Same story here OP and i am burned out wanting to quit. The one year stops napping likewise the 4 year old.I am totally exhasuted.

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Anonymous wrote:All charges I’ve had have taken naps until age 3. Your charge might not need a map anymore so it’s hard to make a child nap when they really don’t want to or need to. I suggest doing quiet time in the child’s room with the door closed. Or if parents are ok, do tv time for 30 mins maybe twice a day while baby is sleeping

She said the 2.5 year old does nap, just not when the infant naps, which is very common.

I’m pp, and ahh I see. I read the thread now. And op, what is the baby’s schedule like? And what is the toddlers? I think it might be hard to match up no time with the infant and toddler. It seems that even if the infant is taking more than one nap then maybe you could match it up with the oldest’s nap?

Anonymous wrote:All charges I’ve had have taken naps until age 3. Your charge might not need a map anymore so it’s hard to make a child nap when they really don’t want to or need to. I suggest doing quiet time in the child’s room with the door closed. Or if parents are ok, do tv time for 30 mins maybe twice a day while baby is sleeping

She said the 2.5 year old does nap, just not when the infant naps, which is very common.

All charges I’ve had have taken naps until age 3. Your charge might not need a map anymore so it’s hard to make a child nap when they really don’t want to or need to. I suggest doing quiet time in the child’s room with the door closed. Or if parents are ok, do tv time for 30 mins maybe twice a day while baby is sleeping

i would ask your employers if you could take the kid to a class or some type of drop off play group once or twice a week.

You also need to work on nap time. It is not up to a 2.5 year old to decide when they are going to bed or taking a nap.

I’m sorry that you are exhausted with your schedule. I’ve only had one job that was less than 50 hours per week, and I’ve worked 24/7 twice. In my experience, there are people that thrive in that type of role, while there are families who make it possible. On the other hand, I average 55-65 hours in my current position, and I’m also currently exhausted. Prior to this position, I would have said that you need to find a family with less hours, but seeing for myself the difference that the kids and parents make, maybe you can ride it out, but if not, you need to find a family who makes the longer hours easier.

There’s zero reason for a 2.5 year old to entertained at every moment. Can you start doing quiet individual play time for the older child during one of the baby’s naps? In a babyproofed bedroom or playroom, you should be able to take 15-30 minutes to breathe and relax.

I work the same, OP, and you do get used to it. Give things a couple months to settle down and try to get the newborn and toddler on the same nap schedule.

I work between 50-60 hours a week, I think that is typical of most nanny jobs. I say, give it some time, you’ll adjust. Maybe work on getting the naps to overlap, even for a half hour.

I have the same work life but only four days a week. You can make it work by being very disciplined during your work week. It is okay to crash one of the weekend days but if you are too exhausted that is a different story.

Anonymous wrote:No and you are already on "scorched". Talk to employers. 52.5 hours/week is too much unless the 2nd year old starts going to day school for half a day. The money is not worth your health.

+1. I would tell them exactly what you say here, and ask if you can work together to find you an hour of downtime during the day. Then give them a few options:
1) 2-year-old goes to part time preschool
2) 2-year-old gets two 30-minute screen-time sessions during the baby's naps
3) the housekeeper watches the baby in a playpen or something for a hour while the 2-year-old naps
4) something I haven't thought of.

Once you exceed 50 hours a week, people usually suggest two nannies, one full time, one part time. It's just too much for the long haul.

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Anonymous wrote:Has any nanny done this and not burned out? I have one 2.5 yr old charge and an infant. There really is no way I can get even a 20 minute break during the day. I also manage the house (no housework beyond the kids’ laundry).

I am very tired at the end of the day and do worry about burn out. I collapse on weekends. I love my job, my employers and my charge’s and am well compensated. Will I get used to this new schedule? I have only been alone with the children since last week.

The 2.5 year old needs a rest period if he's already dropped his nap. Ideally you will get him on a schedule to nap/rest while the infant is napping and that is when you can rest. Also, what do you mean by you manage the house but only kid's laundry?

OP here. I handle all ordering and scheduling and payment for the housekeeper and personal chef. The only housework I do is the children’s laundry - the housekeeper does everything else.

The older child does still nap but that is when the baby is awake and most alert. So far, I have not had a moment during the day.

Anonymous wrote:Has any nanny done this and not burned out? I have one 2.5 yr old charge and an infant. There really is no way I can get even a 20 minute break during the day. I also manage the house (no housework beyond the kids’ laundry).

I am very tired at the end of the day and do worry about burn out. I collapse on weekends. I love my job, my employers and my charge’s and am well compensated. Will I get used to this new schedule? I have only been alone with the children since last week.

The 2.5 year old needs a rest period if he's already dropped his nap. Ideally you will get him on a schedule to nap/rest while the infant is napping and that is when you can rest. Also, what do you mean by you manage the house but only kid's laundry?

No and you are already on "scorched". Talk to employers. 52.5 hours/week is too much unless the 2nd year old starts going to day school for half a day. The money is not worth your health.

Does the child nap?

Sit down and rest when she does.

No nap?

T.V time for 1/2 an hour. You can rest then.

If you are well paid for your services then just live with it.

Has any nanny done this and not burned out? I have one 2.5 yr old charge and an infant. There really is no way I can get even a 20 minute break during the day. I also manage the house (no housework beyond the kids’ laundry).

I am very tired at the end of the day and do worry about burn out. I collapse on weekends. I love my job, my employers and my charge’s and am well compensated. Will I get used to this new schedule? I have only been alone with the children since last week.