Glad you cleared it up. I could totally see this happening with our nanny and our good family friends since it would be equally normal for either of them to tell/ask me.

I think that it is unacceptable. And I'm glad you cleared it up with your nanny, sounds like she's pretty reasonable. You should know who is driving your DC around. Commuting, be it cars, walking, etc is probably one of the most dangerous parts of the day and the others who are saying that this isn't a big deal would probably back up just about anything a nanny does.

Listen to your gut, it's probably right.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Turns out both my friend and the nanny thought the other one told me. The nanny actually asked me about it before I brought anything up to her. It was good we talked about it though and in the future everyone knows they need to discuss it with me.

You do not trust your nanny and sooner or later she will realize this and quit. I hope it is sooner.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Turns out both my friend and the nanny thought the other one told me. The nanny actually asked me about it before I brought anything up to her. It was good we talked about it though and in the future everyone knows they need to discuss it with me.

Thank you for the update. Funny how fast everyone rushed to judgment. I had asked about the nanny's reason for doing it.

OP here. Turns out both my friend and the nanny thought the other one told me. The nanny actually asked me about it before I brought anything up to her. It was good we talked about it though and in the future everyone knows they need to discuss it with me.

What was the nanny's reason for doing this??

Not ok. In an emergency like the nanny had been in a terrible accident I think it would be ok to do that without going through you. I would never not ask permission .

Anonymous wrote:If you are paying nanny to get your child and she could not she should contact you to make other arrangements. No ok.

I am a nanny and I agree that it is unacceptable. The nanny should have asked you if she couldn't get the child herself.

Nanny here. She shoud have asked for your permission for your friend to pick up your daughter. You have every right to know where your daughter is at any time of the day and by whom she is transported.

If you are paying nanny to get your child and she could not she should contact you to make other arrangements. No ok.

Anonymous wrote:Given that it it a good friend of yours, I wouldn't be overly concerned. I would assume that they trade off pick ups when they have a play date after. I would tell nanny that you want to know both when your child is in the car with another person (approved person only) or when she (nanny) is driving other children while on the clock. But again, I wouldn't be overly concerned in this specific situation.

+1, I wouldn't be overly concerned about this incident but I would definitely talk to the nanny about wanting to know where and with whom my kid is at all times.

Fire her and you stay home with your kid so you know what she is doing every single moment of her life.

Given that it it a good friend of yours, I wouldn't be overly concerned. I would assume that they trade off pick ups when they have a play date after. I would tell nanny that you want to know both when your child is in the car with another person (approved person only) or when she (nanny) is driving other children while on the clock. But again, I wouldn't be overly concerned in this specific situation.

My husband came home early this afternoon to find a good friend of ours and her DD at our house for a play date with our DD and our nanny. That's totally fine and as long as my DD still had time to nap I don't care what play dates they have. BUT it turns out our friend picked up my DD from camp today instead of our nanny as was planned. This friend has picked our DD up before (her DD and my DD are at camp together) so our nanny knows I trust this friend but it feels weird to me that no one told me. Is it unreasonable of me to expect to be told something like this? Just a simple text wouldn't have been hard. I feel like I should know whose car my child is in. I also am concerned this is a slippery slope for our nanny.