Anonymous wrote:If you are doing a great job with her child, that is all the MB should care about. I don't think this is a "toxic" situation and probably happens more times than not. You do not have to like your boss. You do not have to like your employee. Everyone needs to be a grown-up and understand why this position exists (childcare) and what is most important (childcare).

seriously, you must be living under a rock if you never heard of one of those reports about a disgruntled nanny who snapped and drowned the kids. A nanny working for a family in their home isn't a big corporation with lots of departments and rules so yes both parties must like the situation to work together long term.

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Anonymous wrote:Smile and nod. Accept her suggestions with a peaceful heart because you're going to gtfo in a few short months.

Make a point to treat every day with the child you care for as if it's your last. This way if you're let go you'll have those nice memories of a job well done. If you have a mental end in sight, no matter how the MB is, you can get through it. Nod and smile.

This.

Bad advice.

It will never work because of the risk of resentment getting in the way.

Do not listen to this.

If you are doing a great job with her child, that is all the MB should care about. I don't think this is a "toxic" situation and probably happens more times than not. You do not have to like your boss. You do not have to like your employee. Everyone needs to be a grown-up and understand why this position exists (childcare) and what is most important (childcare).

IMO if you truly need life advise, this website isn't it. I am not a mother yet but I wouldn't leave my child for a second with someone who truly resent me. Also, as a nanny I wouldn't work for someone who can't stand the site of me in their home. This is toxic for all involve and the OP should be the bigger person and quit now. The mother will get temp childcare and you can go drive with Uber or think of something else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smile and nod. Accept her suggestions with a peaceful heart because you're going to gtfo in a few short months.

Make a point to treat every day with the child you care for as if it's your last. This way if you're let go you'll have those nice memories of a job well done. If you have a mental end in sight, no matter how the MB is, you can get through it. Nod and smile.

You sound like a doormat.

You sound like an idiot. OP only has five months to go and she knows it. OP has the upper hand here. No one wants to start looking for another job and accepting another job for only four of five months.

Anonymous wrote:Smile and nod. Accept her suggestions with a peaceful heart because you're going to gtfo in a few short months.

Make a point to treat every day with the child you care for as if it's your last. This way if you're let go you'll have those nice memories of a job well done. If you have a mental end in sight, no matter how the MB is, you can get through it. Nod and smile.

You sound like a doormat.

Anonymous wrote:Smile and nod. Accept her suggestions with a peaceful heart because you're going to gtfo in a few short months.

Make a point to treat every day with the child you care for as if it's your last. This way if you're let go you'll have those nice memories of a job well done. If you have a mental end in sight, no matter how the MB is, you can get through it. Nod and smile.

This.

OP again and thank you, everyone, for responding. It is used to be a really good job - I honestly don't know what went wrong.

Smile and nod. Accept her suggestions with a peaceful heart because you're going to gtfo in a few short months.

Make a point to treat every day with the child you care for as if it's your last. This way if you're let go you'll have those nice memories of a job well done. If you have a mental end in sight, no matter how the MB is, you can get through it. Nod and smile.

It is to the point now where her anger has reached its threshold & she is being passive/agressive w/you.

I have a feeling one of you may blow up in the next five months which would be sad considering there is a child involved here.

You have two options:
A.) Talk out whatever has gotten you guys to this point & either work it out or at the very least....Agree to be civil for the sake of her son.

Or:
B.) Leave in the next few weeks as staying in this environment will not end well.
The dynamic that you described is like a time bomb.
Again, think about the child involved here.

Good luck to you.
It's not easy, I know.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can't you retire now or in September?

I am joining the Peace Corp with training in January.

That right there makes you a good person, imo.

She sounds selfish and/or insecure.
What do you think, OP?

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you retire now or in September?

I am joining the Peace Corp with training in January.

Why can't you retire now or in September?

My employer and I used to like each other. Now, after two years, our dislike for each other is obvious. She probably won't fire me because her son loves me and learns a lot from me. I won't leave until December when I plan to retire from being a nanny (she doesn't know this).

How do I best continue on? Today she gave me attitude about not knowing who her sister/in-law was when I'd never met her before.

We are at odds with each other constantly now and both try to stay out of the others way.