I usually introduce the potty as a concept between 12-18 months. We get a potty and sit once a day, usually before bath and read a book (usually books about potties). Then we kind of see where it goes. Some kids show interest and are ready early, others not until after age 2, but having it be a part of their world preempts the potty being a new scary thing that starts when they are 2+ and more prone to being scared of things or looking for power struggles.

Anonymous wrote:OP, she probably has a lot of misconceptions about potty training and a lot of emotions about her “baby” becoming a real person. Just let it go. She will see that the other kid is not suffering and even if her kid just watches his friend sit on the potty it will still help.

That said, I know how frustrating it can be when parents don’t communicate effectively.

And yes, Like a lot of nannies, I have my own horror story about a kid whose parents refused to introduce the potty when I suggested it because he was too young and he is now 4 and has actually damage his bowels through chronic withholding and needs glycerin suppositories a few times a week to avoid having to go back on enemas and stool softeners.

Oh wow, I know that’s tough.

Yes, I stated that “she’s not ready for baby to grow up” and I get it. I let it go when she said she wanted to talk to the doctor and wait. I just wanted to see what’s the typically age for nannies to potty train in the Home, since this is my first nanny job and my background is in daycare. Thank you!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate nannies like you who think they know better than parents !
It's their job to start the potty training process and decide when it's the right time.
Then it's your job as a professionnal nanny to let them know if you think it's too early for instance and advise to wait a little longer. Or to tell them it's really time to start if the kid is 2 for instance and that they haven't started anything.

At 19 and 20 months, there's no rush to start right now.
Let this mom make her own decision.

-Nanny.

You're a disgruntled parent. Let's be honest.

+1

-Op

Anonymous wrote:I hate nannies like you who think they know better than parents !
It's their job to start the potty training process and decide when it's the right time.
Then it's your job as a professionnal nanny to let them know if you think it's too early for instance and advise to wait a little longer. Or to tell them it's really time to start if the kid is 2 for instance and that they haven't started anything.

At 19 and 20 months, there's no rush to start right now.
Let this mom make her own decision.

-Nanny.

You angry people always want to stir the pot! I know more about potty training than this parent, which is the topic. You have a blessed day!

Anonymous wrote:I hate nannies like you who think they know better than parents !
It's their job to start the potty training process and decide when it's the right time.
Then it's your job as a professionnal nanny to let them know if you think it's too early for instance and advise to wait a little longer. Or to tell them it's really time to start if the kid is 2 for instance and that they haven't started anything.

At 19 and 20 months, there's no rush to start right now.
Let this mom make her own decision.

-Nanny.

You're a disgruntled parent. Let's be honest.

OP, she probably has a lot of misconceptions about potty training and a lot of emotions about her “baby” becoming a real person. Just let it go. She will see that the other kid is not suffering and even if her kid just watches his friend sit on the potty it will still help.

That said, I know how frustrating it can be when parents don’t communicate effectively.

And yes, Like a lot of nannies, I have my own horror story about a kid whose parents refused to introduce the potty when I suggested it because he was too young and he is now 4 and has actually damage his bowels through chronic withholding and needs glycerin suppositories a few times a week to avoid having to go back on enemas and stool softeners.

I hate nannies like you who think they know better than parents !
It's their job to start the potty training process and decide when it's the right time.
Then it's your job as a professionnal nanny to let them know if you think it's too early for instance and advise to wait a little longer. Or to tell them it's really time to start if the kid is 2 for instance and that they haven't started anything.

At 19 and 20 months, there's no rush to start right now.
Let this mom make her own decision.

-Nanny.

Anonymous wrote:I potty trained my current charge at 22 months. No regression ever.

My former charge was ready at 22 months but his mother insisted we wait until he was three. I left the position when he was two but stayed in touch. Well at three he just said no. They tried against at 3.5 and her would pee occasionally in the potty but was afraid to poop in the potty. At 4.5 he still needed a diaper to poop.

3 is too old to start the process! They’re practically adults at 3 and will tell you no lol. In my experience, the children are more excited/motivated about the process younger than at age 3. By then, they just want to play with their trains or with their house-set rather than go sit on the potty every 45 minutes/hr.

I’m sure Mb will be on board when she sees the other child progress.

I potty trained my current charge at 22 months. No regression ever.

My former charge was ready at 22 months but his mother insisted we wait until he was three. I left the position when he was two but stayed in touch. Well at three he just said no. They tried against at 3.5 and her would pee occasionally in the potty but was afraid to poop in the potty. At 4.5 he still needed a diaper to poop.

Op here, I’m glad I’m not the only one. I was shocked when she said she had to speak with the pediatrician- most parents that I know are always like go for it or like I mentioned, excited. I feel like she’s not ready for her child to grow up which is a part of why she wasn’t happy about starting the process, and I get it, this is her first child but now you have another one on the way. And not just potty training, it’s a lot that this child gets away with and if they don’t nip it in the bud, they’re going to be a wreck when new baby comes but that’s a whole different story.

I know I’m no doctor, but I have over 10 years with this age group and she’s aware of that, why not ask me or talk about your concerns? As for regressing at age 3, that doesn’t matter if your child is potty trained at 18 months or 2.5- each child is different and they can regress or not regress at all. I’ve had 2 year olds potty trained and turned 4 and started having accidents. Typically if a child regresses, it’s for attention or something due to dramatic changes (new baby, moving, transitioning to another class or school, parent gone away etc.) in that child’s life/schedule.

I mentioned to the other MB about the other MB’s concerns and she was mute. I just wanted her to know, I didn’t want her to feel forced and if she wants to hold off let me know. This is not my first rodeo and I feel when you start introducing early the training process is slightly easier vs just showing a child what a potty is and reading books when they’re 2.5. I am NOT potty training no child at 3!

Folks are ridiculous. I had gbg triplets potty trained at 18 months

American women are lazy and I say this as an American woman.

Anonymous wrote:Are you from this country originally? From my nanny-ing experience, parents born and raised here tend to wait till 3 or later to potty train their kids. Parents not from this country or 1st generation born here parents tend to potty train their kids early. My last charge started at 9 months old. Of course the parents had no expectations, they just wanted her to get used to the toilet and what it was used for. By 1.5 she was pretty much fully potty trained.

I don't see why your MB is so concerned, but people like to go at their own pace. Just start with the other child. After MB sees how well it goes with that child, maybe she'll be on board. Potty training early is a great idea. Never seen a kid regress!

Yes, born and raised in the Washington D.C area. I do agree, families not from this county start a lot earlier. I will start with the other child first and go from there. Thank you!

Are you from this country originally? From my nanny-ing experience, parents born and raised here tend to wait till 3 or later to potty train their kids. Parents not from this country or 1st generation born here parents tend to potty train their kids early. My last charge started at 9 months old. Of course the parents had no expectations, they just wanted her to get used to the toilet and what it was used for. By 1.5 she was pretty much fully potty trained.

I don't see why your MB is so concerned, but people like to go at their own pace. Just start with the other child. After MB sees how well it goes with that child, maybe she'll be on board. Potty training early is a great idea. Never seen a kid regress!

I talk to the parents (in a share) about introducing the potty to my charges (19 mo and 20 mo). When I say introducing, I mean showing them the potty training seats, reading potty books and have them sit maybe once or twice a day, with no expectation of them peeing or pooping. So I want to do step by step with them (early). I have tons of potty training experience with children as early as 17 months and have been pretty successful.

Now, one MB says she’s fine with it and it would be great for her child to be potty trained. So I bought potty training toilets. The other MB didn’t say too much, so today I brought in the seat and she goes “I want to talk to my pediatrician, I don’t know anything about potty training” “will she regress at age 3 if she’s potty traininged before then?” I’m thinking why didn’t you express this when I mentioned it, and told her, I don’t have to start with your child but I’m also thinking, you have a baby on the way! You should be happy that I’m ready to start the process! She goes on to say i know you have experience (okay then what’s the problem?) but I don’t know what I’m doing. I’m like did you read anything I wrote?! Im just INTRODUCING! They have no access to a toilet or bathroom all day, so I want them to become familiar with it. I’m not having them go every 45 minutes. There’s no rewards. It’s just introducing and I expressed I DON’T expect you guys to do anything right now, we can all talk when that times comes because when the time comes to get serious, everyone must be involved!

Nannies, what ages do you start introducing or potty training your charges? My background is in daycare and when I was a toddlers teacher and would have the conversation about introducing the potty parents were super excited.