Anonymous wrote:To put it bluntly:
1. You're allowing it to happen.
2. Ask for clothes. They can't read your mind.
3. Ask for appropriate clothes. They can't read your mind.
4. Insinuated? Not good enough. Spell things out. You should have a written contract.
5. How do you know about any of this? As an aside, if she's old enough for potty training, she shouldn't be in a high chair.

Don't compare yourself to a daycare unless you're licensed like one.

This sounds like it came from another neglectful parent. I think you really need to look for another position. Anyone who isn't taking your needs or their childs needs into account is clearly very self centered.

While I agree communication could be helpful for some things, it seems you have gone too far down a bad road to recover with this family.

Next time make sure you have a contract and are paid by the hour. If it costs more to leave their child with you for extra hours they will think twice.

Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:To put it bluntly:
1. You're allowing it to happen.
2. Ask for clothes. They can't read your mind.
3. Ask for appropriate clothes. They can't read your mind.
4. Insinuated? Not good enough. Spell things out. You should have a written contract.
5. How do you know about any of this? As an aside, if she's old enough for potty training, she shouldn't be in a high chair.

Don't compare yourself to a daycare unless you're licensed like one.

1. To a sense yes you're probably right as I havent spoken up about the issues bugging me.
2. Ask for clothes?! It's their child!! She has accidents with them, they have back up clothes for her do they not? That's common sense to me, as I'm a parent too!!
3. Again, read above! She shouldn't be wearing pants that come to her knee caps in the dead of winter, no shoes, socks or jacket!
4. I dont have a contract, so yes probably my fault there as well. This one isnt a huge issue as I enjoy the time off and the money doesn't effect my household as much as it might others.
5. That they're not helping with potty training. Because they've told me if they're too occupied they havent really worked with her because they were busy. She just turned two so why isnt a high chair ok? She is still under the weight limit. Should I let her just run around my home to eat? Because she won't sit still at the table either.

Have you had your coffee this morning or did you just wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning? Good grief I asked for advice not to be bashed!

To put it bluntly:
1. You're allowing it to happen.
2. Ask for clothes. They can't read your mind.
3. Ask for appropriate clothes. They can't read your mind.
4. Insinuated? Not good enough. Spell things out. You should have a written contract.
5. How do you know about any of this? As an aside, if she's old enough for potty training, she shouldn't be in a high chair.

Don't compare yourself to a daycare unless you're licensed like one.

I think you need to talk to hem about it. Say that you are doing more hours than agreed so need to discuss the weekly amount changing as well.
And tell them that you need 2 changes of clothes to keep at your house.

Look for another position. You know what you need to do. Just keep rereading your list.

I think I've kept my irritations to myself too long and my resentments are starting to boil over, thus I'm considering leaving my nanny position. (We have a slightly different set up than my previous nanny positions, I keep their daughter in my home.) Because I'm having a few issues I'll list them in order that they began to happen;
1. Pick up/drop off: pick up times started to become later and later. I was scheduled until around 6, then it became 6:30, 7, even 8:30 on occasions. Drop off times got earlier, first a few minutes, then 10, 20, 30 and on occasions they'd call wanting to know if they could drop her off hours early for appointments a few days a week.
2. They wanted me to start potty training but they're not helping at home. They don't send her any changes of clothes either. She's dropped off with wet and/or soiled diapers.
3. They don't pack her weather or size appropriate clothing, often times I put my child's clothes/shoes on her so she has something that fits.
4. I'm not paid what I was told upfront. I was told I'd be paid a flat rate weekly rate no matter what hours I worked. It seemed to be fair for short weeks I still knew what I'd bring home and for the long weeks they weren't spending a small fortune. Also it was insinuated I'd be paid for any vacation time they took. However on short weeks they want to pay me less and for the various vacations they've taken I havent been paid for one. Daycares won't hold a childcare spot if they're not paid weekly just because you're on vacation, why should I be expected to? I also have not recieved a raise or holiday bonuses that I did with other employers.
5. They have no discipline/structure in their home for her and its spilling over into my home. She goes to bed when she wants and wakes up when she wants (in the middle of the night if she pleases and gets to stay up). She will get up and eat in the middle of the night, play, tear their house apart etc. while their sleeping. I feel that its unsafe and also allowing her act out when I try to enforce a little structure. (Such as eating in a high chair, scheduled nap times, asking her to help clean up, etc.)
So if you're still with me, thanks for taking time to read through that! If you have any advice I'd greatly appreciate it! I love being able to stay home with my children and bring home a check to help financially even though my husband has insisted we dont need the extra income. I'm not sure if this working relationship will work much longer or if I should go ahead and look for another position.