Anonymous wrote:Kids go through a new period of independence around that age, again at 9 and again at 13-15. Nannies should be aware of this.

Your nanny may be pulling back so it isn't as frustrating.

Independence isn't rudeness, PP. Hate to break it to you.

Kids go through a new period of independence around that age, again at 9 and again at 13-15. Nannies should be aware of this.

Your nanny may be pulling back so it isn't as frustrating.

Children of that age should know basic social skills and how to behave. If they don't, there is clearly an issue or parenting has been lax.

Anonymous wrote:'The poor child'? I am sure they know exactly what they are doing. I agree the OP should speak to the kid to reinforce manners and how to speak to people but I don't think the kid is as innocent as you make out PP.

I disagree. I do not think a child knows that his bad behavior results in strangers, teacher, nannies and family members disapproving of him or not liking him. He will just grow up feeling unlikable and at odds with the world.

'The poor child'? I am sure they know exactly what they are doing. I agree the OP should speak to the kid to reinforce manners and how to speak to people but I don't think the kid is as innocent as you make out PP.

You should address the problem with your child and NOT the nanny!! If the nanny feels this way, you can bet your child's teachers, her relatives and family friends feel this way, too. Your poor child feels the disapproval and distancing from adults but doesn't know how to stop her behavior - that is your job to teach her. Work with the nanny to correct your kid's bad behavior but do not think for one second that your nanny is doing anything wrong. I know fathers who distance themselves from their own bratty and badly behaved children.

This is your problem as a parent to solve. Solve it.

I'm not surprised either. Like someone else said, she is probably trying to protect herself as she knows the care she feels for your kid isn't reciprocated. I would do the same.

Anonymous wrote:Emotionally from DD. Nanny used to be very loving and give a lot of hugs to DD who is 7.
DD has been difficult and rude to her lately and nanny doesn't seem happy. She is still doing a fantastic job but the warmth seems to have disappeared. Should I mention it?

Who can blame her? Your kid is a rude brat that, apparently, only a mother could live.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, maybe because your child is a brat. I lose interest in kids when they're rude to me, while I'm trying to love them and create fun activities for them. What do you think how it feels if I'm loving your child, and your child is rude to me?!?!?!
It's very offensive. Teach your child how to be respectful, or else no nanny will want to work for you! We are not slaves/maids.

Nanny here and I agree. My current charge is also 7, and turning into quite the spoiled brat. She is rude and disrespectful to me, tells me no and just doesn't want to listen to me. Part of it I believe is just her age, but also her upbringing and the way her parents treat her, like a princess. It's very hurtful and upsetting to me because as you said you love the child and just want to have a fun time with them and they are preventing that from happening.

You should mention to your nanny that you are aware of DD's recent behavior and you are taking steps to correct it. Don't blame the nanny for not showing warmth.

She cares a lot about your kid but knows it isn't reciprocated so is protecting herself.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, maybe because your child is a brat. I lose interest in kids when they're rude to me, while I'm trying to love them and create fun activities for them. What do you think how it feels if I'm loving your child, and your child is rude to me?!?!?!
It's very offensive. Teach your child how to be respectful, or else no nanny will want to work for you! We are not slaves/maids.

Elementary-aged children can be difficult, and they are growing out of the "cute" that made them tolerable when they were younger. They also don't nap, though they should do quiet time, IMO. If the 7-year-old is usually in school, and is now home for the summer, she is acting like most 7-year-olds. It is a challenge, and I hope this MB can acknowledge that with her nanny, and maybe ask what she can do to make it easier for the nanny.

Maybe nanny is fatigued and staying up too late.

Hmmm, maybe because your child is a brat. I lose interest in kids when they're rude to me, while I'm trying to love them and create fun activities for them. What do you think how it feels if I'm loving your child, and your child is rude to me?!?!?!
It's very offensive. Teach your child how to be respectful, or else no nanny will want to work for you! We are not slaves/maids.

Emotionally from DD. Nanny used to be very loving and give a lot of hugs to DD who is 7.
DD has been difficult and rude to her lately and nanny doesn't seem happy. She is still doing a fantastic job but the warmth seems to have disappeared. Should I mention it?