Anonymous wrote:Occasionally, but it is far from my first assumption. Kids are jerks.

lol sorry but this really made me giggle. My Db came home tonight talking about how much of a "jerk" our 2 year old was being to him this morning before I arrived. I was initially shocked that he said it to his face but at the same time have to appreciate that I have parents that don't have their heads in the sand about when their kids are straight up brats.

He called our 4 year old a jerk to one of his teachers during a home visit and the lady pulled me to the side when we left in disbelief and thought she needed her hearing checked. It took everything in me to not say "Well he is right. little johnny is a jerk most of the time"

I get the impression that my MB thinks her kids poor behavior is down to me. She is way too soft with her and thinks she can do no wrong. Very hard to nanny for someone like that and it makes me want to change jobs.

It depends. Usually it's not. Occasionally it is. Just like it's occasionally my fault when my DD misbehaves, but it's usually not. Probably more often my fault than the nanny's. Most often either DD's "fault" or no one's fault, depending on how exactly you mean "fault."

I am sure you are not PP. He probably just feels comfortable enough with you to misbehave if that makes sense? I am sure you are an amazing mom.

No. My child rarely misbehaved with the nanny and always misbehaves with me. Makes me feel bad and I don't know what I am doing wrong. I see him on the nanny cam picking up his toys the first time she asks, saying please and thank you to her without prompting, never screaming as if he were getting a spinal tap when nanny washes his hair, etc.

I am doing something wrong.

No. But what gets me are the number of nannies on this board who seem to think it's the MB's fault if their disciplinary strategies aren't working (you know, because we aren't consistent in the nanny's off hours).

There is no magic to make kids behave all the time, and with each developmental stage and growth spurt, each time sleep is disrupted or holiday excitement fills the house, or each time they aren't feeling great (colds, new teeth, whatever), kids will act out or find new ways to push their boundaries.

I don't blame the nanny, and I don't blame myself either. I'm pretty sure my kids are misbehaving well within the normal range.

Occasionally, but it is far from my first assumption. Kids are jerks.

MB'S do you ever feel it is the nanny's fault when your child misbehaves and doesn't listen to her?