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Anonymous wrote:This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

Next time, hire a nanny/housekeeper. Don't pay someone to do absolutely nothing. They start to think any work at all is more than they should have to do!

Anonymous wrote:This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

Anonymous wrote:If you are being paid for Friday, you need to stay available for Friday. You work for both parents, OP. I don't doubt that the exhusband is a jerk but you were wrong to take another job on the days they pay you for.

Anonymous wrote:This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

Yes the answer is C.

The day that he told me I dont have to work on Friday, I thank him. He asked "why thank you?" I said 'thanks for giving me extra day off". He then said "no, you dont have to work on Friday anymore". "Forever?" I asked and he said yes. Later on he told me he will watch the child on Thursday too.

I told the mom about this and she said both of them had a new arrangement. When I told her I have a side job on Thursday evening and on Friday, she didn't say anything. She didn't cut my salary because its very low at the first place also sometimes she need me to do overnight care.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

Will do this on Monday. Thank you.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

I understand but when the ex husband told me he will watch the child and I dont have to work on Thursday and Friday anymore/forever I dont think I was wrong.

Thank you for you advice and in-put.