Anonymous
Post 06/11/2017 09:45     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
OP here. Brings her own, not that I see any evidence of her eating in terms of wrappers, packets etc....
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2017 19:19     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
Does she eat your food or bring her own?
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2017 19:12     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
Anonymous wrote:Problem with that PP is that she is bound to say she is fine even if she is not. I would be a bit more direct if I was really concerned. Yes there are boundaries but I wouldn't be okay if I didn't think my nanny was okay if that makes sense.


Actually, she's not necessarily going to say that if she has been looking for an opening to talk about something. However, if she does say that, she's an adult and she's allowed to be as private as she wants about her health.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2017 18:00     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
Problem with that PP is that she is bound to say she is fine even if she is not. I would be a bit more direct if I was really concerned. Yes there are boundaries but I wouldn't be okay if I didn't think my nanny was okay if that makes sense.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2017 17:57     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
I'm an MB and my kid's nanny always asks how I'm doing (when I obviously tired, and/or when she knows I've come back from a 2-week trip 8 time zones away...). I also always ask her if she is ok, if she seems sluggish or low-energy. But I would never say "you look pale/skinny/etc." Just ask her how she is doing, genuinely, and consider offering a few extra hours free to let her rest if you can manage an early pickup or later morning drop-off.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2017 14:37     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
'Larla, Are you okay? You are looking a little pale lately and just wanted to check in to see if there was anything I could do.'
I wouldn't ignore it, just word it politely.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2017 20:48     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
It is none if your business. You would have a fit if she commented on how you look. Nannies are employees not a slave owned by you. BOUNDARIES
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2017 17:34     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
I wouldn't say anything less she gets offended.

But I do understand your genuine concern.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2017 11:58     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
I might say that I understand wanting to keep things personal, but I couldn't help but notice you seem pale lately and I'm hoping you're feeling alright.

Then leave it.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2017 11:13     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
It is always ok to ask, nicely, and with concern, if someone you see every day is feeling ok if they look sick. It is never ok to comment on someone's appearance. Fi she says she's fine, then drop it.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2017 10:55     Subject: If you felt nanny was looking too skinny
And ill (pale and tired looking) would you say something?