Yes, OP, you ask her for extras too much. She is tired of it. Take the hint and stop.

The bottom line is she realized its ridiculous for HER to be apologizing and explaining herself to you when she has nothing to be sorry for. When she isn't available for something she isn't available and she should not have to give an explanation or say "sorry, but I". Its none of your business why she says no and that dawned on her. A simple "No" should suffice.

I am not chiming in on all of the "she is over you" or taking advantage stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:How often are you asking her?

This. I have had the same nanny for over five years and have never asked them to come in on a day off. I think we've asked about staying late twice? Both times it was a "stuck in traffic, trying to get home" situation.

Have you ever asked her if she wants the extra work? I asked mine, she is always babysitting on the side anyway. I give her "right of first refusal" most of the time.

I am like your nanny. I just got tired of explaining myself. When I would give a reason, I was asked to move it around. Like cancel my Drs appt so they could go to theirs lol. I either say "no" or " unfortunately I can't "

Anonymous wrote:How often are you asking her?

This. I have had the same nanny for over five years and have never asked them to come in on a day off. I think we've asked about staying late twice? Both times it was a "stuck in traffic, trying to get home" situation.

I personally think she is just getting tired of being asked these things & this is her way of letting you know.

She's likely hoping that you eventually "get the hint."

I would just figure that this is what she means + not approach her to see if this is indeed the case.

Doing so may put her (unfairly) in an awkward position.

If she says, "No because..." Do you take that as a no or do you say, "well, could you come before or after the bat mitzvah?" Etc. If you aren't respecting her more polite "no, because," she may be changing her wording to eliminate the back-and-forth.

MB here. She is tired of you asking because she wants her time off and doesn't feel like satisfying your requests in the past were worth giving up her time.

She is over you. You asked too much, too often. She is currently looking for another job.

It's possible she is tired of the requests but it's equally possible she a) is tired of typing out the reason on a tiny keyboard or b) she realized it doesn't matter what the reason it since the answer is still no.

That said even if I were sick of you, I'd still at least add a sorry to it...sorry, no.

Yeah, she does sound fed up. Show her you really appreciate her otherwise she will find another job.

Yeah, she is over you.

How often are you asking her?

She is probably tired of you taking, or attempting, to take advantage of her.

Our nanny used to text or say the latter when saying she couldn't do a request we made of her. She would always say she was sorry and explain why she couldn't come with us for the weekend, work late, come in on her day off, or any other request we made that was above and beyond her duties. Now she just says or texts "No".

There is nothing wrong with saying/texting "no", of course. I am just wondering if this shift is a signal of her unhappiness with us as a whole or if she is tired of me asking... Is it something I should bring up with her?