We only host French APs, and it's normal to lick your knife. I don't want my kids to start doing that, so I address it. I also use a lot of positive praise towards my kids during dinner because they're still learning table manners. So OP could try praising her kids for keeping their mouths closed or eating soup quietly.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 04:27     Subject: Re:Slurp Crunch
Anonymous wrote:This totally gets to me too. Google misophonia. Our current makes noises like "ummm" as she's eating. Nails on a chalkboard.


Wonder what traits of yours drive others crazy? Do they perhaps drive the AP crazy too?
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 20:31     Subject: Re:Slurp Crunch
Anonymous wrote:This totally gets to me too. Google misophonia. Our current makes noises like "ummm" as she's eating. Nails on a chalkboard.


My foreign MIL does the umm thing, and it's unnerving in how sexual it sounds. I fixed this by minimizing meals together.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 15:34     Subject: Re:Slurp Crunch
This totally gets to me too. Google misophonia. Our current makes noises like "ummm" as she's eating. Nails on a chalkboard.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 08:40     Subject: Re:Slurp Crunch
If she is lovely in all other ways then consider yourself fortunate.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 00:09     Subject: Slurp Crunch
I cannot stand it and I’m going to have to add it to screening qualifications. Bad table manners make my hair stand on end!!!!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 21:57     Subject: Slurp Crunch
My mom is from Philadelphia and she has always talked with a mouth full of food at meals. It's cultural
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2019 15:07     Subject: Slurp Crunch
Well, I get that it's annoying but don't be rude by telling her.
It looks natural to her (maybe! I don't anything about vietnamese people).
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2019 13:49     Subject: Re:Slurp Crunch
My AP does this as well. She also talks with a mouth full of food. I do think it's a cultural thing (mine is from Thailand) I've just learned to live with it.
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2019 13:38     Subject: Slurp Crunch
The chewing with mouth open thing would get on my nerves.
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2019 13:02     Subject: Slurp Crunch
You address it by addressing your own issues and keeping your mouth shut. This is supposed to be a cultural exchange, right?
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2019 12:46     Subject: Slurp Crunch
Our new AP is lovely with one exception: she seems unable to consume foods or liquids without making noise. Sluuuurp. Crunch. Sluuurp. Suck. Crunch. She chews with her mouth wide open...I think on purpose. My husband said this is cultural (Vietnamese). I can’t handle it. How have people addressed this?