Anonymous wrote:This nanny needs to understand that her duties will change over time, as the child's needs change. Your benefits package sounds very generous. If the nanny is not comfortable with the evolution of duties over time (some things get added, others get deleted), you are better off changing nannies before your child gets old enough to become attached. Those transitions get harder as the child's attachment kicks in, so please try to work it out. If you can't, then you should start with a new nanny and write a contract that builds in the necessary flexibility.

+1 And I am a nanny.

This nanny needs to understand that her duties will change over time, as the child's needs change. Your benefits package sounds very generous. If the nanny is not comfortable with the evolution of duties over time (some things get added, others get deleted), you are better off changing nannies before your child gets old enough to become attached. Those transitions get harder as the child's attachment kicks in, so please try to work it out. If you can't, then you should start with a new nanny and write a contract that builds in the necessary flexibility.

Anonymous wrote:How much do you pay an hour?

Please don't answer that, OP, as it doesn't matter. You are paying your nanny what she agreed to be paid. Your issue is only in adding more chores to her job.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who would love your sweet gig and not give you any grief about baby food. I do waaaay more than that every day. I figure it’s to my advantage to be useful so they want to keep me around.

You are really young, aren't you? I actually don't disagree with you in total but you are putting yourself at a disadvantage with the way you write and express yourself.

And "useful" is not the same as being a good nanny. Concentrate more on being a good teacher to your charge and less on being "useful".

How much do you pay an hour?

I’m a nanny who would love your sweet gig and not give you any grief about baby food. I do waaaay more than that every day. I figure it’s to my advantage to be useful so they want to keep me around.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We definitely will not make her do anything beyond what is expected for the baby. We are always cautious and make sure she is happy. I was a nanny for about 5 years in my 20’s and remember what I liked most was a simple “ thank you” at the end of each day. We try to always thank her and we give little fits here and there to show our appreciation. At 6 weeks I got her a gift card to starbucks. Her birthday was last month and we gave her $150 cash and a card.

Our baby is 6.5 months old. Not every day is exact but he is very easy baby. He usually sleeps 7:30pm - 6:30am with naps at 8:30 - 10, 12-2, and 4 - 4:30/5. He is on a set schedule. I also prep all of his bottles and take out his food to thaw the night before to make it easier for her.

Then talk to her about it and ask why. Her duties will change - sometimes expand and sometimes contract - as the baby gets older so this is a conversation you will want to have now. Will she say no to taking the baby to classes and play dates when the baby is older? Will she refuse to make his meals and/or shop for him? As the child gets older, he will also have less laundry, no bottle washing, no diapers... Talk to her, OP.

As a nanny, I always have assumed that making the baby's first purees was my job but that is just me. It wasn't spelled out in my contract but neither were a lot of added responsibilities as the baby grew older and a few parts of the job that I simply no longer needed to do. But my employers and I always discuss the changes.

Op here. We definitely will not make her do anything beyond what is expected for the baby. We are always cautious and make sure she is happy. I was a nanny for about 5 years in my 20’s and remember what I liked most was a simple “ thank you” at the end of each day. We try to always thank her and we give little fits here and there to show our appreciation. At 6 weeks I got her a gift card to starbucks. Her birthday was last month and we gave her $150 cash and a card.

Our baby is 6.5 months old. Not every day is exact but he is very easy baby. He usually sleeps 7:30pm - 6:30am with naps at 8:30 - 10, 12-2, and 4 - 4:30/5. He is on a set schedule. I also prep all of his bottles and take out his food to thaw the night before to make it easier for her.

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is lazy. How much does your four month old nap? At least 3 hours per day. She can’t spend 20 minutes less on her phone?

You are making ugly assumptions, PP. You have no clue what this nanny is doing when the baby sleeps or even if the baby sleeps. In fact you know nothing.

Your nanny is lazy. How much does your four month old nap? At least 3 hours per day. She can’t spend 20 minutes less on her phone?

Probably the fear of "job creep", OP. If your nanny is amazing with your baby, then I would let it go.

Also make sure that you are not doing things that cause her more work - like leaving your breakfast dishes in the sink.

Very nanny is different. When we hired ours dd was only 4 months but we talked and agreed on her cooking her homemade lunch when she was older and baby food for now. So nanny made some baby food too and froze it. Not all of it but at least half. Dd was and still is a great napper and did 3 hrs in either 2 naps or 3 naps. If it was otherwise, we would have done something else. Sometime nanny asks of this something id like for dinner and makes that for us too.

Yes, our nanny not only made all of DD's homemade baby food but gave us the baby food maker as a gift.

However, what your nanny is fighting is called "job creep". According to our nanny, this is a common complaint among nannies. The employers just keep asking more and more from the nanny. If the nanny agrees, then it becomes part of her duties all the time. As employers, I think this is something that we have to be aware of and sensitive to. A nanny with experience has likely been burned before.

* homemade not homeless. * baby not Abby.

My nanny has been with us for 4 months. We really like her, and she has been amazing with our child. Our child started solids around a month ago. We have decided to go with making homeless baby food. I prepare most of his food, but sometimes I don’t have the time. I asked my nanny if she could make a batch and she said no. She said that it is beyond her duties. It’s super easy and we already have a baby food maker and steamer in one. I let it go but I’m still abbboyer by it when I heard a friends nanny makes all of her baby’s food.

We offer her very good benefits. She only works 32 hours but is paid for 40 hours. We offer 3 weeks paid vacation, 8 paid holidays, and 5 sick days per year. We also pay a stipend towards her health insurance and provide lunch. Her only duties is to care for the baby and do light housekeeping ( baby laundry, baby bottles, restock baby supplies). We have a weekly housekeeper so she doesn’t even have to clean the nursery, and we are neat freaks and leave the house clean. We only expect that she does the babys stuff and clean up after herself. Does your nanny make homemade Abby food or is that too much to ask?