Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 15:20     Subject: Asking mb about paid activities
And this is why I will never again hire a nanny who doesn't actually need a job.

OP, why not restructure your agreement with your MB so that she isn't your MB. That is, instead of her paying you as her employee, since you bring your child anyway, set yourself up as a home daycare and charge her enough to cover whatever excursions you want to do with the children.

As a home daycare provider, you can make all the decisions, set the prices, etc.. And when this woman can't afford you, you can find another mom who can.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 15:13     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. How old is your charge? How old is your child?
2. Where are you that indoor play spaces are the ONLY possibility for several months of the year?
3. Have you guven her a schedule to show how much you intend to utilize the membership, to show her that it’s not wasted money? Have you offered to keep track of actual use age for a month so that she can evaluate whether she wants to continue?

I’ve worked in the desert, humid DC area, hot/humid gulf coast area and dry heat of the plains (feels hotter than the desert after a very cold winter). We never bought an indoor playground membership, but we went through tons of sunscreen because the kids were outside every day, unless it was below zero in the middle of the winter. Kids are adaptable, and most playgrounds in the climate you described have awnings over at least half. Keep slathering on sunscreen and have an adult-sized water bottle for each child, and they will be fine.


We live in South Florida. Indoor playgrounds are definitely a thing here. They also have music classes and story time etc classes included with the membership.


I’m confused still. Yes, it’s humid. Yes, it’s hot. Kids that play outside all year acclimate, kids who don’t, don’t. Why would you hamper your child or expect your mb to do the same to hers, especially when you know she’s strapped for cash?



OP here: So I should be outside with my child 247 in the summer? It's fine that you have an opinion yourself but everyone is different. You do not live in south Florida, right? My son also has asthma. Even doctors say to limit sun exposure as much as possible between the hours of 10 a.m. and 4 p.m., when the sun is strongest. I am with my charge for 10 hours days. It's very isolating and going to the indoor play space gives me a chance to be around other mothers. It's good for my mental health and it gives them a chance to get their energy out.


And there’s the answer! YOU want to go for your CHILD’S sake, not your CHARGE’S sake. Guess what? I have asthma. I’ve had a few charges with breathing issues because parents were looking for someone with experience using inhalers and nebulizers. It is completely possible to structure a ten hour day such that both kids get at least two hours outside without being out between 10 and 4. Leave 10-4 for naps, lunch, story time at the library (free), play dates in the house with other kids (free), reading books, playing games, doing crafts etc. at home (free). MB is strapped for cash, she doesn’t need to spend more to accommodate your child. Oh, and no child “should” be outside 24/7, but kudos on the exaggeration. If you need help structuring your day, give the kids’ ages, your city and your hours. I can whip up a basic schedule in under 2 hours, and it won’t cost your MB much, if anything.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 15:01     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. How old is your charge? How old is your child?
2. Where are you that indoor play spaces are the ONLY possibility for several months of the year?
3. Have you guven her a schedule to show how much you intend to utilize the membership, to show her that it’s not wasted money? Have you offered to keep track of actual use age for a month so that she can evaluate whether she wants to continue?

I’ve worked in the desert, humid DC area, hot/humid gulf coast area and dry heat of the plains (feels hotter than the desert after a very cold winter). We never bought an indoor playground membership, but we went through tons of sunscreen because the kids were outside every day, unless it was below zero in the middle of the winter. Kids are adaptable, and most playgrounds in the climate you described have awnings over at least half. Keep slathering on sunscreen and have an adult-sized water bottle for each child, and they will be fine.


We live in South Florida. Indoor playgrounds are definitely a thing here. They also have music classes and story time etc classes included with the membership.


I’m confused still. Yes, it’s humid. Yes, it’s hot. Kids that play outside all year acclimate, kids who don’t, don’t. Why would you hamper your child or expect your mb to do the same to hers, especially when you know she’s strapped for cash?



OP here: So I should be outside with my child 247 in the summer? It's fine that you have an opinion yourself but everyone is different. You do not live in south Florida, right? My son also has asthma. Even doctors say to limit sun exposure as much as possible between the hours of 10 a.m. and 4 p.m., when the sun is strongest. I am with my charge for 10 hours days. It's very isolating and going to the indoor play space gives me a chance to be around other mothers. It's good for my mental health and it gives them a chance to get their energy out.









Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 14:38     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. How old is your charge? How old is your child?
2. Where are you that indoor play spaces are the ONLY possibility for several months of the year?
3. Have you guven her a schedule to show how much you intend to utilize the membership, to show her that it’s not wasted money? Have you offered to keep track of actual use age for a month so that she can evaluate whether she wants to continue?

I’ve worked in the desert, humid DC area, hot/humid gulf coast area and dry heat of the plains (feels hotter than the desert after a very cold winter). We never bought an indoor playground membership, but we went through tons of sunscreen because the kids were outside every day, unless it was below zero in the middle of the winter. Kids are adaptable, and most playgrounds in the climate you described have awnings over at least half. Keep slathering on sunscreen and have an adult-sized water bottle for each child, and they will be fine.


We live in South Florida. Indoor playgrounds are definitely a thing here. They also have music classes and story time etc classes included with the membership.


I’m confused still. Yes, it’s humid. Yes, it’s hot. Kids that play outside all year acclimate, kids who don’t, don’t. Why would you hamper your child or expect your mb to do the same to hers, especially when you know she’s strapped for cash?
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 12:04     Subject: Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:Is there any other way to do it? Meaning if she feels $100 per month is too much, could you use it on weekends with your child and go twice a month with both kids and just pay a $20 single-use fee or similar?


I will ask.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 11:57     Subject: Asking mb about paid activities
Is there any other way to do it? Meaning if she feels $100 per month is too much, could you use it on weekends with your child and go twice a month with both kids and just pay a $20 single-use fee or similar?
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 10:18     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:1. How old is your charge? How old is your child?
2. Where are you that indoor play spaces are the ONLY possibility for several months of the year?
3. Have you guven her a schedule to show how much you intend to utilize the membership, to show her that it’s not wasted money? Have you offered to keep track of actual use age for a month so that she can evaluate whether she wants to continue?

I’ve worked in the desert, humid DC area, hot/humid gulf coast area and dry heat of the plains (feels hotter than the desert after a very cold winter). We never bought an indoor playground membership, but we went through tons of sunscreen because the kids were outside every day, unless it was below zero in the middle of the winter. Kids are adaptable, and most playgrounds in the climate you described have awnings over at least half. Keep slathering on sunscreen and have an adult-sized water bottle for each child, and they will be fine.


We live in South Florida. Indoor playgrounds are definitely a thing here. They also have music classes and story time etc classes included with the membership.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 10:15     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
1. How old is your charge? How old is your child?
2. Where are you that indoor play spaces are the ONLY possibility for several months of the year?
3. Have you guven her a schedule to show how much you intend to utilize the membership, to show her that it’s not wasted money? Have you offered to keep track of actual use age for a month so that she can evaluate whether she wants to continue?

I’ve worked in the desert, humid DC area, hot/humid gulf coast area and dry heat of the plains (feels hotter than the desert after a very cold winter). We never bought an indoor playground membership, but we went through tons of sunscreen because the kids were outside every day, unless it was below zero in the middle of the winter. Kids are adaptable, and most playgrounds in the climate you described have awnings over at least half. Keep slathering on sunscreen and have an adult-sized water bottle for each child, and they will be fine.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 10:04     Subject: Asking mb about paid activities
I think it's fine OP. Just ask. Most parents are ok with music classes etc. I would rather have a 3 year old in preschool anyway. I would encourage my nanny to take my child out everyday and if that means an indoor playground membership I would be ok with it.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 10:02     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:If I was your boss I’m not sure how I’d feel about you pushing this issue. I’d probably wonder why I needed to pay you as a nanny and then pay a additional expensive membership every month as well. Just because you’d want to take your own child wouldn’t be enough reason for me to feel like I needed to pay it.


Op here: my rate is very low. Definitely not a nanny rate at all.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 09:47     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
If I was your boss I’m not sure how I’d feel about you pushing this issue. I’d probably wonder why I needed to pay you as a nanny and then pay a additional expensive membership every month as well. Just because you’d want to take your own child wouldn’t be enough reason for me to feel like I needed to pay it.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 09:37     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Anonymous wrote:Why not just tell her and pay for your charge's membership yourself? They give a discount for "families" anyway and this is something that would benefit your child and that you want to do.


I'm not sure if they will give a family discount at this place. It's $100 per month so a bit pricey. I'm going to ask them if I can do the sibling discount.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 09:19     Subject: Re:Asking mb about paid activities
Why not just tell her and pay for your charge's membership yourself? They give a discount for "families" anyway and this is something that would benefit your child and that you want to do.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 09:14     Subject: Asking mb about paid activities
And she said it looks great and said she would sign her up. I'm trying to bring it up again but I am not sure how to go about it. We also go to a farm every Friday and I paid for this membership as they only charge per family. They consider us 1 family so it works out great. I didn't mention anything about cost of the farm parent child class to mb because I was going to pay for it anyway. I do not want her to pay me for this class but just wanted to mention this.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2018 09:10     Subject: Asking mb about paid activities
I am a nanny who brings my child to work with me. I recently started my job and I want to ask mb about signing up her child for an indoor play space membership. I already have a 6 months membership for my son. I'm not sure how to go about this? My HHI is most likely alot more than hers as she's a single mom and my husband has a high income. We live in a very hot and humid climate so indoor play is really important most months. I have frozen my son's membership for a few months anyway. I sent a link to her about this place.