Anonymous
11/06/2018 08:22
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
If anything happens to this child, OP, they will blame you. REPORT HER IMMEDIATELY.
Anonymous
11/06/2018 00:10
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
The baby has GOT to get checked out by a doctor.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 23:18
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
Report her immediately. What if she shakes the infant when you aren't there and she probably has.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 18:28
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
Anonymous wrote:When you say "not really hard" was the baby's head flopping back and forth or was it more handling a little more roughly than usual but baby was not in real danger?
I ask because once the CPS bell is rung, there is no stopping the process and mom won't be allowed to be around baby unsupervised, they'll have to spend many many thousands on legal fees etc. This is the correct thing to happen if baby is in danger of severe injury, if it was more a rougher handling than usual but not real risk than I strongly urge talking with her to get help and putting her on alert that you noticed and are watching.
+1
Anonymous
11/05/2018 18:14
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
Anonymous wrote:Definitely call DB.
Then tell mb to go nap or garden or anything. That you’ve got both kids. Maybe you can take them on a walk around the neighborhood and just have mb stay at home with some quiet.
Anything to just give mb a breather.
DB needs to get home and somehow delicately speak to mb.
Maybe suggest that everyday from x time to y time mb take a nap, a shower, get out of the house. That you’ve got the kids. (If she stays home, you go out on a walk. She goes out you stay home.)
And while yes we aren’t the housekeepers or cleaners. But maybe ask if you can do some laundry or run the dishwasher.
She probably is feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, defeated.
I once had an mb tell me that the night before her baby wouldn’t stop crying. LO was 4 months. She said the grabbed the side of the crib and just squeezed. She was so frustrated, she felt alone,tired, angry and upset (all with herself not the baby).
I told her a lot of moms feel that way, it’s normal and you didn’t act on it. I told her that she can call me night or day when she feels that way. I asked if she wanted to nap (she still hadn’t returned to work) and she said yes. She slept the whole day and when her husband came home she woke up and explained to him what happened. I told them to order dinner,relax and just chill. That tomorrow I would start cooking dinners until things evened out.
While I added cooking to my duties, it didn’t last long.
To me we are there to help the whole family
I don’t do infants, but that’s my perspective too. I’ve looked at my employers and told them they need to go out Saturday night, I’ll be there with kids from 6 until whenever, but I don’t want to see them until at least 10 (so that kids are asleep). When I’m asked, I always brush it off and say something like kids are noticing that they haven’t gone out or similar, but many times it’s because they are arguing or being silent and kids notice that too.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 17:32
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
Definitely call DB.
Then tell mb to go nap or garden or anything. That you’ve got both kids. Maybe you can take them on a walk around the neighborhood and just have mb stay at home with some quiet.
Anything to just give mb a breather.
DB needs to get home and somehow delicately speak to mb.
Maybe suggest that everyday from x time to y time mb take a nap, a shower, get out of the house. That you’ve got the kids. (If she stays home, you go out on a walk. She goes out you stay home.)
And while yes we aren’t the housekeepers or cleaners. But maybe ask if you can do some laundry or run the dishwasher.
She probably is feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, defeated.
I once had an mb tell me that the night before her baby wouldn’t stop crying. LO was 4 months. She said the grabbed the side of the crib and just squeezed. She was so frustrated, she felt alone,tired, angry and upset (all with herself not the baby).
I told her a lot of moms feel that way, it’s normal and you didn’t act on it. I told her that she can call me night or day when she feels that way. I asked if she wanted to nap (she still hadn’t returned to work) and she said yes. She slept the whole day and when her husband came home she woke up and explained to him what happened. I told them to order dinner,relax and just chill. That tomorrow I would start cooking dinners until things evened out.
While I added cooking to my duties, it didn’t last long.
To me we are there to help the whole family
Then tell mb to go nap or garden or anything. That you’ve got both kids. Maybe you can take them on a walk around the neighborhood and just have mb stay at home with some quiet.
Anything to just give mb a breather.
DB needs to get home and somehow delicately speak to mb.
Maybe suggest that everyday from x time to y time mb take a nap, a shower, get out of the house. That you’ve got the kids. (If she stays home, you go out on a walk. She goes out you stay home.)
And while yes we aren’t the housekeepers or cleaners. But maybe ask if you can do some laundry or run the dishwasher.
She probably is feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, defeated.
I once had an mb tell me that the night before her baby wouldn’t stop crying. LO was 4 months. She said the grabbed the side of the crib and just squeezed. She was so frustrated, she felt alone,tired, angry and upset (all with herself not the baby).
I told her a lot of moms feel that way, it’s normal and you didn’t act on it. I told her that she can call me night or day when she feels that way. I asked if she wanted to nap (she still hadn’t returned to work) and she said yes. She slept the whole day and when her husband came home she woke up and explained to him what happened. I told them to order dinner,relax and just chill. That tomorrow I would start cooking dinners until things evened out.
While I added cooking to my duties, it didn’t last long.
To me we are there to help the whole family
Anonymous
11/05/2018 16:41
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
Anonymous wrote:This is so heart wrenching. Why are the parents so stressed when they have a nanny to help? Are they struggling to pay you, OP?
They are stressed because babies are BAD . You can’t discipline them and they can do whatever they please. Truly awful. Op I feel for you and your boss. Thankfully it doesn’t sound like the baby was hurt.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 16:32
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
This is so heart wrenching. Why are the parents so stressed when they have a nanny to help? Are they struggling to pay you, OP?
Anonymous
11/05/2018 16:01
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
When you say "not really hard" was the baby's head flopping back and forth or was it more handling a little more roughly than usual but baby was not in real danger?
I ask because once the CPS bell is rung, there is no stopping the process and mom won't be allowed to be around baby unsupervised, they'll have to spend many many thousands on legal fees etc. This is the correct thing to happen if baby is in danger of severe injury, if it was more a rougher handling than usual but not real risk than I strongly urge talking with her to get help and putting her on alert that you noticed and are watching.
I ask because once the CPS bell is rung, there is no stopping the process and mom won't be allowed to be around baby unsupervised, they'll have to spend many many thousands on legal fees etc. This is the correct thing to happen if baby is in danger of severe injury, if it was more a rougher handling than usual but not real risk than I strongly urge talking with her to get help and putting her on alert that you noticed and are watching.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 14:46
Subject: Re:MB shook 2 month old
Anonymous wrote:Call the father. Now! This is a huge deal and cannot be ignored. That mother needs help.
This
Anonymous
11/05/2018 14:35
Subject: Re:MB shook 2 month old
Call the father. Now! This is a huge deal and cannot be ignored. That mother needs help.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 13:29
Subject: Re:MB shook 2 month old
You are a mandatory reporter. You know the child is in danger, so make the call.
However, you also can make sure the case reflects that you think MB has PPD and you never saw this happen with the first child. With help, this family can be okay, but the investigation is to make sure the family gets the help they need.
However, you also can make sure the case reflects that you think MB has PPD and you never saw this happen with the first child. With help, this family can be okay, but the investigation is to make sure the family gets the help they need.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 11:55
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
And you tell her you will stand there while she calls, and go with her to make sure she follows through. If she does these things, you will not insist she tell the doctor she shook the baby, and you will not call CPS. But you know this baby is in danger.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 11:54
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
You have to report, but I believe you have one option to pursue before you do that. You tell MB she goes to her doctor right now, today, and gets screened for PPD or you will call CPS immediately.
You can also call DB. I think you will get fired, and then I think you call CPS.
That baby is in danger. That is what you saw.
You can also call DB. I think you will get fired, and then I think you call CPS.
That baby is in danger. That is what you saw.
Anonymous
11/05/2018 11:43
Subject: MB shook 2 month old
I have been with my family for 19 months. I started when the oldest was 3 months old. My boss just had her second child in early September. This baby is very different from his big brother and is very fussy and has severe reflux and colic. Both parents seem to be struggling with a fussy baby and often lose their patience and are overall on edge with new baby.
This morning I witnessed my boss shake the baby. Only for a bit, and not really hard but I could tell she just lost it. She put the baby down and went into her room and cried. I’m trying to call her down, and I believe the baby is ok. I’m not sure what the next steps are, I believe she may have PPD. What can I do?
This morning I witnessed my boss shake the baby. Only for a bit, and not really hard but I could tell she just lost it. She put the baby down and went into her room and cried. I’m trying to call her down, and I believe the baby is ok. I’m not sure what the next steps are, I believe she may have PPD. What can I do?