Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, OP here. Thanks so much for your replies, seriously! I realize that I have no choice but to confront the issue head on in some way, there’s no avoiding that.

I think maybe I’ll try bringing the kid up first, and if that doesn’t work, I can move on to confronting her about it directly in another way.

I really liked everyone’s responses and I will consider each of them, I promise! Thanks again!

How did yesterday go?

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Anonymous wrote:You need to be adult enough to say "Jane, I really need to leave on time. See you tomorrow."

Bull. OP needs to be adult enough to say, " It is my quitting time and I am leaving. Here are your children." she then leaves.

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Seems like you're recommending the exact same thing I did, albeit with a more belligerent tone.

Hi everyone, OP here. Thanks so much for your replies, seriously! I realize that I have no choice but to confront the issue head on in some way, there’s no avoiding that.

I think maybe I’ll try bringing the kid up first, and if that doesn’t work, I can move on to confronting her about it directly in another way.

I really liked everyone’s responses and I will consider each of them, I promise! Thanks again!

Anonymous wrote:You need to be adult enough to say "Jane, I really need to leave on time. See you tomorrow."

Bull. OP needs to be adult enough to say, " It is my quitting time and I am leaving. Here are your children." she then leaves.

If you need/want to leave, tell her you need to leave at X time every day. If you don't mind staying, bill her for the extra time. If I need my nanny to stay past 6 pm, I (1) ask if she can and (2) pay her for it. Five minutes every day is almost an hour per pay period - you should be getting paid for that. What we did was put a calendar on the fridge and our nanny writes when she arrives and when she leaves so that at the end of each pay period we know exactly how many hours she worked without anyone having to try to remember. You need to stick up for yourself or you'll get walked all over. And if you make it clear and she doesn't listen (or won't pay), then find someone else. There are lots of people who would never treat their nannies like that.

Anonymous wrote:You need to be adult enough to say "Jane, I really need to leave on time. See you tomorrow."

+1

Just tell her you need to leave on time.

I'd bring the kids up at quitting time. Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her in writing you have commitments immediately after work and you must leave by 5:30 at the latest, or whatever is your end time.

She shouldn’t have to share she has commitments- especially when she stated sometimes she’s just ready to go, which anyone can understand. When her shifts ends, she needs to be relieved! Or, they need to communicate if they’re going to be late (in a timely manner) and if deemed that it’s everyday, a email or conversation needs to be had about her contract and compensation for staying later.

+1. No explanation due. Doesn't matter if you have plans or not. You get off at 5:00 om then that's when you leave. Demand OT in half hiur increments i.e., if she's five minutes late you get compensated for 30 minutes.

Anonymous wrote:Tell her in writing you have commitments immediately after work and you must leave by 5:30 at the latest, or whatever is your end time.

She shouldn’t have to share she has commitments- especially when she stated sometimes she’s just ready to go, which anyone can understand. When her shifts ends, she needs to be relieved! Or, they need to communicate if they’re going to be late (in a timely manner) and if deemed that it’s everyday, a email or conversation needs to be had about her contract and compensation for staying later.

“Hey San, do you want me to bring the kids up here or are you coming downstairs?” After a few times of that, they got the picture. If it continues to be a problem, I would send an email and express the issue. Let them know (so you sound like a team player) that if they’re going to be behind to let you know 45 minutes in advance so you can make arrangements if need be. You can also create a time sheet and at the end of the week show her the OT you worked, that they need to pay you for. That should make her be on time..

You need to be adult enough to say "Jane, I really need to leave on time. See you tomorrow."

Tap on the door and say "I'm leaving in 5 minutes." If she doesn't come down go into the office at departure, purse over your shoulder and coat on and say "good night I'll see you tomorrow." If the kids are too young to leave downstairs alone leave them with her when you say good bye.

Just tell her that she needs to come down right at your end time as you have a commitment. There is no other solution, OP, but to tell her. Ask her if she needs you to call her five minutes before your end time to remind her.

Tell her in writing you have commitments immediately after work and you must leave by 5:30 at the latest, or whatever is your end time.

Every day, the mother lets me go late. She works mostly from home, and is home every afternoon, so there is no excuse. She’s literally right upstairs working on her computer when the clock ticks from my go time to 5 minutes past! Sometimes even 10.

I understand that other nannies with this problem have had to deal with parents being a half hour to an hour late or more so this problem of mine may seem trivial to some. When it’s time for me to go, though, I’m ready to go! I have other things to do and I’m counting down the minutes until I can get out of there.

It’s literally every day and she’s even joked about getting herself an alarm (as if there’s not one built on her phone)! How can she do the same thing every day and not feel bad?

I admit that because of my desire not to make things awkward, I’ve never said anything, so it’s partially my fault. But I am 2-5 minutes early every day, and you can’t get yourself down two tiny sets of stairs to free me on time? It’s common curtesy to be on time both ways. By doing this, I feel she’s taking advantage and not respecting my time.

I really need help with this. It’s driving me insane!