Anonymous
03/15/2018 11:43
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It would never occur to me to stay and clean up. I wouldn't expect anyone else to, if I was hosting.
Its like dinners in our circle- hosts do meal prep and clean up. We take turns to host. No one minds.
Then expect to not get invited back that often. You have an unusual group if no one helps clean up after a play date ever.
In addition, it sounds like you have reciprocal events, where you can each benefit from the no-prep/no-clean rule. This woman has never hosted, but comes EVERY WEEK for this play date.
I guess we are unusual
Of course, if I'm at a play date/ party and I see others helping clean up, I will too....it would just not occur to me that it was expected
all I'm saying is, DC is full of a mix of people from different backgrounds and cultures. I wouldn't assume or label someone. If you want her to help, just ask her to help.
Anonymous
03/15/2018 11:34
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Anonymous wrote:It would never occur to me to stay and clean up. I wouldn't expect anyone else to, if I was hosting.
Its like dinners in our circle- hosts do meal prep and clean up. We take turns to host. No one minds.
Then expect to not get invited back that often. You have an unusual group if no one helps clean up after a play date ever.
In addition, it sounds like you have reciprocal events, where you can each benefit from the no-prep/no-clean rule. This woman has never hosted, but comes EVERY WEEK for this play date.
Anonymous
03/15/2018 11:30
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
It would never occur to me to stay and clean up. I wouldn't expect anyone else to, if I was hosting.
Its like dinners in our circle- hosts do meal prep and clean up. We take turns to host. No one minds.
Its like dinners in our circle- hosts do meal prep and clean up. We take turns to host. No one minds.
Anonymous
03/13/2018 19:58
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Lady do you need someone to hit you on the nose with something for you to get this woman is a snob? My question is this, why is the nanny constantly inviting this woman and her child to the friendly gatherings? I was a nanny and when I threw play dates I would excluded the ones who didn't help with the cleaning up. Your nanny can dismiss the play date a little early and make a game out of the cleaning up process, it's fun watching the children as they ran around collecting toys, brushes and whatever were used. And yes, she did it because she is the nanny and not a parent.
Anonymous
03/12/2018 16:23
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Totally agree w/ 21:11 and 18:42.
"hey Jane, could you clean up Susie's stuff? Thanks" - from the nanny
"Jane, could you help w/ the clean-up? Ruth is so fantastic about doing these playdates but she shouldn't have to shoulder cleaning up for everyone. Thanks." - from the MB
"Ruth, I'm going to make a point of being there for clean-up next time and I'll talk to Jane. But I want you to speak up and ask her to clean-up in the future. I love that you host these play-dates but you should not bear the burden of cleaning up everything." - From MB to nanny
All of this! Do this!
+2
Anonymous
03/12/2018 15:14
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Anonymous wrote:Totally agree w/ 21:11 and 18:42.
"hey Jane, could you clean up Susie's stuff? Thanks" - from the nanny
"Jane, could you help w/ the clean-up? Ruth is so fantastic about doing these playdates but she shouldn't have to shoulder cleaning up for everyone. Thanks." - from the MB
"Ruth, I'm going to make a point of being there for clean-up next time and I'll talk to Jane. But I want you to speak up and ask her to clean-up in the future. I love that you host these play-dates but you should not bear the burden of cleaning up everything." - From MB to nanny
All of this! Do this!
Anonymous
03/12/2018 11:23
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Totally agree w/ 21:11 and 18:42.
"hey Jane, could you clean up Susie's stuff? Thanks" - from the nanny
"Jane, could you help w/ the clean-up? Ruth is so fantastic about doing these playdates but she shouldn't have to shoulder cleaning up for everyone. Thanks." - from the MB
"Ruth, I'm going to make a point of being there for clean-up next time and I'll talk to Jane. But I want you to speak up and ask her to clean-up in the future. I love that you host these play-dates but you should not bear the burden of cleaning up everything." - From MB to nanny
"hey Jane, could you clean up Susie's stuff? Thanks" - from the nanny
"Jane, could you help w/ the clean-up? Ruth is so fantastic about doing these playdates but she shouldn't have to shoulder cleaning up for everyone. Thanks." - from the MB
"Ruth, I'm going to make a point of being there for clean-up next time and I'll talk to Jane. But I want you to speak up and ask her to clean-up in the future. I love that you host these play-dates but you should not bear the burden of cleaning up everything." - From MB to nanny
Anonymous
03/11/2018 18:42
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Anonymous wrote:To his is on you because a nanny dies not have the authority to tell the mother of these kids to clean up the messes made by their children. You need to take care of this issue.
I think she has authority to say something like "Everybody please help clean up before you leave!". Just because she is the nanny does not mean she is powerless to say something but MB backing her nanny up would be fantastic.
Anonymous
03/11/2018 17:44
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
To his is on you because a nanny dies not have the authority to tell the mother of these kids to clean up the messes made by their children. You need to take care of this issue.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 21:11
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
I'm surprised nanny doesn't say what class leaders and preschool teachers say, "OK everyone! Time to clean up! Let's help the kids do x, y, z!"
And depending on the ages, either the kids do it, help, or moms do it.
And depending on the ages, either the kids do it, help, or moms do it.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 15:40
Subject: Re:Nanny hosting a play-date
It would piss me off, too. See what happens when you start the clean up. If the rude mother doesn't help you - she is just rude.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 10:30
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
If your nanny was truly bothered by it she would stop inviting the rude woman’s daughter. I guess if you want to find out if she’s rude because nanny is hosting then you could come home early sometime and take over the end of the play date and see what happens. But really, if your nanny doesn’t like the situation, she needs to change it.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 10:10
Subject: Re:Nanny hosting a play-date
Ask your nanny to stop inviting this rude woman and child over. Your child will play with the other kids - makes no difference at that age is your girl loves the rude mother's child.
I truly hate women like this.
I truly hate women like this.
Anonymous
03/10/2018 08:55
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny hosts a weekly play-date in our backyard every week for two or three other little girls (all two years and a few months). We live in a warm weather climate so Nanny hosts outside - putting out sensory bins of water beads, dried beans, rice and shaving cream as well as toys. She also does finger painting with the kids. When it is time to leave, one mother thanks our nanny and picks up her child and goes home - leaving 100% of her child's mess for our nanny to clean up. The other mothers always offer and help. This mother leaves her kid's finger paintings and mess right on the little table even though there is a trash bag that she knows about because she always changes her child's diaper and disposes it in the trash bag.
This is really pissing me off. I cannot imagine ever doing this in someone else's house and wonder if this woman is so rude because the host is a nanny (hence - the help).
This woman also has never invited my child and Nanny to their house. Not once.
Our nanny knows this one mother is inconsiderate but continues to invite her over because my DD loves the rude woman's daughter.
I often come home early to watch the end of play-date and am wondering if I should say something to this woman.
Yes, say something. Maybe help pick up and hand her something to throw away or bring in at the same time. She might be just clueless and need direction
Anonymous
03/10/2018 08:43
Subject: Nanny hosting a play-date
Our nanny hosts a weekly play-date in our backyard every week for two or three other little girls (all two years and a few months). We live in a warm weather climate so Nanny hosts outside - putting out sensory bins of water beads, dried beans, rice and shaving cream as well as toys. She also does finger painting with the kids. When it is time to leave, one mother thanks our nanny and picks up her child and goes home - leaving 100% of her child's mess for our nanny to clean up. The other mothers always offer and help. This mother leaves her kid's finger paintings and mess right on the little table even though there is a trash bag that she knows about because she always changes her child's diaper and disposes it in the trash bag.
This is really pissing me off. I cannot imagine ever doing this in someone else's house and wonder if this woman is so rude because the host is a nanny (hence - the help).
This woman also has never invited my child and Nanny to their house. Not once.
Our nanny knows this one mother is inconsiderate but continues to invite her over because my DD loves the rude woman's daughter.
I often come home early to watch the end of play-date and am wondering if I should say something to this woman.
This is really pissing me off. I cannot imagine ever doing this in someone else's house and wonder if this woman is so rude because the host is a nanny (hence - the help).
This woman also has never invited my child and Nanny to their house. Not once.
Our nanny knows this one mother is inconsiderate but continues to invite her over because my DD loves the rude woman's daughter.
I often come home early to watch the end of play-date and am wondering if I should say something to this woman.