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You sound like a very generous employer OP!

Paid $$ driving lessons - A car!!

That is awesome.

Well, it's hard to live on 40,000. so I'm sure she is look for a side job.

Sit down with her for coffee. Ask her how much she would like to earn per hour. For whatever reason, she feels under compensated. Seems to me you've been generous, but she doesn't seem to be feeling it. Hard to know for sure.

See if she can be honest with you. If not, you have to move on. How old are your children?

Our housekeeper has been with us for five years. She started as once a week and in July moved to full-time. We absolutely love her. When she started in July, I put her on a salary - $40k/year - plus I pay her taxes. We were gone for one week in July and most of August and she was paid full-time even though she didn't come in. She also frequently - probably every other week - takes one day off. Since she is on salary, these are fully paid.

Although she doesn't live close by - and doesn't drive - I pay for her to Uber to and from our house, which is usually 20 min. but a couple of times has taken 45 min. We have paid for driving lessons for her with the promise that we would get her a car once she has her license. This should make her travel to and from our house much easier and faster.

She generally starts work at 10:00 am and leaves between 5:00 pm and 6:00 pm.

Today she told me that she doesn't want to work on Tuesdays any more. Last Tuesday (Halloween), she took the day off, which was fine, but since I work I need to have Tuesdays covered. I told her she could leave early on Tuesdays if she needed, say at 4:00 pm. She told me she needed to be home for her daughter, but her daughter is in school full-time and then has math club after. I'm really confused by this.

Panicked that she is going to leave, I jumped on to care.com to start the search process, and I see that not only was she on, but she was active last week. Now I am wondering if she is picking up extra work and that's why she wants Tuesdays off.

What can I do? We definitely love her - I think of her as family - and want her to stay, but I need to have her 5x a week.