Do you dismiss her clearly ? I won't leave until I am dismissed. My boss says thank you so much, I've got them. If she doesn't say that I'm still working until she does.

Maybe you can ask her to write notes down? When I was a nanny I wrote down how much/what he ate....when he had a b/m or wet diaper. I sent her texts when we were going to the park/returned home from the park. Also i would send pictures often. Then whatever art project we did I has it laying on the dining table.

My boss says "I'll take over now, see you tomorrow!". I email her all day about things that come up so we don't need a nightly wrap up.

Anonymous wrote:I would chat with her for up to 5 minutes, and then tell her you're going to take the baby upstairs with you so you can get changed, and tell her you'll see her tomorrow.

This. And there is a possibility, if she is foreign, that she is waiting to be dismissed. She probably wants to leave as badly as you want her to leave.

My brother and his husband have had the same nanny for nearly 13 years and they still have to tell her it's okay to leave.

I would chat with her for up to 5 minutes, and then tell her you're going to take the baby upstairs with you so you can get changed, and tell her you'll see her tomorrow.

When I was a Nanny I wanted to tell the parents about the kids day and they pretty much shooed me out the door from day one. It was nice to be respected but I felt bad that they really had no idea what I and the kids had been up to all day.

Can you just say " I really need to run upstairs and take a shower" or something that you obviously need to do alone

We recently started with our first nanny who is a lovely woman. She's very social/chatty though and after I come home she often stays around for 30-45 min chatting. I have 1 hour with DS before his bedtime and I want to focus on him, not chat with our nanny about neighborhood gossip, the news, friends of hers etc. I don't mind doing this occasionally but how can I communicate that in general I'd like a quick check-in on his day and am happy to discuss anything we need to but then want her to leave so I can focus on him since I get so little time with him.