Anonymous
Post 12/21/2017 13:17     Subject: Re:First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Also this is an insane time of year. I don't know any parent right now who isn't sick, about to travel, rushing about doing holiday stuff etc.

I'd wait 'til early next year and bring it up again.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2017 09:04     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.

I think she lied to you.


Why would someone lie about that? Maybe I will just tell her that I ordered a car seat myself because I need to make sure it will fit into my car? I can ask her to reimburse me later. I think she's just really busy with the start of a new job and being a single mom.



Please don't do that. As a parent it would be a huge boundary overstep if a new nanny presumed to order a car seat without asking. There is such a huge range of prices and functionality that I would want a say in which car seat my child rides around in.

If everything else is okay with the job and the MB, I would wait and see for a few more weeks. There is a period at the beginning of mutual trust building. It is possible she wants to make sure you have a good rapport with her child, get familiar with the neighborhood, etc. before driving anywhere with her kid.


Op here: I think this is solid advice. I do bring my child with me so they play together. I really don't get the feeling she's lying to me about this.

Anonymous
Post 12/21/2017 01:02     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.

I think she lied to you.


Why would someone lie about that? Maybe I will just tell her that I ordered a car seat myself because I need to make sure it will fit into my car? I can ask her to reimburse me later. I think she's just really busy with the start of a new job and being a single mom.



Please don't do that. As a parent it would be a huge boundary overstep if a new nanny presumed to order a car seat without asking. There is such a huge range of prices and functionality that I would want a say in which car seat my child rides around in.

If everything else is okay with the job and the MB, I would wait and see for a few more weeks. There is a period at the beginning of mutual trust building. It is possible she wants to make sure you have a good rapport with her child, get familiar with the neighborhood, etc. before driving anywhere with her kid.


Nope. If that were the case she would say so up front.
OP is going to be in the house all day every day.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2017 01:00     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
You are not getting a car seat.

You are not going to be allowed to drive the kid.


Buying a carseat would be a waste of money for you, unless you plan to keep it for future jobs.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 22:37     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.

I think she lied to you.


Why would someone lie about that? Maybe I will just tell her that I ordered a car seat myself because I need to make sure it will fit into my car? I can ask her to reimburse me later. I think she's just really busy with the start of a new job and being a single mom.



Please don't do that. As a parent it would be a huge boundary overstep if a new nanny presumed to order a car seat without asking. There is such a huge range of prices and functionality that I would want a say in which car seat my child rides around in.

If everything else is okay with the job and the MB, I would wait and see for a few more weeks. There is a period at the beginning of mutual trust building. It is possible she wants to make sure you have a good rapport with her child, get familiar with the neighborhood, etc. before driving anywhere with her kid.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 21:40     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.

I think she lied to you.


Why would someone lie about that? Maybe I will just tell her that I ordered a car seat myself because I need to make sure it will fit into my car? I can ask her to reimburse me later. I think she's just really busy with the start of a new job and being a single mom.





You sound a bit naive, but good luck to you.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 20:49     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.

I think she lied to you.


Why would someone lie about that? Maybe I will just tell her that I ordered a car seat myself because I need to make sure it will fit into my car? I can ask her to reimburse me later. I think she's just really busy with the start of a new job and being a single mom.




Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 20:37     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.

I think she lied to you.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 19:55     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.


She said it was fine in the interview. She even said I could take her to the beach which is 20 minutes away.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 19:31     Subject: Re:First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Ask her outright if she is goon to allow you to drive the child anywhere. Then make a decision.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 19:08     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
No car seat is coming. Either go crazy or quit.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 18:45     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Did she mention during the interview that you would be allowed to drive the child during your shift?

Perhaps she is one of those parents who have anxiety over someone besides themselves driving their child around.

Or maybe she ordered the car seat online and w/it being the Holidays, it may not arrive as soon as she expected it.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 14:01     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Its only day 3. Relax.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 13:26     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
Anonymous wrote:I have brought the car seat idea up twice and both times mb just kind of shrugged it off and said we will eventually get around to getting one. She told me they have a playground in their community but it looks more like a climbing wall. None of the equipment is appropriate for a 2 or 3 year old. I'm actually not sure IF it's a playground. It looks more like a dog park but there's a dog park across the street so maybe it's a playground.


I also wanted to add there's absolutely nothing we can walk to. Being inside for 9 hours everyday is so boring. I'm going stir crazy.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2017 13:24     Subject: First week at my job and mb doesn't seem worried about getting a car seat
I have brought the car seat idea up twice and both times mb just kind of shrugged it off and said we will eventually get around to getting one. She told me they have a playground in their community but it looks more like a climbing wall. None of the equipment is appropriate for a 2 or 3 year old. I'm actually not sure IF it's a playground. It looks more like a dog park but there's a dog park across the street so maybe it's a playground.