Anonymous wrote:To me a Nanny has a role in how the kids are raised and there every day well being. Provided enrichment activities, outings etc. It is a FT job

A babysitter is more watching and or supervising the kids for short periods of time, Its more of a PT gig.

Are you a nanny? Are you enriching your charge's life? Are you educating them? If so, please learn your homonyms.

A nanny is someone you employ FT to take care of childcare related duties not cleaning your house and cooking for your entire family including in-laws.

A babysitter is someone who you would call to watch your kids for a date night type event.

A mother's helper is someone you employ either FT/PT to help pick kids from school, help around house and do errands.

A house manager is someone you employ to oversee the logistics of everyday operation in the home. She/he can be in charge of ordering things for the home, managing other household staff, planning parties, etc... this person is appropriate for wealthy people living on estates and mansions.

To me a Nanny has a role in how the kids are raised and there every day well being. Provided enrichment activities, outings etc. It is a FT job

A babysitter is more watching and or supervising the kids for short periods of time, Its more of a PT gig.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree ^^^ that a full-time Nanny should grocery shop, pick up dry cleaning and buy birthday presents.

Those duties are not typical Nanny duties...They fall under house management duties.

And as children go to school, you can transition into a house manager role or transition to a new family. You don't suddenly get hours upon hours of free time.

This. You may not want to do those tasks but the family no longer needs hours and hours of childcare so you either find a way to add value and fill the time productively or you will be moving on one way or another.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree ^^^ that a full-time Nanny should grocery shop, pick up dry cleaning and buy birthday presents.

Those duties are not typical Nanny duties...They fall under house management duties.

And as children go to school, you can transition into a house manager role or transition to a new family. You don't suddenly get hours upon hours of free time.

I hate all of these stupid threads where nannies are like "No! That's a house manager role!" Do you know how few families have house managers? Come on.

Anonymous wrote:I disagree ^^^ that a full-time Nanny should grocery shop, pick up dry cleaning and buy birthday presents.

Those duties are not typical Nanny duties...They fall under house management duties.

And as children go to school, you can transition into a house manager role or transition to a new family. You don't suddenly get hours upon hours of free time.

I disagree ^^^ that a full-time Nanny should grocery shop, pick up dry cleaning and buy birthday presents.

Those duties are not typical Nanny duties...They fall under house management duties.

Are you the employer or the nanny?

If you are the employer, it is really tough to have the reset conversation at this point. Either your nanny is a self-starter or she isn't and IMO the easier thing for everyone is to hire a new caregiver who is a nanny/housekeeper and EXPECTS to do support tasks.

If you are the nanny, PP is right that a great nanny engages in at least some support tasks from day 1, and certainly should be taking on a lot by the time kids are 3+yo. Are you part time? Even when I was part time I would arrive at the house before the (school-aged) kids and rotate their laundry and prep dinner, then I would walk to the bus stop and supervise putting their stuff away and washing hands, etc. Then prep snack and fold laundry while they ate, then sit with them while they did HW, then they might have lessons or classes or clubs so I would bring books along for our activity and do reading with one while the others had a lesson, then arrive home and supervise showers and jammies and finally put the finishing touches on dinner before parents arrived home.

If I were full-time I would expect to handle groceries and other errands from picking up a display board for a project or a birthday present for so-and-so or dry cleaning for the parents and so on, and more active staying on top of school assignments and forms.

Just get a housekeeper who babysits, OP.

Nannying is both caring for the child so she develops, eats well, sleeps well, gets exercise and social activities, AND taking care of the house so your employer's can continue to work. The latter includes keeping the house neat and tidy; children's food, laundry, clothes; cooking for them when possible; driving the children or doing errands.

If all you are doing is babysitting then you are at risk of being replaced by a real nanny, a daycare facility, or a full-time pre-school. If you are providing real value to the family, you will be employable for years to the same family, like 6-10+ years, not just baby/toddler playtime.

Elaborate on your question please.

What's the difference between a nanny and a babysitter when you have a 3 yo and a 5 yo who go to school or camp part days.?
What should a nanny be doing for the kids, house or family?