Anonymous
10/03/2018 13:14
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Nanny here-
It was totally inappropriate and disrespectful for your nanny to roll her eyes at you. Your body, your baby, your choice.
However, I think now it's time to wean and tryouts are breastfeeding for you not your kid. But that's really none of my business and if you want to breastfeed until your child is 5 then have a good time. How is this affecting the nanny's life??
It was totally inappropriate and disrespectful for your nanny to roll her eyes at you. Your body, your baby, your choice.
However, I think now it's time to wean and tryouts are breastfeeding for you not your kid. But that's really none of my business and if you want to breastfeed until your child is 5 then have a good time. How is this affecting the nanny's life??
Anonymous
10/03/2018 12:48
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Fire her immediately
Anonymous
10/03/2018 10:11
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Anonymous wrote:Whatever I believe (or your nanny believes) about how long you should or shouldn't nurse is irrelevant. He is your child, and you are her boss. I would not tolerate this.
"Nanny, your opinion on this is clear but I intend to nurse Jack as long as I wish. I would prefer no further discussion of this until I ask for your advice in making a change. I trust you will respect my right to parent, and nurse, as I see fit."
If I were your nanny and you spoke to me like this, you'd be looking for a new nanny.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 10:08
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Anonymous wrote:My toddler is 22 months and his favorite thing in the world is to nurse. My nanny keeps mentioning that I should put something on my nipple to discourage his love of it. All of the research points to the physical, mental and emotional benefits of breastfeeding past age 1 for both mom and baby. the WHO even recommends it to age 2. I didn't set out to nurse any of my children beyond a year, but he is my third, and all three of my kids have loved nursing. It's a big part of our special bond. When I told her that the baby still gets nutritional benefits and that it helps him stay healthy, she rolled her eyes. What do I do?!!
Any kid who can eat solid food should not be nursing. This is for you. Absolutely disgusting.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 09:21
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Oh for god's sakes. OP, when your nanny rolls her eyes at you, please please please look at her like you're confused and say "excuse me? This works for us, thanks." If she wants to get into some battle with you over breast feeding your child, then that's her problem.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 09:19
Subject: Re:Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
The entire world is encouraging you to wean your toddler, OP. Don’t put this all on your nanny. I nursed my oldest for two years exactly but wished I would have weaned before 1.5. Weaning was very traumatic to my oldest.
There are no true nutritional benefits after a year.
There are no true nutritional benefits after a year.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 09:15
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Anonymous wrote:Oh for crying out loud. There are absolutely benefits to nursing your toddler, including antibodies and concentrated nutrition. The myths about no nutritional benefits are absolute nonsense -- breastmilk doesn't lose nutritional value when the baby is older. (And I have to wonder -- are those PPs giving their kids cows' milk?!). You are absolutely not harming your child by nursing him past 12 months.
The AAP says babies should be *exclusively* breastfed for 6 months (I wonder how many of the PPs followed that recommendation?), nursed for *at least* a year, and that breastfeeding may continue after that if both mother and child want. The WHO recommendation for breastfeeding 2+ years is not based on a distinction between developing and developed countries but on studies in both types of situations.
Ignore the eye-rollers -- they don't have any more business telling you how to parent your child than your nanny does. None of us are perfect parents and we all do or don't do plenty of things that would cause eye-rolling if we were to post about them.
22:34 is right on -- if your nanny is disrespecting your request to stop bringing this issue up, then you need to let her know in no uncertain terms that this really is not her business or her place to judge.
Please read up on more recent studies. Would you keep a toddler on a bottle with formula at 22 months? Breastmilk, like formula, discouraged eating real food.
And for the transmission of antibodies for common illnesses like a cold, the virus strain must be exact which is relatively impossible since viruses mutate.
Nannies do judge like other humans judge. It is just the way things are. If OP is so sure of her conviction to extended nurse then it shouldn’t bother her in the least.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 09:03
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Oh for crying out loud. There are absolutely benefits to nursing your toddler, including antibodies and concentrated nutrition. The myths about no nutritional benefits are absolute nonsense -- breastmilk doesn't lose nutritional value when the baby is older. (And I have to wonder -- are those PPs giving their kids cows' milk?!). You are absolutely not harming your child by nursing him past 12 months.
The AAP says babies should be *exclusively* breastfed for 6 months (I wonder how many of the PPs followed that recommendation?), nursed for *at least* a year, and that breastfeeding may continue after that if both mother and child want. The WHO recommendation for breastfeeding 2+ years is not based on a distinction between developing and developed countries but on studies in both types of situations.
Ignore the eye-rollers -- they don't have any more business telling you how to parent your child than your nanny does. None of us are perfect parents and we all do or don't do plenty of things that would cause eye-rolling if we were to post about them.
22:34 is right on -- if your nanny is disrespecting your request to stop bringing this issue up, then you need to let her know in no uncertain terms that this really is not her business or her place to judge.
The AAP says babies should be *exclusively* breastfed for 6 months (I wonder how many of the PPs followed that recommendation?), nursed for *at least* a year, and that breastfeeding may continue after that if both mother and child want. The WHO recommendation for breastfeeding 2+ years is not based on a distinction between developing and developed countries but on studies in both types of situations.
Ignore the eye-rollers -- they don't have any more business telling you how to parent your child than your nanny does. None of us are perfect parents and we all do or don't do plenty of things that would cause eye-rolling if we were to post about them.
22:34 is right on -- if your nanny is disrespecting your request to stop bringing this issue up, then you need to let her know in no uncertain terms that this really is not her business or her place to judge.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 08:54
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My toddler is 22 months and his favorite thing in the world is to nurse. My nanny keeps mentioning that I should put something on my nipple to discourage his love of it. All of the research points to the physical, mental and emotional benefits of breastfeeding past age 1 for both mom and baby. the WHO even recommends it to age 2. I didn't set out to nurse any of my children beyond a year, but he is my third, and all three of my kids have loved nursing. It's a big part of our special bond. When I told her that the baby still gets nutritional benefits and that it helps him stay healthy, she rolled her eyes. What do I do?!!
Understand that most people are rolling their eyes at you, OP. And there is zero research that points to benefits after a year (and even those are small) if you live in a country with clean water. I worry that you think your bonding has anything to do with your breasts. You have a right to nurse as long as you want but there is nothing you can do about people rolling their eyes at you.
Yeah, I'm rolling my eyes at you, too. "All the research" does not support your view. Clearly, YOU like nursing. Which, fine, but don't pretend that it's necessary for nutrition or health.
Anonymous
10/03/2018 07:36
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Anonymous wrote:My toddler is 22 months and his favorite thing in the world is to nurse. My nanny keeps mentioning that I should put something on my nipple to discourage his love of it. All of the research points to the physical, mental and emotional benefits of breastfeeding past age 1 for both mom and baby. the WHO even recommends it to age 2. I didn't set out to nurse any of my children beyond a year, but he is my third, and all three of my kids have loved nursing. It's a big part of our special bond. When I told her that the baby still gets nutritional benefits and that it helps him stay healthy, she rolled her eyes. What do I do?!!
Understand that most people are rolling their eyes at you, OP. And there is zero research that points to benefits after a year (and even those are small) if you live in a country with clean water. I worry that you think your bonding has anything to do with your breasts. You have a right to nurse as long as you want but there is nothing you can do about people rolling their eyes at you.
Anonymous
10/02/2018 22:34
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Whatever I believe (or your nanny believes) about how long you should or shouldn't nurse is irrelevant. He is your child, and you are her boss. I would not tolerate this.
"Nanny, your opinion on this is clear but I intend to nurse Jack as long as I wish. I would prefer no further discussion of this until I ask for your advice in making a change. I trust you will respect my right to parent, and nurse, as I see fit."
"Nanny, your opinion on this is clear but I intend to nurse Jack as long as I wish. I would prefer no further discussion of this until I ask for your advice in making a change. I trust you will respect my right to parent, and nurse, as I see fit."
Anonymous
10/02/2018 22:15
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
Anonymous wrote:I’m rolling my eyes too.
+1. There are no nutritional benefits at this point. He is actually suffering from not getting more nutrients from food.
I say this as a mother who loved nursing. For the benefit of your child, wean him. Let him grow up.
Anonymous
10/02/2018 22:12
Subject: Re:Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
You, and your bond to your child, are more than lactating boobs. After 18 months, weaning generally gets harder for the poor child. As a friend, I would encourage you to wean your child before his second birthday.
There really are no benefits, OP. WHO recommended extended breastfeeding for third world countries without access to clean water. Your toddler should be independent and getting his fluids from cups at this point - not bottles or breasts.
Your nanny is looking out for your child.
There really are no benefits, OP. WHO recommended extended breastfeeding for third world countries without access to clean water. Your toddler should be independent and getting his fluids from cups at this point - not bottles or breasts.
Your nanny is looking out for your child.
Anonymous
10/02/2018 21:19
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
I’m rolling my eyes too.
Anonymous
10/02/2018 18:59
Subject: Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!
My toddler is 22 months and his favorite thing in the world is to nurse. My nanny keeps mentioning that I should put something on my nipple to discourage his love of it. All of the research points to the physical, mental and emotional benefits of breastfeeding past age 1 for both mom and baby. the WHO even recommends it to age 2. I didn't set out to nurse any of my children beyond a year, but he is my third, and all three of my kids have loved nursing. It's a big part of our special bond. When I told her that the baby still gets nutritional benefits and that it helps him stay healthy, she rolled her eyes. What do I do?!!