After Christmas is fine. And if you give a months notice at least you're good.

Youbshoukd have told her the day you decided that you were putting child in preschool because you could no longer afford her. You are a horrible person.

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Interesting suggestions, 16:33. If she leaves early, DS can actually start early at the school, so I’m not worried about that. We picked the start date that’s most convenient for the school, but if his nanny needs to leave sooner, we can work that out.

I would tell her now to give her time to find a new job that is a good fit if you have a back up plan.

Tell her now.

OP again. Interesting suggestions, 16:33. If she leaves early, DS can actually start early at the school, so I’m not worried about that. We picked the start date that’s most convenient for the school, but if his nanny needs to leave sooner, we can work that out.

This is OP. That prior comment was not to the immediately preceding PP but the one before!

OP, I'd prefer to know after Christmas if I were the nanny. It'll still be 4-5 weeks of notice.

Ok, PP. The contract says we give 2 weeks notice. I know 2 MONTHS in advance that her employment is ending. Are you really suggesting I only give her 2 weeks notice because that’s what the contract says? I’m not going to follow your suggestion.

I was given 6 months and I stayed the duration, but would have left early if an amazing job had popped up. Are you giving a holiday bonus? Do you plan to give a parting bonus? I recommend telling nanny as soon as possible, though it might go over better with her holiday bonus, and offering a retention bonus (and telling her what that will be) in leu of a parting bonus.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I need to check the contract, but whether I tell her now or after Christmas, it will still be much earlier than what’s required by the contract. My question is more about human decency. I can’t decode which is the more kind option.

You are as full of it as a Christmas goose! If you have a contract that says how much notice each of you should give, then you follow contract
You are looking for the cheapest way, just admit it.

You tell her immediately and if she finds a new job before your end date, tough.

*decide

This is OP. I need to check the contract, but whether I tell her now or after Christmas, it will still be much earlier than what’s required by the contract. My question is more about human decency. I can’t decode which is the more kind option.

The sooner the better is always nice, but after the holidays would work too. What's in your contract? I said two weeks notice would be given and our nanny would give us two weeks if she found another job as well.

We need to move DS to full day preschool and let his nanny go for financial reasons. We LOVE his nanny but can no longer afford her. He just got offered a spot but won’t start for a couple of months. My impulse is to tell his nanny immediately so that she can start making other plans, but it’s less than 2 weeks before Christmas. This is a terrible time of year to hear that you’re losing your job. Should I wait until after the holiday? I don’t know which is the kind thing to do.