Anonymous
05/23/2017 22:23
Subject: Monday's!!!!
I think a "thank you" would be nice, but by the end of the day, maybe they just don't even remember that it was super messy in the morning. They are paying you to do cleaning, so I think it's reasonable -- just annoying.
FWIW, I'm a SAHM, and our house is a disaster after the weekend. I have no idea why, but having my DH around and both kids home for the whole weekend just generates a mess -- even though during the week I'm home with a toddler and an older kid who is only in preschool part-time. I usually take Monday mornings to do a massive amount of cleaning while my older kid is in preschool and my younger is playing and helping me around the house. It might just be that things build up when they're all there, and they aren't used to taking care of it themselves because you are. Sorry -- it's frustrating, but you can't do much about it besides wish they were a bit more gracious.
FWIW, I'm a SAHM, and our house is a disaster after the weekend. I have no idea why, but having my DH around and both kids home for the whole weekend just generates a mess -- even though during the week I'm home with a toddler and an older kid who is only in preschool part-time. I usually take Monday mornings to do a massive amount of cleaning while my older kid is in preschool and my younger is playing and helping me around the house. It might just be that things build up when they're all there, and they aren't used to taking care of it themselves because you are. Sorry -- it's frustrating, but you can't do much about it besides wish they were a bit more gracious.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 14:58
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Anonymous wrote:As someone with a housekeeper who routinely picks up on Monday morning, I can tell you that you are improving this family's quality of life immeasurably.
Why don't they pick up on the weekend? I don't know, exactly, but I know for us, DH and I are trying to do household tasks while the kids play, and then we go to events or on outings. When we're home, we're not all playing together as a group, and the house can get wrecked, especially if its a rainy weekend.
We ask them to help pick up as we can, but sometimes this wrecking is occurring while we're trying to make dinner, and then it's bedtime, and then, no, I don't want to clean the house. Having a housekeeper was an investment we made in our marriage.
We only have one school-aged child at this point (the others are pre-school and at home), but I am also assuming that at some point, when everyone is in school, the nanny and housekeeper roles will be combined. We'll probably have to hire someone different, who wants to do both jobs, but if I have to choose, we'll be keeping the housekeeper when the kids get older.
You are just lazy no matter how you try to spin.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 14:57
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. It is your job to clean up and pick up, stop complaining.
Shut up
Anonymous
05/23/2017 14:25
Subject: Monday's!!!!
I feel the same exact way and something should be said. I am in the process of informing them that unfortunately I do not feel comfortable working is such filth. Housekeeping is not part of our agreement and I more than occasionally pick up, sweep, mop, vaccum, wipe down the counters and so forth. I leave at 6pm and the place is spotless. The charges are in in bed at 8pm. How does it get that filthy in two hours I have no idea, except the fact that they are lazy. Food crumbs everywhere, dirty socks, shoes, coats, jackets, thrown all over the place including the parents. Dishes in the sink and the floor feels as though I am walking on sand and rocks everyday.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 13:19
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Did I write this in my sleep? My nanny family is the most disgusting family I've ever seen. I agreed to clean the kitchen. NEVER AGAIN!
Anonymous
05/23/2017 11:29
Subject: Monday's!!!!
As someone with a housekeeper who routinely picks up on Monday morning, I can tell you that you are improving this family's quality of life immeasurably.
Why don't they pick up on the weekend? I don't know, exactly, but I know for us, DH and I are trying to do household tasks while the kids play, and then we go to events or on outings. When we're home, we're not all playing together as a group, and the house can get wrecked, especially if its a rainy weekend.
We ask them to help pick up as we can, but sometimes this wrecking is occurring while we're trying to make dinner, and then it's bedtime, and then, no, I don't want to clean the house. Having a housekeeper was an investment we made in our marriage.
We only have one school-aged child at this point (the others are pre-school and at home), but I am also assuming that at some point, when everyone is in school, the nanny and housekeeper roles will be combined. We'll probably have to hire someone different, who wants to do both jobs, but if I have to choose, we'll be keeping the housekeeper when the kids get older.
Why don't they pick up on the weekend? I don't know, exactly, but I know for us, DH and I are trying to do household tasks while the kids play, and then we go to events or on outings. When we're home, we're not all playing together as a group, and the house can get wrecked, especially if its a rainy weekend.
We ask them to help pick up as we can, but sometimes this wrecking is occurring while we're trying to make dinner, and then it's bedtime, and then, no, I don't want to clean the house. Having a housekeeper was an investment we made in our marriage.
We only have one school-aged child at this point (the others are pre-school and at home), but I am also assuming that at some point, when everyone is in school, the nanny and housekeeper roles will be combined. We'll probably have to hire someone different, who wants to do both jobs, but if I have to choose, we'll be keeping the housekeeper when the kids get older.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 11:18
Subject: Re:Monday's!!!!
Op here. I guess I just have to accept the mess. I agreed to doing the housekeeping because kids are at school. I need full time work. I just get frustrated when I feel underappreciated. But I love the kids & only have a year left. So I guess I'll just change my exceptions. Thanks everyone for your response!
Anonymous
05/23/2017 10:47
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Anonymous wrote:I have mixed feelings about this. If they hired you to do housekeeping as well, then you should be compensated fairly for the job, but they hired you because they don't want to pick up.
On the other hand, if it's more than you can handle with a reasonable amount of time and effort, then you need to address that with them. Then they can decide if they want to extend your hours, pay you more, or pick up after themselves.
If you just wish you hadn't agreed to housekeeping, then you have to decide if you want to find another job, or try to negotiate to have the housekeeping removed from your job description, or just live with it.
Exactly this. It all depends.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 10:07
Subject: Monday's!!!!
I have mixed feelings about this. If they hired you to do housekeeping as well, then you should be compensated fairly for the job, but they hired you because they don't want to pick up.
On the other hand, if it's more than you can handle with a reasonable amount of time and effort, then you need to address that with them. Then they can decide if they want to extend your hours, pay you more, or pick up after themselves.
If you just wish you hadn't agreed to housekeeping, then you have to decide if you want to find another job, or try to negotiate to have the housekeeping removed from your job description, or just live with it.
On the other hand, if it's more than you can handle with a reasonable amount of time and effort, then you need to address that with them. Then they can decide if they want to extend your hours, pay you more, or pick up after themselves.
If you just wish you hadn't agreed to housekeeping, then you have to decide if you want to find another job, or try to negotiate to have the housekeeping removed from your job description, or just live with it.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 09:38
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Filth not gilthj. Obviously.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 09:37
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. It is your job to clean up and pick up, stop complaining.
It is not her job to pickup three days of filth because these lazy slobs choose to live in gilth.
Personally, I would discuss this situation with them send if they do not change then find a new job.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 07:47
Subject: Re:Monday's!!!!
Seriously, OP, why in the world did you ever agree to do housekeeping?! Yes, they are pigs but you agreed to this.
Anonymous
05/23/2017 03:45
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Nanny here. It is your job to clean up and pick up, stop complaining.
Anonymous
05/22/2017 22:33
Subject: Monday's!!!!
I think you are reasonable and they are jerks for not cleaning at all over The Weeknd and leaving breakfast dishes.
Anonymous
05/22/2017 21:24
Subject: Monday's!!!!
Every Monday the house is a big MESS!!!! Housekeeping is part of my job. But every Monday the is toys everywhere. Breakfast still on table dirty floors table & counter. Just stuff everwhere. I have to pick everything up & put it away before I can do the cleaning. I just feel taken advantage of! I know I agreed to do the cleaning which I am fine doing. Just very frustrating when they do no cleaning or pick up over weekend. Then at the end of the day I never even get a thank you for all the picking up & cleaning I did. What do you guys think am I being unreasonable to expect a thank you or or some form of acknowledgment?