Who works for a hobby? Having said that the way a lot of MBS act it is like they think we do this for fun.

Unless you are working for a hobby and do not need the money then anytime they eff with your hours/money, tell them this is unacceptable. If it happens a second time, quit on the spot as not paying you properly is a valid reason for quitting and you are eligible to collect unemployment compensation.

Anonymous wrote:It is very clear to me that this family does not value you as a person & the invaluable service that you provide for their family.

It seems they take you for granted and do not make your feelings a priority in their minds.

So disrespectful in my opinion.

Their treatment of you is not going to change at all and since it is causing you all kinds of stress, my best advice to you would be to leave now.

Give notice.
There are many families out there who treat their Nannies w/more respect + dignity, etc.

And they deserve you more than this family does.

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Good luck to you.

I am not OP but this advice really helped me.

She is clearly mad at you by not responding to the texts. Stop sending them, it makes you sound needy. She feels powerful by not answering because she knows it upsets you.

They are not nice people, you should quit by the end of the summer and give more hours to your other job. And next time ask for guaranteed hours. All nannies should do that.

Good luck

OP here. Sent the mom videos and pictures of the kids in karate where I took them to, and still again today, she hasn't responded, this is really messed up!!! Not sure how I should feel, but it makes me really sad. I hope one day these parents realize who their nannys actually are.
My other job wants to give me more hours in the afternoons, so I could quit this job by the end of summer and just do the other job during these hours. Not sure what I'll do, have to think about it more. Will update. Thank you again!!!

What are the basic terms and expectations of your role? I can't tell if you are full time part time or what the actual issue is. If they are cancelling in your due to family house guests are you still making your guaranteed minimum or making it up at another time?

It is very clear to me that this family does not value you as a person & the invaluable service that you provide for their family.

It seems they take you for granted and do not make your feelings a priority in their minds.

So disrespectful in my opinion.

Their treatment of you is not going to change at all and since it is causing you all kinds of stress, my best advice to you would be to leave now.

Give notice.
There are many families out there who treat their Nannies w/more respect + dignity, etc.

And they deserve you more than this family does.

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Good luck to you.

OP here, yes, getting a written contract is really the best idea... should have done that.
Just so annoyed!
Thank you all soooo much for your response, and sorry to he poster who is going through the same, and any body else.
I decided to wait till tomorrow and see how it goes, I sent the mom pictures of us playing on the playground yesterday, and a follow up text saying all went well, have a good evening,
See you on Thursday with a smiley. Till now I haven't heard anything.
So I'll see how tomorrow goes, and then I'll decide. I have another job so it's not the end of the world for me, it's just not my professionalism to quit on people like that.
I made a commitment with them to stay till at least next year summer, and the kids really like me. I'm hank you again I will update tomorrow

What did you decide to do, OP?

Anonymous wrote:What it comes down to though really PP is asshole bosses who think they can screw over their nannies. Yes there should be a contract in place but the reality is, it shouldn't be happening at all and that is on the MB/DB

Of course people shouldn't be taken advantage of in the workplace. But if life worked as it should things would be all sunshine and roses.

If you're a professional get your job specifics in writing. Then fault an employer for not living up to an agreement. If you're not professional enough to do that then you can pretty much guarantee that you will be taken advantage of - whether you're the nanny or the employer whose nanny doesn't show up on time, spend the day on the phone, takes tons of emergency sick days, brings people over to your house, hits your child, teaches your child religious beliefs which you don't support, smokes, etc...

What it comes down to though really PP is asshole bosses who think they can screw over their nannies. Yes there should be a contract in place but the reality is, it shouldn't be happening at all and that is on the MB/DB

Anonymous wrote:You really have three options here:

1) Quit.
2) Ask politely for a meeting, clear the air, and address guaranteed hour and any other areas where you don't have a firm agreement in writing.
3) Continue to pretend like nothing happened, and wait and see.

I strongly suggest 2. At the very least, you will get a definitive answer about whether or not they plan to pay you in similar circumstances going forward, and then you'll know if you need to quit.

I fully agree w/ all of this advice.

And, regarding PP's comment, nannies should all be certain to have these things settled in writing before taking a job. Problems like this arise where there are unprofessional or inexperienced parties on both sides.

I feel the same and am going through an identical situation. Someone recommended sending an email with all the points addressed.

We both deserve better and it is a shame parents exploit good nannies.

You really have three options here:

1) Quit.
2) Ask politely for a meeting, clear the air, and address guaranteed hour and any other areas where you don't have a firm agreement in writing.
3) Continue to pretend like nothing happened, and wait and see.

I strongly suggest 2. At the very least, you will get a definitive answer about whether or not they plan to pay you in similar circumstances going forward, and then you'll know if you need to quit.

So I've been working for this nice family for about 2 months, things have been going great until they started canceling on me and not paying for my time.
I addressed the issue with them right away last week, and now it seems like the parents have been upset about it or something. Their family is in town so I haven't seen the mom for over a week, and last night I ran into the das just as he parked his car as I was leaving. He seemed to be wanting to avoid me, but I stopped to say hi and that the kids and I had a great day at the playground. The kids and I made some nice Father's Day gifts and he didn't say thank you.

I'm just getting so annoyed with being a wonderful nanny who the kids like, and having to be annoyed or quitting bc the parents drive me crazy.
I don't want to keep being taken advantage of, so I speak up, and then they're upset. I can't win.
Sorry just needed to vent thank you