If the parents are not enough giving him dicipline for his extreme bad behavior then leave. I hope you find a better job OP, hugs

It is quite obvious that the parents are not going to be any help to you as you struggle w/their son’s unruly behavior.

They should have let you know at the beginning that he had behavioral issues.
Of course then, you may not have taken the job....
But I strongly believe that you should have gotten a heads-up.

Anyway, you need to tell them that you are moving on.
I would also suggest that the parents get their child evaluated as well.

Good luck.

Not a troll, but feel like pulling my hair out, so I end up looking like one. I only ask for advice because I’ve been there so little time, I wanted to see if I was I overreacting or not. Thank you for all of the advice, kinda reaffirmed where my Instinct was guiding me.

You are stupid to stay there. So stupid that you're probably a troll.

Waste no more time in this job.

This is the outcome of “positive parenting.” Some parents won’t discipline their kids for fear of “crushing their spirit.” It’s one thing if parents are too lazy to gove consequences themselves; it’s another if they won’t allow you to enforce some basic rules with consequences. I would not work with this family.

They are in denial and it will not get better. You need to look for another job.

See how some parents easily create monster children?

I once quit a job for the same reason : the 7 yo would kick me in the ankles ... that hurt a lot. The parents didn't back me up, they said he tested me because I was a new caregiver.
They wanted him to understand by himself that what he did was wrong. I wasn't allowed to tell him to stop. I quit.

Find another job. The parents are a bigger problem than the kid.

You don’t have to suffer working in a zoo.
Please quit.

Oh, please. Get the hell out of that hellhole.

For the hitting, you grab his wrists and physically stop him from hitting you. Calmly tell him, "I will not let you hurt me".

But basically - you have to quit. This job is simply bad. Start looking for a new position this weekend and give notice.

Quit, OP. If the parents don't back you up, there is nothing you can do.

Ive been a nanny on and off now for about 12 years. I have a lot of education behind my experience, and a lot of experience. I pride myself in being professional but also pretty sympathetic when it comes to dealing with children and tantrums, etc. They’re kids, I get it, it happens. No biggie. But, I’ve just started with a new family, and I’m running into some problems. They seemed ok to begin with, a few things here and there, but really, nothing I couldn’t handle. In retrospect there were some red flags, such as the kids (5 & 3) hitting the parents and the parents not disciplining them, but instead trying to talk them down ( which was ineffective.) This initially happened during my first meeting with the children before I took the job. So that one is on me. However, I’m a few weeks in now, and not only has the older child threatened to hit me, he’s actually hit me. He’a Also hit his younger sibling, more than once, kicked the youngest child, a baby, and pushed his sibling off a sofa. This is in addition to him telling me I’m stupid, I don’t know how to do my job, I’m worthless, etc, etc. He ended this by throwing a handful of legos at me, and basically running amok. He is totally unresponsive, and the only way to calm him down enough so he doesn’t hurt me, his siblings or himself is to give into what he wants. My main problem is with the parents. I feel undermined, judged and basically looked at as incompetent, even though I was hired for my professionalism and experience. After talking to the parent this morning, and basically being told that they got a different story, I found out that this behavior is fairly commonplace with their last few nannies. I suggested some things that might help the 5 year old feel in control and also help reinforce the ‘golden rules’, and suggested it be something done so there was consistency and reference, so we’re all on the same page. The parent told me essentially that he’s manipulating me, he knows the rules (even though I expressed I didn’t necessarily yet) and I should focus on positive reinforcement. They didn’t even address the hitting until I brought it up, and said that I am absolutely not ok with that. Even then there was reluctance to address it one way or another, citing tiredness, hunger and cobstipation for his behavior. Having been in this for years now, positive reinforcement is an automatic go to for me, but when you’re being hit, and then having to console a baby who’s been kicked, it’s difficult to justify positive comments that won’t be negatively reinforced. I have a lot of patience but I’m only a few weeks in and already feel like I’m at my wits end, trying to maintain composure and patience. This has never happened to me before in all the experience I’ve had. Even in group homes I’ve worked in, with autistic children, this feeling is completely new. They have been through a few nannies now, so I understand the implications on these children, but if the parents are unwilling to change, so early, is it better to cut it short and just part ways now, before it becomes too much of a stress for everyone? Any thoughts or feedback are appreciated.

Also, sorry for typos, I did this on my phone!