Right!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned that you will have a car all day at your MB's house, without a car seat in it should you need to transport P for an emergency (or to an activity, as you say you would be willing to take NKs to activities).

You know, I've been home with my kids and had this thought, but in a TRUE emergency, I'd either call an ambulance, or we would get out of the house and then call a cab/Uber.

It's better and safer, this way when you have two kids under the age of 2. In an emergency, I rather call 9-1-1 so that I can focus and keep full attention on the child that is hurt. Plus we are 5 minutes from the fire station and the hospital is 15 minutes away. So I'm okay without using my car and the parents are well aware and that's why a car was not required.

I agree. I can't imagine putting an injured or dangerously ill child in a car seat behind me while I try to get to the hospital. And if the house is on fire, I'm not going to stand close to it to buckle kids in!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned that you will have a car all day at your MB's house, without a car seat in it should you need to transport P for an emergency (or to an activity, as you say you would be willing to take NKs to activities).

You know, I've been home with my kids and had this thought, but in a TRUE emergency, I'd either call an ambulance, or we would get out of the house and then call a cab/Uber.

It's better and safer, this way when you have two kids under the age of 2. In an emergency, I rather call 9-1-1 so that I can focus and keep full attention on the child that is hurt. Plus we are 5 minutes from the fire station and the hospital is 15 minutes away. So I'm okay without using my car and the parents are well aware and that's why a car was not required.

Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned that you will have a car all day at your MB's house, without a car seat in it should you need to transport P for an emergency (or to an activity, as you say you would be willing to take NKs to activities).

You know, I've been home with my kids and had this thought, but in a TRUE emergency, I'd either call an ambulance, or we would get out of the house and then call a cab/Uber.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned that you will have a car all day at your MB's house, without a car seat in it should you need to transport P for an emergency (or to an activity, as you say you would be willing to take NKs to activities).

We catch the metro or walk to all activities- The metro 5 minutes away. If there's an emergency, where we need to evacuate the home, we are in a area where we can be at a safe location in 3 minutes and in the event that the emergency is with the child, I will call 9-1-1.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned that you will have a car all day at your MB's house, without a car seat in it should you need to transport P for an emergency (or to an activity, as you say you would be willing to take NKs to activities).

We catch the metro or walk to all activities- The metro 5 minutes away. If there's an emergency, where we need to evacuate the home, we are in a area where we can be at a safe location in 3 minutes and in the event that the emergency is with the child, I will call 9-1-1.

I'm more concerned that you will have a car all day at your MB's house, without a car seat in it should you need to transport P for an emergency (or to an activity, as you say you would be willing to take NKs to activities).

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and I am trying to not let anyone steal my holiday joy, but today, I was almost about to let my employer have it! I received a text from one of the moms (in a nanny share) and she asked if we could host at her house on Monday and said “NO PROBLEM IF NOT.” The other moms response was “it’s up to X because she’s staying late for me and would have to bring P home.” So I informed them that I wasn’t home and the car seat wasn’t in my car, therefore, I wouldn’t be able to bring P home. I also suggested that we could walk over and get T if that may help and I asked what time did the mom need to leave. So hours went by and we didn’t hear anything, so I went about MY weekend (this was Sunday).

Fast forward to the morning, I saw the text and responded. I have to get to work at 7:30 at P’s house and the other mom wanted me to get to her house (after arriving at the other child’s house and getting her together) by 8AM. How in the Sam W hockey stick am I going to get to your house in less than 30 minutes?! So I responded at 5:00 AM to remind her what time I arrive and that normally P is just sitting down for breakfast and I would need to get her together, so we wouldn’t make it by 8:00. I then asked if she would be okay to just bring T, (like she would do any other day when the dad couldn’t drop off). So she texted me and said “in the future can you let us know the night before and not the morning of, so I can be prepared? Thank you!” My response wanted to be “can you not text me on the weekend about work? Thank you!” Like it took you hours to respond, because I’m sure you were doing stuff and enjoying your weekend, like I was. The dad stepped in and apologized and explained how it was his fault and that he didn’t find out about work changes until Friday afternoon. I get off at 6pm, y’all couldn’t tell me by then? But that’s not my problem, the Mom was really in her feelings and I assume dad felt it, that’s why he responded to the text. It took me 3 hrs to respond. I called like 5 ppl to vent.

I then went on to tell her in the future, if y’all can’t let me know changes by Friday, then you and the other Mom figure it out and then just let me know who’s house we’re going to be at. It doesn’t matter to me. So that way, you don’t have to wait on a response from me if that means I’m going to get talked to any kind of way. She said she wants all of us in the same convo and wants to make sure it’s ok with me. Im like no.. whatever y’all need me to do (related to the kids) then you don’t need a confirmation from me- I work for you. I get that they want to make sure it’s ok but if that means getting talk to like that, then no. I understand my position and that is that I am the employee and if my employer(s) need me to start at a different house that day, then that’s what I’ll do. If my employer wants me to take their child to an activity, then that’s what I’ll do. When she responded to me pointing out that I will let the moms work it out, I didn’t respond to her text because I am not about to go back and fourth and if we need to talk more she can speak with me in person.

Was I wrong? How do your families communicate with you about changes? And now this makes me never want to respond to a text about work on the weekends, which I’ve done a lot in the past, and always respond but I didn’t see the text until morning.

This is so weird to me! Why would she insist on including you when she knows she's going to change things up anyway? I'd be happy if you said "just let me know!"

Anytime they need to make a change to the schedule (time) or switch houses, my response is ALWAYS “whatever works for you guys.”

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and I am trying to not let anyone steal my holiday joy, but today, I was almost about to let my employer have it! I received a text from one of the moms (in a nanny share) and she asked if we could host at her house on Monday and said “NO PROBLEM IF NOT.” The other moms response was “it’s up to X because she’s staying late for me and would have to bring P home.” So I informed them that I wasn’t home and the car seat wasn’t in my car, therefore, I wouldn’t be able to bring P home. I also suggested that we could walk over and get T if that may help and I asked what time did the mom need to leave. So hours went by and we didn’t hear anything, so I went about MY weekend (this was Sunday).

Fast forward to the morning, I saw the text and responded. I have to get to work at 7:30 at P’s house and the other mom wanted me to get to her house (after arriving at the other child’s house and getting her together) by 8AM. How in the Sam W hockey stick am I going to get to your house in less than 30 minutes?! So I responded at 5:00 AM to remind her what time I arrive and that normally P is just sitting down for breakfast and I would need to get her together, so we wouldn’t make it by 8:00. I then asked if she would be okay to just bring T, (like she would do any other day when the dad couldn’t drop off). So she texted me and said “in the future can you let us know the night before and not the morning of, so I can be prepared? Thank you!” My response wanted to be “can you not text me on the weekend about work? Thank you!” Like it took you hours to respond, because I’m sure you were doing stuff and enjoying your weekend, like I was. The dad stepped in and apologized and explained how it was his fault and that he didn’t find out about work changes until Friday afternoon. I get off at 6pm, y’all couldn’t tell me by then? But that’s not my problem, the Mom was really in her feelings and I assume dad felt it, that’s why he responded to the text. It took me 3 hrs to respond. I called like 5 ppl to vent.

I then went on to tell her in the future, if y’all can’t let me know changes by Friday, then you and the other Mom figure it out and then just let me know who’s house we’re going to be at. It doesn’t matter to me. So that way, you don’t have to wait on a response from me if that means I’m going to get talked to any kind of way. She said she wants all of us in the same convo and wants to make sure it’s ok with me. Im like no.. whatever y’all need me to do (related to the kids) then you don’t need a confirmation from me- I work for you. I get that they want to make sure it’s ok but if that means getting talk to like that, then no. I understand my position and that is that I am the employee and if my employer(s) need me to start at a different house that day, then that’s what I’ll do. If my employer wants me to take their child to an activity, then that’s what I’ll do. When she responded to me pointing out that I will let the moms work it out, I didn’t respond to her text because I am not about to go back and fourth and if we need to talk more she can speak with me in person.

Was I wrong? How do your families communicate with you about changes? And now this makes me never want to respond to a text about work on the weekends, which I’ve done a lot in the past, and always respond but I didn’t see the text until morning.

This is so weird to me! Why would she insist on including you when she knows she's going to change things up anyway? I'd be happy if you said "just let me know!"

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I agree with you. It's too crazy to have a 3-way conversation when at least one of the people can't be counted on to stay in the conversation when it's happening.

Good for you. As long as they don't arbitrarily change or add to your hours, then you seem to have the perfect solution: moms figure out what they need and communicate it to you in a timely manner (i.e., before you leave home). Otherwise, you do the day as normally planned.

Thank you!

The MB is a loon.

MB here. I agree with you. It's too crazy to have a 3-way conversation when at least one of the people can't be counted on to stay in the conversation when it's happening.

Good for you. As long as they don't arbitrarily change or add to your hours, then you seem to have the perfect solution: moms figure out what they need and communicate it to you in a timely manner (i.e., before you leave home). Otherwise, you do the day as normally planned.

Some parents want their cake and eat it too. I agree, the parents should work it out and then let you know where to arrive on Monday.

I’m a nanny and I am trying to not let anyone steal my holiday joy, but today, I was almost about to let my employer have it! I received a text from one of the moms (in a nanny share) and she asked if we could host at her house on Monday and said “NO PROBLEM IF NOT.” The other moms response was “it’s up to X because she’s staying late for me and would have to bring P home.” So I informed them that I wasn’t home and the car seat wasn’t in my car, therefore, I wouldn’t be able to bring P home. I also suggested that we could walk over and get T if that may help and I asked what time did the mom need to leave. So hours went by and we didn’t hear anything, so I went about MY weekend (this was Sunday).

Fast forward to the morning, I saw the text and responded. I have to get to work at 7:30 at P’s house and the other mom wanted me to get to her house (after arriving at the other child’s house and getting her together) by 8AM. How in the Sam W hockey stick am I going to get to your house in less than 30 minutes?! So I responded at 5:00 AM to remind her what time I arrive and that normally P is just sitting down for breakfast and I would need to get her together, so we wouldn’t make it by 8:00. I then asked if she would be okay to just bring T, (like she would do any other day when the dad couldn’t drop off). So she texted me and said “in the future can you let us know the night before and not the morning of, so I can be prepared? Thank you!” My response wanted to be “can you not text me on the weekend about work? Thank you!” Like it took you hours to respond, because I’m sure you were doing stuff and enjoying your weekend, like I was. The dad stepped in and apologized and explained how it was his fault and that he didn’t find out about work changes until Friday afternoon. I get off at 6pm, y’all couldn’t tell me by then? But that’s not my problem, the Mom was really in her feelings and I assume dad felt it, that’s why he responded to the text. It took me 3 hrs to respond. I called like 5 ppl to vent.

I then went on to tell her in the future, if y’all can’t let me know changes by Friday, then you and the other Mom figure it out and then just let me know who’s house we’re going to be at. It doesn’t matter to me. So that way, you don’t have to wait on a response from me if that means I’m going to get talked to any kind of way. She said she wants all of us in the same convo and wants to make sure it’s ok with me. Im like no.. whatever y’all need me to do (related to the kids) then you don’t need a confirmation from me- I work for you. I get that they want to make sure it’s ok but if that means getting talk to like that, then no. I understand my position and that is that I am the employee and if my employer(s) need me to start at a different house that day, then that’s what I’ll do. If my employer wants me to take their child to an activity, then that’s what I’ll do. When she responded to me pointing out that I will let the moms work it out, I didn’t respond to her text because I am not about to go back and fourth and if we need to talk more she can speak with me in person.

Was I wrong? How do your families communicate with you about changes? And now this makes me never want to respond to a text about work on the weekends, which I’ve done a lot in the past, and always respond but I didn’t see the text until morning.