OP, it goes both ways when someone is hurt/being overly emotional. We gave our nanny six months notice that we were moving to CA and she totally changed her attitude. She basically stopped doing the kids' laundry and when she'd do it after either my husband or I mentioned it she'd just throw the clothes in the drawer rather than fold them like she used to and every load had at least one article that was put away stained; she started showing up late to work sporadically; etc., etc. We were trying to be as accommodating as possible by letting her know with as much time as possible and it totally backfired. So perhaps your boss is doing the same stupid thing. You can't fix people, you did the nice thing, so either leave early or just smile and take her money and know you won't have to deal with her soon.

I'm glad your leaving that crazy family OP! Screw them, I hope you find a nice family!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you need this reference? If you quit early, it’s a bad mark for the reference. And that’s if she’s not being petty and mean... she could decide not to say anything about the great job you did!

Nope, I don’t need her as a reference nor do I plan on using her- I don’t need any favors from her at this point. I am grateful to have helped enough families who have agreed to me using them as a reference. And honestly, the ways she’s been acting, even if I fulfilled my time, I’m scared she wouldn’t be honest.

I don’t understand. You’ve worked for her for over six million NYU’s, otherwise you wouldn’t have given one month of notice, yet you don’t need to be able to document that this is your most recent family?

I don't understand (highlighted).

However, I gave one months noticed because I was being nice and I knew that after a specific date, I would no longer be able to care for her children. This is only a part-time position and I have 2 other families I work with (FT), and we have an excellent relationship- so I don't need her as a reference. I also still babysit for previous families.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you need this reference? If you quit early, it’s a bad mark for the reference. And that’s if she’s not being petty and mean... she could decide not to say anything about the great job you did!

Nope, I don’t need her as a reference nor do I plan on using her- I don’t need any favors from her at this point. I am grateful to have helped enough families who have agreed to me using them as a reference. And honestly, the ways she’s been acting, even if I fulfilled my time, I’m scared she wouldn’t be honest.

I don’t understand. You’ve worked for her for over six million NYU’s, otherwise you wouldn’t have given one month of notice, yet you don’t need to be able to document that this is your most recent family?

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Anonymous wrote:Smile and hide your feelings. Be overly nice, happy and helpful which will make her look all the more miserable and petty.

Seriously, OP, be happier and more upbeat than you have ever been to prove to this-bit*h that she has zero effect on you!

Hell no! If you can lose the money, I would just tell her that her behavior to you since giving notice is unacceptable, give examples, and that you will be leaving immediately. You do not have to put up with crap!

You must be young, PP.

Acting like you don’t even notice her horrid behavior and acting happier than you have ever been will get to her far more than telling her the truth. The rude MB wants to hurt OP - why give her the ability to?

This way OP preserves her reference and bugs the crap out of her rotten MB. Win/win.

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Anonymous wrote:Smile and hide your feelings. Be overly nice, happy and helpful which will make her look all the more miserable and petty.

Seriously, OP, be happier and more upbeat than you have ever been to prove to this-bit*h that she has zero effect on you!

Hell no! If you can lose the money, I would just tell her that her behavior to you since giving notice is unacceptable, give examples, and that you will be leaving immediately. You do not have to put up with crap!

This is really my attitude but I am trying to rise above.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you need this reference? If you quit early, it’s a bad mark for the reference. And that’s if she’s not being petty and mean... she could decide not to say anything about the great job you did!

Nope, I don’t need her as a reference nor do I plan on using her- I don’t need any favors from her at this point. I am grateful to have helped enough families who have agreed to me using them as a reference. And honestly, the ways she’s been acting, even if I fulfilled my time, I’m scared she wouldn’t be honest.

Anonymous wrote:Smile and hide your feelings. Be overly nice, happy and helpful which will make her look all the more miserable and petty.

Seriously, OP, be happier and more upbeat than you have ever been to prove to this-bit*h that she has zero effect on you!

Hell no! If you can lose the money, I would just tell her that her behavior to you since giving notice is unacceptable, give examples, and that you will be leaving immediately. You do not have to put up with crap!

Don’t you need this reference? If you quit early, it’s a bad mark for the reference. And that’s if she’s not being petty and mean... she could decide not to say anything about the great job you did!

Anonymous wrote:Smile and hide your feelings. Be overly nice, happy and helpful which will make her look all the more miserable and petty.

Seriously, OP, be happier and more upbeat than you have ever been to prove to this-bit*h that she has zero effect on you!

This is the best advice ever!! Do it, OP - it will kill her!

Anonymous wrote:I have heard that this is actually quite common when Nannies give notice -
Even if the notice is more than adequate.

OP, your boss is acting like an immature idiot.

I know you want to do the right thing here, but honestly I couldn’t blame you if you walked away early.
I would.

No one deserves to put up w/such rude behavior.
Especially since you did nothing wrong.
At. all.

When you get paid next, then send your boss a very brief message.
Let her know that you cannot put up w/her childish + rude attitude and that you will not be coming back.

*Note-
If you get paid via personal check, make sure to cash it before letting her know you are gone.

Best of luck to you & sorry that you have to deal w/this.

That’s ridiculous. Things happen! Ugh- thank you! I will definitely base my decision off our interactions this week. I appreciate your advice and noted- I will be sure to cash my check beforehand

I have heard that this is actually quite common when Nannies give notice -
Even if the notice is more than adequate.

OP, your boss is acting like an immature idiot.

I know you want to do the right thing here, but honestly I couldn’t blame you if you walked away early.
I would.

No one deserves to put up w/such rude behavior.
Especially since you did nothing wrong.
At. all.

When you get paid next, then send your boss a very brief message.
Let her know that you cannot put up w/her childish + rude attitude and that you will not be coming back.

*Note-
If you get paid via personal check, make sure to cash it before letting her know you are gone.

Best of luck to you & sorry that you have to deal w/this.

Anonymous wrote:Smile and hide your feelings. Be overly nice, happy and helpful which will make her look all the more miserable and petty.

Seriously, OP, be happier and more upbeat than you have ever been to prove to this-bit*h that she has zero effect on you!

Thank you! I was like this last time as she didn’t even speak to me, I had to say something first- she walked right passed me and wasn’t her normal talkative self. Didn’t even let me know someone (a man) was dropping by the house with a key. I gave her the benefit of the doubt but she never misses a beat. Thank you!

Smile and hide your feelings. Be overly nice, happy and helpful which will make her look all the more miserable and petty.

Seriously, OP, be happier and more upbeat than you have ever been to prove to this-bit*h that she has zero effect on you!

I gave my nanny family a little over one month’s notice and her attitude hasn’t been the same. I do not work full-time for this family and I am really like if this continues, I can just leave now. People leave jobs everyday and some don’t even give notice. There is no need for one to have an attitude or mistreat a person because they are leaving the position. They have another nanny, so it’s really no big deal. I’ve never resigned from a nanny position, is this how you’re treated?! I didn’t expect this attitude from her and being so nonchalant about things I’ve mentioned, especially when their kids have major behavioral issues (and super spoiled) and I’ve done everything in my power to work with their children and them; even with such little time I have with them per week.

I really feel like if her attitude isn’t better this week, this will be my last week. Any suggestions? I don’t have that long but still.