Your nanny is doing a great job, OP.
Everybody gave you great advice.

Nanny-

Why is this a problem sounds like she's doing a pretty good job

You dont deserve her.

She sounds wonderful. Talking it out afterwards shows that she is really caring while teaching DD appropriate behavior.

Your Nanny is reacting appropriately to your daughter’s behavior.

She sounds like she has set certain boundaries & is remaining consistent in her establishment of them.

Kudos for her.
You will have a child who will grow up knowing her behavior will always have consequences.

Refreshing.
Congrats.
You sound like you have a keeper for a Nanny!

Do not let her know you think she is tough.
She sounds like she is worth her weight in pure gold!

Children learn very quickly those who mean business and those who are push overs. Sadly, most parents are push overs

My then toddler only threw fits when I changed his diaper. Never when his nanny did. Once, in exasperation, I said to him during a diaper change tantrum, "why don't you ever do this with nanny?!" And through his tears he yelled back, "Because Nanny means it!"


Humbling moment for me...

Anonymous wrote:I’m an MB, and your nanny is responding appropriately. If you give in to a tantrum, you increase future tantrums. In a few months you’ll wonder why your child is so well behaved for nanny but not for you.

Bingo.

I think you should learn from nanny and ignore tantrums too. Nip it in the bud.

I'm very similar to your nanny. During a tantrum I don't even give eye contact . I usually start cleaning and ignore until it's over.

Why would you give in? That's bad parenting.

Never give in to tantrums. Thats a sure fire way to guarantee more tantrums in the future.

I’m an MB, and your nanny is responding appropriately. If you give in to a tantrum, you increase future tantrums. In a few months you’ll wonder why your child is so well behaved for nanny but not for you.

She’s obviously doing something right if your child loves her.
She sounds like a great nanny!

You're the problem. Follow your nanny and your child will not be a brat.

We have a great nanny who has been with our family since DD - now 2 - was born. She is fantastic and in no way in danger of losing her job with us. She has a degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher for many years. She and I agree on positive discipline, engagement, talking, etc. The only difference is that Nanny will simply ignore DD when she throws a tantrum about something. Nanny explains once and never gives in. After the tantrum, she and DD talk about what happened. Nanny also has a naturally stern voice and, I think, sometimes she scares DD.

DH and I are far more willing to give in a little when possible.

Just wondering if this is going to be a problem. DD loves her nanny so much and I don't want this to change.

Thanks.