Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny. And I am puzzled at your post. You should mind your own business and remain professional.

+1000

You are waaaaay overstepping the boundaries here OP. And the "my kids..." stuff is especially out of line.

Crazy nanny alert!

"my oldest" "my toddler" +
Snooping in bathroom drawers
=
get yourself under control and maybe consider a different line of work.

I can't wrap my head around it either. If she's been at her new job only a month but shes far along in her pregnancy to show, she got that job knowing she was pregnant. You should decide whether you want to care fir 3 kids. If yes, you should ask her if she's going to become a SAHM after the third child or still need you as a nanny. Your question would be valid. You could wait another 1-2 months to ask this question but at some point she must tell you.

Why are you working for this dysfunctional family? Find another job and leave! The ifiit father should have had a vascetomy.

I am a nanny. And I am puzzled at your post. You should mind your own business and remain professional.

None of your business. Who do you think you are??

Wait....Did you go snooping through your MB's drawers & you found the positive pregnancy test or was it already opened and you just glanced over and saw the test w/the two blue lines??

And their child is medicated and has to sleep in the basement....??!

OP, I would mention something to your MB if it is actually very OBVIOUS that she is pregnant.

Otherwise it will be the elephant in the room and get more + more awkward over time.

Anonymous wrote:So you only want to work with one child. OK.

Maybe she's fat. Maybe she's not sure the baby is viable. Maybe she's deciding whether to stay home. Who knows why she hasn't told you.

You can ask her, which might go fine, or you can wait. Either way, you need to decide if you are going to leave if they have another. Your comfort as a nanny is not something they considered (or should consider) when deciding about a second child, so if you plan to be negative about it when she tells you, maybe you should just move on anyway.

Even though this poster seemed to miss the fact that there already ARE two kids (new baby would be the THIRD, not second), there are a lot of truths here. Having been burned by a pregnant MB deciding to become a stay at home mom at the last possible moment (giving me, her nanny of 3.5 years, 3 weeks notice), I would definitely consider that as a possibility. Especially since she knows how you reacted last time she casually brought up having another baby, she probably realizes you won't be supportive. And being so new at her job she may not get much maternity leave anyway.

But, even if they don't let you go, the question is: would you really want to stay?

Also please don't refer to your nanny charges as "my oldest" and "my youngest."

I don't get why you are looking in her bathroom drawer? Were you snooping or did she leave it somewhere she'd expect you to see it?

So you only want to work with one child. OK.

Maybe she's fat. Maybe she's not sure the baby is viable. Maybe she's deciding whether to stay home. Who knows why she hasn't told you.

You can ask her, which might go fine, or you can wait. Either way, you need to decide if you are going to leave if they have another. Your comfort as a nanny is not something they considered (or should consider) when deciding about a second child, so if you plan to be negative about it when she tells you, maybe you should just move on anyway.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you bring your child to your job?

what? no. When I say "my" I am referring to my charges lol

Your post is very confusing. They are not your kids.

NP. Sure. Lol.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you bring your child to your job?

what? no. When I say "my" I am referring to my charges lol

Your post is very confusing. They are not your kids.

Anonymous wrote:So you bring your child to your job?

what? no. When I say "my" I am referring to my charges lol

So you bring your child to your job?

And she is actually starting to show a little. I have extremely mixed feelings about this.

My oldest has a lot of issues and we go to OT and water therapy 2 times per week each. He has a specialist that has to be with him in class because his moods are too unpredictable. His parents have been given a lot of guidance and tools to deal with it but all of the therapists basically end up being frank with me and say that if the parents would utilize the tools and be more consistent he would overcome most of it because most of it is behavioral. My toddler is mimicking his behavior. The toddler is 28 months and still only has about 10 words that actually sound like real words but the rest is babble and he is way behind. We now have him in speech therapy (thank God)

A year ago Mb joked about another baby. I laughed. They have their hands so full and Db doesn't want more. He is always on edge as it is and can only take the oldest in small doses. The grandparents are very hands off and practically want nothing to do with the kids which is sad. Same for aunts and uncles with the exception of mb's brother that comes to town about twice a year.

Mb lost her job months ago and worked hard to find another job. I did notice a few months ago during her search she had stocked up on pregnancy tests. Then I saw the vitamins. A week after that I saw a positive test in her bathroom drawer. (its still there) This evening in her baggy dress I saw the bump when she brushed her dress on the counter. She has only been at this new job for about a month.

Im feeling anxious about all of this. We have worked so hard to get my oldest to adjust to not getting much time with his parents and to deal with his jealousy over the youngest and limit his attention seeking behaviors. Now to think that this will all have a newborn added is crazy to me. This is a child that can get so out of control that he has to be put in the basement and medicated to sleep.

Why would she bring a baby into this environment? I can't wrap my head around it. I feel like Im going to have to leave. Its been about 2 years and I love them dearly but I just don't know...