OP, how does it impact the other child? If it starts to affect the other share kid (e.g., you can’t take them on outings because you don’t know when they will arrive, problem family’s kid demands all the attention because he is tired, etc.) then I would bring it up in a sit-down meeting with both families.

“I am not able to provide high-quality care to both children when schedules are this inconsistent. I need you to commit to doing XY and Z.”

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they are not a good fit for a share. How does the other family feel about it? Is it impacting the other child? I might talk to the ofher family privately about finding a new share partner if you think they’d be open to it.

+1

I concur completely w/this.
This family just isn’t compatible w/doing a share & your best bet here would be to seek out a new share family.

The Mother mentioned sounds very wishy washy + from what you wrote, she appears to be too set in her ways to change.

They're friends

The other mom is neutral. She agrees with me (pretty much all the time) but she's like "that's on them if they want to put up with the behavior and sleeping issues." I also think besides a little attitude here and there, the other child is pretty good for 2.5- manners, super sweet, smart, potty trained etc. I am really stuck between a rock and a hard place. Don't get me wrong I love both children and I have been with them since they were infants but I don't want to cause any issues between friends by ending my contract with the ONE family- has anyone every done that? I know there is no other option-- stick it out or leave. I'm in a tough spot.

I really work with the child when he's with me but I am thinking if I step back a little and follow the parents lead, maybe they will get fed up? I don't know. It's not in my nature to just let a child do whatever he or she wants but I am out of options and tired of talking. I do have a great relationship with everyone which makes it harder but what's a girl to do?!

Thank you guys for your feedback.

I forgot to finish my sentence The mom doesn't complain or bring anything up because her kid is doing well and her and I have a great relationship. However, I think if I really start complaining she would try to put her 2 cents in to rectify the situation because she already expressed, privately, that she wants me around for a very long time

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they are not a good fit for a share. How does the other family feel about it? Is it impacting the other child? I might talk to the ofher family privately about finding a new share partner if you think they’d be open to it.

+1

I concur completely w/this.
This family just isn’t compatible w/doing a share & your best bet here would be to seek out a new share family.

The Mother mentioned sounds very wishy washy + from what you wrote, she appears to be too set in her ways to change.

They're friends

The other mom is neutral. She agrees with me (pretty much all the time) but she's like "that's on them if they want to put up with the behavior and sleeping issues." I also think besides a little attitude here and there, the other child is pretty good for 2.5- manners, super sweet, smart, potty trained etc. I am really stuck between a rock and a hard place. Don't get me wrong I love both children and I have been with them since they were infants but I don't want to cause any issues between friends by ending my contract with the ONE family- has anyone every done that? I know there is no other option-- stick it out or leave. I'm in a tough spot.

I really work with the child when he's with me but I am thinking if I step back a little and follow the parents lead, maybe they will get fed up? I don't know. It's not in my nature to just let a child do whatever he or she wants but I am out of options and tired of talking. I do have a great relationship with everyone which makes it harder but what's a girl to do?!

Thank you guys for your feedback.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they are not a good fit for a share. How does the other family feel about it? Is it impacting the other child? I might talk to the ofher family privately about finding a new share partner if you think they’d be open to it.

+1

I concur completely w/this.
This family just isn’t compatible w/doing a share & your best bet here would be to seek out a new share family.

The Mother mentioned sounds very wishy washy + from what you wrote, she appears to be too set in her ways to change.

Sounds like they are not a good fit for a share. How does the other family feel about it? Is it impacting the other child? I might talk to the ofher family privately about finding a new share partner if you think they’d be open to it.

Mom just does whatever she wants and considering they’re not the only family and the child is not the only child involved, I wish she would get it together. We have had numerous discussions (one just last week) on how we can work together to get the child to behave AND sleep better but she says one thing and does another- the dad totally agrees with me and at times seems to be frustrated as well with mom going back on her word. The child is a little over 2 and is off the hook! His schedule is all over the place and I’ve tried to stress how important it is for him to be on a schedule, especially because it’s a share and we go by a schedule. Sometimes I tell them we’re leaving at a specific time, just so he can be dropped off early so he can be on the same schedule as the other child. It’s sooo frustrating when a parent does whatever he/she wants with no consideration of the other child, family or nanny who is trying to keep a system.

FYI mom goes to work late (or has guest in town) and either drops off late or keeps the child for days at a time. Dad goes to work early so he drops off and says he has no problem dropping off at a specific time everyday. There’s really nothing I can do but now I’m like whatever- bring him whenever, I will let him sleep whenever, act whatever way he wants and I will report it to the parents each day. I’m just over it and at this point I’m really like PLEASE STOP ASKING ME WHAT “WE” CAN DO WHEN IVE BEEN TELLING YOU FOR OVER A YEAR!