Anonymous wrote:Is it because you don't want to be caught on your cellphone? I interviewed over 10 nannies who were ok with work at home parents. News flash there are plenty of nannies available and it's becoming very common for parents to work at home.

Yes, the WAH thing is more and more common. I think nannies who rule out such employers are being shortsighted.

On the other hand WAH parents should really have a private office away from the children's bedrooms and play areas. It's very unprofessional to have children crying, yelling or just being noisy, loquacious kids in the background when you are on a call. Apart from the impact on the nanny/child activities, it makes the parent employee seem distracted.

Is it because you don't want to be caught on your cellphone? I interviewed over 10 nannies who were ok with work at home parents. News flash there are plenty of nannies available and it's becoming very common for parents to work at home.

Nannies, just say no to SAHPs.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t even explain how annoying this is! I’m in a situation like this and I’m putting in my notice because I can’t take it anymore. OP, you nailed it. It’s fine when they’re younger, but when they get a little older, the presence of a parent just makes things unbelievably harder.

Do you think the parent(s) would be open to your suggestions? Like having them put the child down for nap? This would be the only way I could deal with it (I can go clean up, eat my lunch etc.,) or you can relieve me early so you can have extra time with your child.

On a schedule, not with you sitting and waiting for 15+ minutes to see if you should just start. Btdt, mom wah irregularly last position, kids were in preschool and elementary. She only would wah a few days if she knew she was working 9+ consecutive days and 12-16 hours each day. Her thought was that she’d see/enjoy the kids, while reality was that the kids made distracting noises, started games without checking that she would be on a conference call and continuously wanted her attention. She’d tell the kids to not leave the house without her because she wanted to take them to school/play date/whatever. So, we’d sit around for however long, waiting and kids getting into trouble because we weren’t supposed to start anything and leave it out. If I took kids so they would be late (school or play date), she got mad at me for not waiting. If we waited to go to the park/movie/other fun thing with her, it’s be too late by the time she was ready or she’d cancel after an hour (or longer) and blame it on me, I should have just taken the kids. She did the same to dad, so at least I knew I wasn’t the issue. And she wouldn’t close the office door, use a barrier or stop light/sign. So frustrating! For me, it was rare enough that I just bit my tongue, but I learned quickly to just get them out of the house before she said wait.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t even explain how annoying this is! I’m in a situation like this and I’m putting in my notice because I can’t take it anymore. OP, you nailed it. It’s fine when they’re younger, but when they get a little older, the presence of a parent just makes things unbelievably harder.

Do you think the parent(s) would be open to your suggestions? Like having them put the child down for nap? This would be the only way I could deal with it (I can go clean up, eat my lunch etc.,) or you can relieve me early so you can have extra time with your child.

I can’t even explain how annoying this is! I’m in a situation like this and I’m putting in my notice because I can’t take it anymore. OP, you nailed it. It’s fine when they’re younger, but when they get a little older, the presence of a parent just makes things unbelievably harder.

Anonymous wrote:It's sounds like you're not suited for the job op. I work from home because surprise I want to spend more time with my son! I do not come out of my office every 10 minutes. You have to understand we love our children and it's hard not to see them if we get a break. My work is very intense so for me I may have 15 minutes to come out during the day.

Wow, you have a major chip on your shoulder, PP! Do you honestly think OP is talking about 15 minutes a day? Stop your whining.

I am with my second long term WFH parents. Personally, it works just fine for me. I have enough authority and confidence to say, “I known you want to read with mommy, but we need to get our shoes on now. You can ask mommy to help or I can do it.” Or if we have the time, I see the value in the children having time with the parents, as well as the children seeing the parents and I working together. I don’t hesitate to say no to the children in front of the parents and continue my job as normal. If there is a time where the interruption is too disruptive, I speak up and we work through it so that it works for everyone. I have no problem with the attitude of the mother that commented earlier, and mostly agree.

I really appreciate that my current employers just step back when they are there. It makes it so much easier on my charge and keeps her on task. Everyone is happier.

OP, I have been in your position once before. Can you talk to your employers about how to better handle things when everyone is present?

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Anonymous wrote:It's sounds like you're not suited for the job op. I work from home because surprise I want to spend more time with my son! I do not come out of my office every 10 minutes. You have to understand we love our children and it's hard not to see them if we get a break. My work is very intense so for me I may have 15 minutes to come out during the day.

If you love them so much, fire the nanny, take care of your kid and do your work at night. You are a major PITA and the reason many, if not most, nannies refuse to take a job with a WAH mom

Parent

Yep!

Anonymous wrote:It's sounds like you're not suited for the job op. I work from home because surprise I want to spend more time with my son! I do not come out of my office every 10 minutes. You have to understand we love our children and it's hard not to see them if we get a break. My work is very intense so for me I may have 15 minutes to come out during the day.

And you sound like an annoying parent. If you must see your child while working from home, then you should talk with your nanny to see when it would be a good time. I’m sure you don’t have people come to your work (or your office at home) and disrupt your schedule or tell you how to do your job. Sitting in the living room for hours while I am trying to do my job is just unacceptable. If you need to see your child during the hours I’m working, I would be okay if you volunteered to put him/her down for nap (that’s quality time) you can read stories, lay in the bed, sit in the rocking chair etc., DON’T JUST SIT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ROOM. If you see that they’re being clingy or crying, then EXIT AND LET ME DO MY JOB. You are the reason I would never agree to work with a stay at home parent.

Anonymous wrote:It's sounds like you're not suited for the job op. I work from home because surprise I want to spend more time with my son! I do not come out of my office every 10 minutes. You have to understand we love our children and it's hard not to see them if we get a break. My work is very intense so for me I may have 15 minutes to come out during the day.

If you love them so much, fire the nanny, take care of your kid and do your work at night. You are a major PITA and the reason many, if not most, nannies refuse to take a job with a WAH mom

Parent

Anonymous wrote:It's sounds like you're not suited for the job op. I work from home because surprise I want to spend more time with my son! I do not come out of my office every 10 minutes. You have to understand we love our children and it's hard not to see them if we get a break. My work is very intense so for me I may have 15 minutes to come out during the day.

Parent,

You are the reason why nannies dislike our jobs. We know what your doing, and you interupting my process breaks the over-all flow. Yes its great you work from home, and you should do your work and not interfere with my own.

Nanny

It's sounds like you're not suited for the job op. I work from home because surprise I want to spend more time with my son! I do not come out of my office every 10 minutes. You have to understand we love our children and it's hard not to see them if we get a break. My work is very intense so for me I may have 15 minutes to come out during the day.

So let me do it! Parents when you're working from home or have the day off, please let your nanny do his or her job. We do this everyday!! You may think you're helping, but its ANNOYING! And for the love of god, go to another room! When they were younger I didn't mind as much but now they're at that age when they just do stuff (cry excessively, misbehave, refuse to eat, refuse to dress themselves etc.,) because a parent is present- you're actually making my job harder.