Anonymous wrote:I have a facetime relationship with a former charge that I am sorry I allowed to start. He started school and missed me so I was happy to facetime with him when I got home from my new job. Now it is a nightly thing. He calls while he is having his dinner and his parents use the time to make their own dinner. I love the little boy but his parents were always users. I don't want to tell the poor kid that I don't want to talk to him every night so I continue.


You know what? It might not hurt you to ask but it hurts me to say no. Glad you said no and I am pissed on your behalf!

Next time you speak to him let him know that from now on M, W and F you will be driving at your 'normal' facetime time and won't be able to answer your phone (or at the gym, in a meeting whatever) your already down to two nights now...... after a couple of weeks stop asnwering tuesdays call and send a text 45-hour later 'sorry to have missed your call i look forwards to facetiming kiddo on thursday' boom, down to once a week.

Nanny here- I like my charges so I always love to FaceTime with them. If I'm babysitting other kids I just ask them to call back later. Not being snarky but why are you working with kids? Doesn't seem like you care much about the ones in your care.

Sounds like you and your nanny are close and that's fine, PP. My MB texts me of an evening and sometimes of a weekend, mainly work related. I wouldn't say I mind as such. Having said that, I don't think she would be all that happy if I texted her of a weekend. But each nanny/mb relationship is different. All depends on that and respect of others time of course.

I'm really surprised by all of the nannies who think that a one time request like this is unreasonable. OP -- Do you know why the charge wanted to FaceTime you?

My kid really wanted to tell my nanny something over a weekend. (It had to do with a backyard "project" they'd worked on together.) I texted my nanny to ask if it would be OK if kid FaceTimed her for 2 minutes. She immediately FaceTimed us. Kid blurted out the info, nanny indicated her excitement (probably partially feigned, but I think she was excited that kid was so excited) and they talked for maybe 90 seconds? I then shot her a text saying "Sorry for bothering you, kid was just so excited to tell you about it!" It never occurred to me that she might really resent this -- and I sincerely hope she doesn't. She occasionally texts me over the weekend with questions/requests and I certainly don't resent it. I interact with her/am respectful of her time just like I would be with a colleague or with my boss, which I would have thought was a reasonable standard?

Anonymous wrote:People aren't even allowed to ASK questions anymore?? Seriously, get a new job; one that doesn't involve working with people. Clearly you can't handle being around people and would fail miserably at any job that involves people asking questions. (All jobs involve people and at some point questions.)

My question, "are you paying OT?"

Anonymous wrote:I have a facetime relationship with a former charge that I am sorry I allowed to start. He started school and missed me so I was happy to facetime with him when I got home from my new job. Now it is a nightly thing. He calls while he is having his dinner and his parents use the time to make their own dinner. I love the little boy but his parents were always users. I don't want to tell the poor kid that I don't want to talk to him every night so I continue.


You know what? It might not hurt you to ask but it hurts me to say no. Glad you said no and I am pissed on your behalf!

So you need to call the parents and tell them that regretfully, your schedule has changed and you can no longer talk to him every evening. Rip off the bandaid. This will not be the last uncomfortable conversation you have in your life.

Doesn't seem like such a terrible, awful thing to me. How old is the child? The child missed you and wanted to see you, so she asked.

You said no.

Fine.

What is an offensive request to you might be charming and sweet to someone else.

Unlike 15:17, where that nanny is clearly not having her personal time respected, you sound like you have a chip on your shoulder.

Anonymous wrote:Why would this bother you? I'm a former nanny and have FaceTimed with my charge -- both when I was still her nanny, and a few times since.

The first time it happened, she asked her parents to see if I could. I was happy to chat with her for a minute. Sure, I would have been bothered if she tried to do it all the time, but it sounds like you're upset about one request.

Yes, I am pissed by the request alone. It feels like I can never do enough for this woman. I don't like saying no.

I have a facetime relationship with a former charge that I am sorry I allowed to start. He started school and missed me so I was happy to facetime with him when I got home from my new job. Now it is a nightly thing. He calls while he is having his dinner and his parents use the time to make their own dinner. I love the little boy but his parents were always users. I don't want to tell the poor kid that I don't want to talk to him every night so I continue.


You know what? It might not hurt you to ask but it hurts me to say no. Glad you said no and I am pissed on your behalf!

Why would this bother you? I'm a former nanny and have FaceTimed with my charge -- both when I was still her nanny, and a few times since.

The first time it happened, she asked her parents to see if I could. I was happy to chat with her for a minute. Sure, I would have been bothered if she tried to do it all the time, but it sounds like you're upset about one request.

Glad you said no. She should never have asked.

Anonymous wrote:People aren't even allowed to ASK questions anymore?? Seriously, get a new job; one that doesn't involve working with people. Clearly you can't handle being around people and would fail miserably at any job that involves people asking questions. (All jobs involve people and at some point questions.)

F off, troll.

I wouldn't like it either.

-A nanny

People aren't even allowed to ASK questions anymore?? Seriously, get a new job; one that doesn't involve working with people. Clearly you can't handle being around people and would fail miserably at any job that involves people asking questions. (All jobs involve people and at some point questions.)

She clearly has no respect for my private time or my second nanny job. Of course I said no but it still pisses me off that she would ask.