Anonymous
05/25/2017 08:03
Subject: Re:Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
I am a nanny! I think you should definitely ask, but talk to your friend first. Taking care of your charge will be temporary; the nanny will appreciate the extra money. There is nothing to lose in asking... Best of luck!!!
Anonymous
05/25/2017 06:29
Subject: Re:Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
I think it depends on how old your son is. This is a different request if he is a toddler vs a 4 year old.
Anonymous
05/25/2017 01:04
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ok, tide shifting! This is why I asked...
I'm a little surprised that someone would be "furious" at this request, but point well taken about putting either the nanny or the MB/DB in awkward situation if they prefer to refuse.
NP here and I would be furious at the request, too. I am the kind of person who hates to say no to anyone. People always say, "It doesn't hurt to ask" but my position is "it doesn't hurt YOU to ask - it hurts me like hell to have to say no". Plus I think it is insulting to the nanny - I am sure she has her days full with her current charge/charges and even asking is implying that she could do it.
Lastly, I would not want my child to feel second best to the nanny and that is what you child would be. Her loyalty, love and concern are for her charge and not your child.
If you hate to say no to anyone, that's your own issue. It's much easier and healthier to learn to set boundaries than to stew in silent fury.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 22:10
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Anonymous wrote:Ok, tide shifting! This is why I asked...
I'm a little surprised that someone would be "furious" at this request, but point well taken about putting either the nanny or the MB/DB in awkward situation if they prefer to refuse.
NP here and I would be furious at the request, too. I am the kind of person who hates to say no to anyone. People always say, "It doesn't hurt to ask" but my position is "it doesn't hurt YOU to ask - it hurts me like hell to have to say no". Plus I think it is insulting to the nanny - I am sure she has her days full with her current charge/charges and even asking is implying that she could do it.
Lastly, I would not want my child to feel second best to the nanny and that is what you child would be. Her loyalty, love and concern are for her charge and not your child.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 15:28
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Ok, tide shifting! This is why I asked...
I'm a little surprised that someone would be "furious" at this request, but point well taken about putting either the nanny or the MB/DB in awkward situation if they prefer to refuse.
I'm a little surprised that someone would be "furious" at this request, but point well taken about putting either the nanny or the MB/DB in awkward situation if they prefer to refuse.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 14:37
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Anonymous wrote:Thanks! Just wanted to make sure the request seemed fair/not like an attempt to take advantage of anyone.
It is not fair, OP. Who are you going to ask first? The mother or the nanny? Ask the mother first and the nanny feels like property. Ask the nanny first and the mother is the bad guy if she says no.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 14:34
Subject: Re:Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
I am a nanny and I would be angry if anyone ever asked me this!! I would do a nanny share if I wanted two kids and will never jump up and down in glee just to make a few bucks more for a few weeks. It is insulting, OP.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 14:32
Subject: Re:Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
As an MB, I would be furious if a friend or neighbor ever requested such a thing. Make your own childcare arrangements and don't inconvenience me or overburden our amazing nanny.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 13:53
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
No. You should not ask because it puts the nanny in a very bad situation. Maybe she does not want to watch your kid for a variety of reasons take your vacation and take care if your own kid. I am not a nanny.
Anonymous
05/24/2017 12:04
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Thanks! Just wanted to make sure the request seemed fair/not like an attempt to take advantage of anyone.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 21:13
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
I would definitely ask.
You have nothing to lose by asking.
Plus what you are offering monetarily is fair & good.
You have nothing to lose by asking.
Plus what you are offering monetarily is fair & good.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 19:41
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Ask your friend first. She might not want nanny's attention taken away from her kids.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 18:15
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Yep, ask.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 17:35
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
Seems reasonable to me. No harm in asking, the nanny might appreciate the extra income, I know I always like it when MB asks me to look after her friends kids here and there alongside my charge.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 15:38
Subject: Is this reasonable to ask of friends/their nanny
We are looking for coverage while our nanny is on vacation. Have a few friends that also have nannies with kids similar ages and thought about asking if they would ask their nanny if willing to also watch our son for the week- We thought we would offer to pay extra $10/hr and then split total with the family? So for example if nanny usually makes $20, she would make $30 of which we would Pay $15. Our son is pretty easy to deal with and we would bring him to family's house. Does this seem like a reasonable proposal or if not what would you suggest?