Anonymous wrote:My advice is don't work for SAHMs

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My advice is don't work for SAHMs

OP here: not from the states so its a bit of a different situation. I am a paid nanny not caregiver and there is nothing that says i can't be left alone with the kids lol! like i said i keep them at my house a few days a week. Im just as qualified as the mom!

Anonymous wrote:She keeps saying she is going back to work soon but to be honest I don't think it will ever happen. I am paid thru insurance so it's pretty well but I could make the same in a nanny share situation. If I do leave at this point o worry about the months notice. She is really hard to work with and I worry that it will be even worse if I don't have a good reason for giving notice. She has asked me to spend 10 YEARS with them. There is talk about going on a 15 hour road trip that was just expected for me to attended. I have other commitments that I can't just up and leave for a week. They want to go on another trip where we all (5) share a hotel room

If you are paid by insurance you probably signed an agreement with them. You are not a nanny but a caregiver. Depending on the insurance, you may not be able to be left alone for extended periods of time as it is not child care. Insurance isn't going to pay for you to go on vacation with them. The child has to be severely disabled to get insurance to pay for care. There is a lot you are leaving out and don't sound qualified to care for a SN child.

Why on Earth didn't you quit after the first week?

Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a true nanny with a SAHM.

This is so darn true!

Oh!!! Grandma lives at home too. Why haven't I quit!?

She keeps saying she is going back to work soon but to be honest I don't think it will ever happen. I am paid thru insurance so it's pretty well but I could make the same in a nanny share situation. If I do leave at this point o worry about the months notice. She is really hard to work with and I worry that it will be even worse if I don't have a good reason for giving notice. She has asked me to spend 10 YEARS with them. There is talk about going on a 15 hour road trip that was just expected for me to attended. I have other commitments that I can't just up and leave for a week. They want to go on another trip where we all (5) share a hotel room

You cannot be a true nanny with a SAHM.

Yeah no way would I work for a SAHM ever again. I'm experienced enough to pick and choose jobs and it will be with parents who leave the house!

You are nothing more than a glorified mother's helper when you work with a SAHM. I know - I did it and it was horrid. Please, OP - start looking for another job NOW and give notice when you find one.

I started with a new family after my awful experience with a SAHM - a newborn with a mother and father who leave the house every morning at 7:30 AM and don't come back until 5PM. I plan my charge's day and take her to classes, outings, play-date as well as organize her reading time and quiet independent play. The parents allowed me to design and purchase the baby's entire new playroom. My charge and I have our routine, our "friends", our life. It is a brilliant job and the reason I love being a nanny.

I hope they pay you very well... or I'd leave.

For example on some specifics... Mom is home all the time. I have stressed that it is very hard for me to care for them in their home. I bring the kids to my house a couple days a week after we do an outing. We head back tot house straight after nap. With mom there I'm not sure what to do. She wants the kids to play on their own and learn to entertain themselves so I just end up in the kitchen with the baby while she's making dinner. just hold him and talking to her. Or sitting on the couch watching him play while she cooks. I find that she always has something to complain about her kids. in a very passive aggressive way will say "Oh the kids can't play on their own anymore because they are entertained too much during the day" - I am a HUGE supporter of independent play and the kids are completely different with me then they are with her. Its frustrating when I am blamed for the kids bad behaviour in the evening. There is so much more that goes on that I'm too mentally drained to get into

I have been working with this family for over a year now. a bit of a back story - youngest has CP which was caused by an accident. mom stays because she was in an accident and can't work. Even tho I have worked with them for a year it seems that it was a bit of a honeymoon period at the beginning. There are 3 kids in total.

I understand that having a child with special needs can be very tiring and can completely relate. But working 40 plus hours a week with a mom who's parenting skills are extremely lacking is very emotionally tiring. Mom is very over protective and over thinks everything. I just need advice!