Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 11:20     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I nanny twin infants and last Thursday felt -out of the blue it seemed- to feel like I had been rammed by a Mac Truck. Notified MB who had her mother stay with the babies and I went to the doctor, where I tested positive for the flu and told to stay out of work until at least Wednesday.
It’s now Monday night and I have not heard a word from MB, not even a “how are you feeling.” Before this, I would have said she and I have a great working relationship. But I won’t lie, it stings a lot that it’s been radio silence from her since I got sick.
I do wonder if she will fire me over this, even though I have the sick days and PTO to more than cover this.


I'm going to guess it's total chaos at her house, and she doesn't want to bother you, either. She should have checked in, but twin infants are probably more than grandma can handle, and they're likely running around like crazy people who haven't slept.

+1 Have you reached out to your NF with an update? Since ooks like you are well enough to post here.

Posting on DCUM is not an indicator of health.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 11:17     Subject: Re:When your nanny isn't feeling well
Anonymous wrote:I trust my nanny to make the call.

Sounds like your nanny got worse as the day progressed. No one could have foreseen that - not you and not your nanny. Shit happens.

We have all started out a day feeling bad and then gotten 100% better and we have all started out a day feeling bad and then have gotten worse.



You both did the right thing. Nanny worked when she could and you took over when she got too sick.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 22:49     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I nanny twin infants and last Thursday felt -out of the blue it seemed- to feel like I had been rammed by a Mac Truck. Notified MB who had her mother stay with the babies and I went to the doctor, where I tested positive for the flu and told to stay out of work until at least Wednesday.
It’s now Monday night and I have not heard a word from MB, not even a “how are you feeling.” Before this, I would have said she and I have a great working relationship. But I won’t lie, it stings a lot that it’s been radio silence from her since I got sick.
I do wonder if she will fire me over this, even though I have the sick days and PTO to more than cover this.


I'm going to guess it's total chaos at her house, and she doesn't want to bother you, either. She should have checked in, but twin infants are probably more than grandma can handle, and they're likely running around like crazy people who haven't slept.

+1 Have you reached out to your NF with an update? Since ooks like you are well enough to post here.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 22:45     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and an adult who can make the decision for myself on whether I’m well enough to work. Worse case scenario I load everyone up and go get medicine at the store if I don’t have any with me. My problem is usually the opposite though...I tell parents I’m sick and they don’t give a rats behind and will stay out longer instead of coming home sooner.


Are you concerned about getting the children sick?

I think I'm being paranoid this year bcs of the severity of the flu and that I have an infant.
No, if I'm sick I either got it from them or they have already been exposed. I only worry when it's kids I don't see often and then I'll tell the parents and give them the choice of having me come or not. They almost universally still have me come (assuming I'm not vomiting, in which case I won't be working for anyone at all.)
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 21:49     Subject: Re:When your nanny isn't feeling well
If I’m capable of working, I leave it up to the parents.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 19:44     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
Anonymous wrote:I nanny twin infants and last Thursday felt -out of the blue it seemed- to feel like I had been rammed by a Mac Truck. Notified MB who had her mother stay with the babies and I went to the doctor, where I tested positive for the flu and told to stay out of work until at least Wednesday.
It’s now Monday night and I have not heard a word from MB, not even a “how are you feeling.” Before this, I would have said she and I have a great working relationship. But I won’t lie, it stings a lot that it’s been radio silence from her since I got sick.
I do wonder if she will fire me over this, even though I have the sick days and PTO to more than cover this.


I'm going to guess it's total chaos at her house, and she doesn't want to bother you, either. She should have checked in, but twin infants are probably more than grandma can handle, and they're likely running around like crazy people who haven't slept.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 19:26     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
I nanny twin infants and last Thursday felt -out of the blue it seemed- to feel like I had been rammed by a Mac Truck. Notified MB who had her mother stay with the babies and I went to the doctor, where I tested positive for the flu and told to stay out of work until at least Wednesday.
It’s now Monday night and I have not heard a word from MB, not even a “how are you feeling.” Before this, I would have said she and I have a great working relationship. But I won’t lie, it stings a lot that it’s been radio silence from her since I got sick.
I do wonder if she will fire me over this, even though I have the sick days and PTO to more than cover this.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 18:17     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
When I had infants I insisted the nanny go home. After 12 months, if he wanted to work I said fine.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 17:09     Subject: Re:When your nanny isn't feeling well
I trust my nanny to make the call.

Sounds like your nanny got worse as the day progressed. No one could have foreseen that - not you and not your nanny. Shit happens.

We have all started out a day feeling bad and then gotten 100% better and we have all started out a day feeling bad and then have gotten worse.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 16:53     Subject: Re:When your nanny isn't feeling well
Most MB's would rather you came to work with a cold than have to suddenly find back up care or take the day off work.
I went to work with a cold and just didnt do much on those days.
I stayed home for a week when I had a bad case of strep.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 16:31     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and an adult who can make the decision for myself on whether I’m well enough to work. Worse case scenario I load everyone up and go get medicine at the store if I don’t have any with me. My problem is usually the opposite though...I tell parents I’m sick and they don’t give a rats behind and will stay out longer instead of coming home sooner.


Are you concerned about getting the children sick?

I think I'm being paranoid this year bcs of the severity of the flu and that I have an infant.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 16:23     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
I’m a nanny and an adult who can make the decision for myself on whether I’m well enough to work. Worse case scenario I load everyone up and go get medicine at the store if I don’t have any with me. My problem is usually the opposite though...I tell parents I’m sick and they don’t give a rats behind and will stay out longer instead of coming home sooner.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 16:16     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
*flu, not fly
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 16:15     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
She likely felt mildly ill this morning, then felt progressively worse as the day went on.

W/all these horrible flu cases going around, it is very smart of you to take over now.

(Even People magazine had an article this week about this years mutiple fly cases.)

Anonymous
Post 01/29/2018 15:56     Subject: When your nanny isn't feeling well
MB here, with a 3 yo and 6 month old.

Our nanny came to work today saying she was just had a little runny nose. I asked if she wanted to go home and she said no, she was fine.

Just got a text saying she has a headache and stomachache and I'm on my way home to relieve her. I'm really regretting not forcing her to go home this morning.

Other MBs - do you send your nanny home at the first sign of illness?

Nannies - how do you make the call?