Your bargain nannies will always find a better offer.
Pay up.

I am sorry, OP, but three nannies in two years is a red flag. A big red flag. Stop counting the first night nurse as a nanny and stop mentioning the second nanny - just talk about how much you love the third nanny.

It's probably a combination of having had a few nannies AND lowering the rate. She might think the reasons the other nannies left are because you're cheap with them. Maybe raise the rate?

We are on our third nanny in 2.5 years and she will be leaving us soon. Never an issue, probably because I explain as soon as it comes up. #1 had medical issues, #2 was very irresponsible and unprofessional and #3 was hired as a temp since DD would be going to preschool. The only one candidates ask about is #2 and they seem okay with my explanation. OP, you have to explain, even if not prompted, why you've had so many nannies in clear and concise terms so to move past it as quickly as possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?

Why dont yiu just use nanny #3 as a refrence. Yiu must have REALLY spooked her to make her take anothet jib. For anyone, takung a job 3 blocks away would be a dream come true. Thwre is probably mpre going on here.

I have to agree. Did you try to "explain away" the three nannies? If you made it sound like a big deal, and something you needed to disclose, then she probably worried that there was a lot you weren't telling her.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?

Why dont yiu just use nanny #3 as a refrence. Yiu must have REALLY spooked her to make her take anothet jib. For anyone, takung a job 3 blocks away would be a dream come true. Thwre is probably mpre going on here.

I totally agree with the other posters - Nanny #1 was not a nanny so never mention her. You have had two nannies is two years - which isn't great but is not horrible. Anyway, you don't really have to mention #2 right away - just tell the candidate that your current nanny is leaving to work closer to her home and talk about how much you love her and will miss her. Eventually Nanny #4 will find about Nanny #2 but hopefully she will be so happy working for you that she won't care.

You don't have to disclose it, but if your daughter knows how to talk, then you might have to.

Explain the circumstances to the new prospective Nanny & make sure not to bad mouth the former Nannies.

This should be okay.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?

Did you explain what happened with the other 3? #1 doesn't even count -- she was a baby nurse, and not a nanny who did nanny things with your child. I probably wouldn't even admit to #2; she was there for such a short time.

I would present this as "Our nanny left because she was tired of the commute. That's one reason we were so happy to find you!" She probably thinks you fired two of them, and one couldn't stand you.

I should add that we have had 5 1/2 nannies (1 part time temp fill in). Nanny #1 (1.25 years) left b/c she found a job in her degree field. Nanny #2 (4 months) wanted full time hours and we only had part time. Nanny #3 (1.25 years) left to become a SAHM. We moved, leaving nanny #4 (1.5 years). Nanny #5 has been with us for three years. I have to say, I don't think I've ever listed all of our nannies for any candidates.

If a nanny had 5 1/2 jobs in the same amount of time, you wouldn't hire her. Why would a nanny want to work for someone who has had multiple nannies in a very short span if one. Both employer and employee scream major problems.

This is over 7 years.
We went from one child, part time care, to needing full time care.
We moved to a new state.
4 of the 5 stayed for over a year.
And, I have never had trouble hiring.

First, as a nanny, even if you told me the list of all the reasons your candidates had left, I would assume that in actuality you were just very difficult to work for and they were giving you fake reasons that wouldn't burn a bridge.

Second, I absolutely agree that the night nurse does not count as one of your nannies. Having to nannies so far for a toddler is a bit of a red flag but much less so than three nannies. I don't think it is lying to simply state that you had an original nanny that didn't work out and a second nanny that you loved but who left because of her commute. The biggest thing you could do to mitigate this would be to reach out to the nanny who just left and ask if she would be willing to speak with potential nannies and talk to them about her experience working for you. If you still have a good relationship with her, she should be willing to do this. I have done it for every family I've ever left where I could do it honestly.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?

Did you explain what happened with the other 3? #1 doesn't even count -- she was a baby nurse, and not a nanny who did nanny things with your child. I probably wouldn't even admit to #2; she was there for such a short time.

I would present this as "Our nanny left because she was tired of the commute. That's one reason we were so happy to find you!" She probably thinks you fired two of them, and one couldn't stand you.

I should add that we have had 5 1/2 nannies (1 part time temp fill in). Nanny #1 (1.25 years) left b/c she found a job in her degree field. Nanny #2 (4 months) wanted full time hours and we only had part time. Nanny #3 (1.25 years) left to become a SAHM. We moved, leaving nanny #4 (1.5 years). Nanny #5 has been with us for three years. I have to say, I don't think I've ever listed all of our nannies for any candidates.

If a nanny had 5 1/2 jobs in the same amount of time, you wouldn't hire her. Why would a nanny want to work for someone who has had multiple nannies in a very short span if one. Both employer and employee scream major problems.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?

Did you explain what happened with the other 3? #1 doesn't even count -- she was a baby nurse, and not a nanny who did nanny things with your child. I probably wouldn't even admit to #2; she was there for such a short time.

I would present this as "Our nanny left because she was tired of the commute. That's one reason we were so happy to find you!" She probably thinks you fired two of them, and one couldn't stand you.

I should add that we have had 5 1/2 nannies (1 part time temp fill in). Nanny #1 (1.25 years) left b/c she found a job in her degree field. Nanny #2 (4 months) wanted full time hours and we only had part time. Nanny #3 (1.25 years) left to become a SAHM. We moved, leaving nanny #4 (1.5 years). Nanny #5 has been with us for three years. I have to say, I don't think I've ever listed all of our nannies for any candidates.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?

Did you explain what happened with the other 3? #1 doesn't even count -- she was a baby nurse, and not a nanny who did nanny things with your child. I probably wouldn't even admit to #2; she was there for such a short time.

I would present this as "Our nanny left because she was tired of the commute. That's one reason we were so happy to find you!" She probably thinks you fired two of them, and one couldn't stand you.

Nanny #1 was a night nurse who never wanted to be a day nanny. #2 was a total mistake and was fired after calling in sick three times in one month and never being on time. #3 was great but decided to take a job closer to her home.

Okay... now we are interviewing for nanny #4 and found an amazing candidate who lives three blocks away. Because of her proximity she was willing to drop her hourly rate. DD loved her immediately - the nanny just had that "it" factor when it comes to kids. I loved her immediately. Everything was going great until she realized that DD has gone thru 3 nannies and the candidate's face changed. She was polite but I could tell that something was bothering her. Later she turned down our offer saying she accepted another position. I am beyond disappointed.

So, do I lie about how many nannies my child has had?