It sounds like you had agreed to a 4 day week, with the 5th day being devoted.to your other business. Now you want to work a 3 day week because you also need to attend a weekly doctors appt and you don't want to lose the other day due to your business making good money.

If that's the case , I don't really blame the mom for being annoyed about having to find someone for one day a week. It's hard enough finding someome you trust, let alone someone who wants to work one day a week. I assume you will agree to only being paid for 3 days

I agree with the others, it’s not clear what is happening schedule wise. What I am assuming is that they negotiate what 4 days they need, then let you know which days you’ll be working. If that is the case, I would expect that you are being paid a premium to be available 5 days while only working 4. If that is all correct, then you can lower your rate temporarily while you lower your flexibility.

I'm not clear on this either. Which is happening:

(1) You all agreed on a four-day work week, but one family now wants you to work five days a week.

(2) You all agreed on a four-day work week, but the day off wasn't set, and you now want to have every Wednesday off.

(3) You agreed on a four-day work week, but you now want to switch to a three-day work week.

Anonymous wrote:I am confused. You all agreed on a 4 day work week but not one of the families wants a 5th day? or are you just not agreeing on what day off to have?

Me too.

Have you always had Wednesday off and you told your employer that you need them off for sure now and your boss used to occasionally call you in on this day & still wants to leave it open just in case you are needed?

If that is indeed the case -
She is in the wrong on this one.

I am confused. You all agreed on a 4 day work week but not one of the families wants a 5th day? or are you just not agreeing on what day off to have?

I don’t work M-F and nannies cut back hours all the time for appointments. My business is a big chunk of my income and I’m not going to cut that out because they, I’m sorry, SHE, doesn’t want to seek additional help for 1 day on OCCASIONS because she doesn’t work every Wednesday. It isn’t my business what she does on her appointments, however, if you’re not working I’m not going to come in just so you can go to appointments and risk losing my other clients. I also have to be considerate of the other person who will be accompany me on these visits and Wednesday’s work best for us so they will have to figure it out. Thanks for your input. I’ve made these families a priority numerous times, especially, this one and at the end of the day, I’ll need to do what works best for me.

If you were hired m-f then you are the problem. Not your business what she does on her appts. You sound entitled.

So, I work 4 days per week in a nanny share. I have business obligations that I tend to on my off days and don’t typically know if I’m needed on-site until a few days prior, so scheduling things way in advance is not an option for me. Now I have medical related appointments that I may or may not have to have on a weekly basis. The next month is already scheduled for every Wednesday. So, I have requested to drop this day because I know both families always work on the other days.

Family one is flexible and it seems to not be an issue for them but because the other family needs more flexibility, it’s become a problem. I spoke to the mom (with the problem) today and she mentioned and I quote “I have weekly appointments and also may need to work more on that day.” I have no idea what her appointments are for and it’s really none of my business and not to say it’s not important but they are aware of why I need to attend these appointments and how it’s a priority-doctors orders. She also mentioned not having family in the area and me being their family and that she doesn’t know about having another person take care of her daughter, whom will be 3 in May. She talked about her daughter having anxiety, which, is understood, however, she will more than likely be attending school this fall so what do you think she’s going to be like when she’s not with me all day? I see hair appointments for 4 hours on the calendar etc. and I’m like I’m not going to miss an appointment or not handle my business so you can go get your hair done or so you can attend your own personal appointments. If she was actually going to work I could be sympathetic.

I’m not asking any questions here more like a vent but feel free to chime in with your thoughts or how you would handle this situation. I feel like because it’s temporary, if you want to retain me in the long run, you would work it out. You have more than a months notice and now you’re putting the share in this awkward place becuse your really thinking about yourself. Tons of family have additional caregivers or have Full-Time and part time nannies. You are adding stress to a case that’s already stressful not knowing what the outcome will be with my situation. FYI I am not at all disabled and am physically capable of caring for the children.