Actually, this is the type of position I seek. I don't want a run-of-the-mill family. I like challenges, I like researching how best to help, and I like proving to parents that I am willing to put in more time and energy to care for their children than they expected when I was hired.

Offhand, I can think of five different ways that would be easy to try to teach herself to self-soothe, but it depends on the child's personality as to which (if any of those) may work.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not?

She won't be home.
Unless she expects you to be a wet nurse give the job a chance.

Because the child is an older toddler still accustomed to nursing during the day on demand, and at nap. The fact that mom didn't address how she planned to wean her off day nursing suggests that mom has no plan, and that nanny will have a tough go of it.

Families with atypical parenting styles need nannies too.

This isn't atypical - this is bad parenting. The mother should have stopped nursing on demand before she left the child with a nanny all day. Poor little kid.

Pass on this job, Nanny.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not?

She won't be home.
Unless she expects you to be a wet nurse give the job a chance.

Because the child is an older toddler still accustomed to nursing during the day on demand, and at nap. The fact that mom didn't address how she planned to wean her off day nursing suggests that mom has no plan, and that nanny will have a tough go of it.

Families with atypical parenting styles need nannies too.

I would pass, OP. The child is too dependent and you will bear the brunt of her loss at her mother being gone and without the security of nursing - double trouble. The mother was really negligent in not weaning sooner knowing that she was going back to work.

Anonymous wrote:Why not?

She won't be home.
Unless she expects you to be a wet nurse give the job a chance.

Because the child is an older toddler still accustomed to nursing during the day on demand, and at nap. The fact that mom didn't address how she planned to wean her off day nursing suggests that mom has no plan, and that nanny will have a tough go of it.

Why not?

She won't be home.
Unless she expects you to be a wet nurse give the job a chance.

Helicopter mother alert....abort abort.

I'd probably pass on it since there are other offers on the table. If i were desperate for a job, then yes.

Anonymous wrote:My DD nursed until three months after her third birthday. She was not (and is not now) a brat. She did not expect everything on demand.

I nursed her in the morning when she woke up, when I got home from work, and a third time before bed. I pumped at work. It was no big deal.

So to answer the question in your subject line, I think you shouldn't rule it out. But inside where you explain the toddler nursed twice during one hour - THAT is the weird part.

OP here and that is exactly how I feel. If the mother just nursed at night or in the morning I would not hesitate as it would have no bearing on my job. But the child is still very much nursing on demand and before nap. I worry that she is going to have a very hard time with her mother gone and have no way to cope with the stress.

If the Mom is working away from the home and therefore not nursing while you are working I would take it, or consider it along with the others.
If she plans to pop home to nurse or work from home office, then no I would not take this job.

I would skip that job. The mom will always pop in and out of her office and her daughter will know she's there. It's gonna be hell for you !

Nanny -

My DD nursed until three months after her third birthday. She was not (and is not now) a brat. She did not expect everything on demand.

I nursed her in the morning when she woke up, when I got home from work, and a third time before bed. I pumped at work. It was no big deal.

So to answer the question in your subject line, I think you shouldn't rule it out. But inside where you explain the toddler nursed twice during one hour - THAT is the weird part.

No. Spells trouble and kid is probably a brat and wants everything else on demand!

Not with two other great offers. This offer would have to be extraordinary. It doesn't sound like the mom addressed how she was planning to manage that transition, which says to me that she hasn't really thought about it. I would take the job if the mom presented herself as aware that it might be a struggle, but otherwise, why buy trouble?

All else about the family seems very positive. However the child is still nursing on demand and nursed twice during an hour long in-home interview. The mother will be working out of the house for the first time since the child was born. I am concerned that if this is the child's only way to calm herself, she might have a difficult time especially since this will be the first time without her mother.

Yes, I am an experienced/educated nanny and of course I could handle it - but I have two other great offers and just don't know if this one is worth the risk. I have never had an experience with an extended nurser.