Anonymous
03/21/2019 14:56
Subject: Nanny and ex DH
Ask the nanny directly, be sure to be friendly and open so that she feels that she can be honest with you. Keep in mind that she knows that she would lose her job if she and your ex can’t get along, so she may be wary. Also ask your ex, but I’m a less direct way, “How are things going with Nanny? She asked me about next Wednesday; are the two of you chatting about the schedule?” Good luck!
Anonymous
03/19/2019 17:35
Subject: Nanny and ex DH
Does your new partner by any chance have children of his own?
Perhaps he just doesn’t know how to deal w/a Nanny at all.
Or since he is new in the picture, maybe the Nanny just needs to warm up to him a little more.
These things may take some time....
Or she may feel as if he treats her like the “help.”
Perhaps he just doesn’t know how to deal w/a Nanny at all.
Or since he is new in the picture, maybe the Nanny just needs to warm up to him a little more.
These things may take some time....
Or she may feel as if he treats her like the “help.”
Anonymous
03/17/2019 12:14
Subject: Re:Nanny and ex DH
1. It’s better to have cohesion between parents. That may mean one parent talking to the other before talking to the nanny, or nanny always talks to just one and into is relayed.
I’m doing this. One parent is paying me for the whole year, including when kids are with the other parent. So, all communication goes through the paying parent.
2. Something happened. She could have witnessed something, with or without your child. She could have had an argument, he may have made a pass or she could have been demeaned unintentionally. Without asking you won’t know.
My DB is casually demeaning, without realizing. He’s just clueless that stating that x will take care of kids on their day off, and never asking if they’re available or asking how much it would cost is very entitled and inappropriate.
I’m doing this. One parent is paying me for the whole year, including when kids are with the other parent. So, all communication goes through the paying parent.
2. Something happened. She could have witnessed something, with or without your child. She could have had an argument, he may have made a pass or she could have been demeaned unintentionally. Without asking you won’t know.
My DB is casually demeaning, without realizing. He’s just clueless that stating that x will take care of kids on their day off, and never asking if they’re available or asking how much it would cost is very entitled and inappropriate.
Anonymous
03/17/2019 05:26
Subject: Nanny and ex DH
Nanny has been with us several years and always been great with our DS.
My husband and I split at the middle of last year and now live separately and have new partners.
Problem is I am sensing problems between my nanny and my ex. They just don't seem
to communicate and she goes through me for everything. Not only that but when I mention him I can tell by her face that she doesn't like him.
Should I raise it with them both? I know nanny will be professional enough not to let it show outwardly how she feels about him but I feel something has happened and she clearly doesn't like him.
Without going into details it was me who had the affair which ended our marriage, not him so it's nothing to do with that.
My husband and I split at the middle of last year and now live separately and have new partners.
Problem is I am sensing problems between my nanny and my ex. They just don't seem
to communicate and she goes through me for everything. Not only that but when I mention him I can tell by her face that she doesn't like him.
Should I raise it with them both? I know nanny will be professional enough not to let it show outwardly how she feels about him but I feel something has happened and she clearly doesn't like him.
Without going into details it was me who had the affair which ended our marriage, not him so it's nothing to do with that.