Anonymous wrote:Actually I didn't give it back to him. I was just concerned the nanny said she didn't take it when she did. I have no problem with her disciplining him appropriately. If this was the first issue I've had with her it wouldn't bother me at all. Anyway, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and didn't even bring it up.

Good move, OP. Please talk to your child's nanny about the other issues you have with her.

Also, is your nanny foreign? My experience with foreign nannies is that they are afraid to admit anything.

Actually I didn't give it back to him. I was just concerned the nanny said she didn't take it when she did. I have no problem with her disciplining him appropriately. If this was the first issue I've had with her it wouldn't bother me at all. Anyway, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and didn't even bring it up.

The nanny likely took the toy away because your kid was doing something to warrant it and forgot about the incident (guessing this isn't the first time she's had to discipline your child for you)...then you reward him by giving back the toy and punish the nanny for letting something slip her mind. Great parenting all around.

Anonymous wrote:well, the 3 year old told me the toy was in the kitchen cabinet with the plates and surely it was. and its pretty high and he can't reach it. so yes while I agree three year olds are not the most trustworthy, obviously she put it there, since they were the only 2 home yesterday.

But maybe she forgot.

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Anonymous wrote:well, the 3 year old told me the toy was in the kitchen cabinet with the plates and surely it was. and its pretty high and he can't reach it. so yes while I agree three year olds are not the most trustworthy, obviously she put it there, since they were the only 2 home yesterday.

You sound like a nut job who micromanages your nanny. Please get help!

not OP, but you're the reason I'd never hire a nanny off this site! get a job!

Anonymous wrote:well, the 3 year old told me the toy was in the kitchen cabinet with the plates and surely it was. and its pretty high and he can't reach it. so yes while I agree three year olds are not the most trustworthy, obviously she put it there, since they were the only 2 home yesterday.

You sound like a nut job who micromanages your nanny. Please get help!

well, the 3 year old told me the toy was in the kitchen cabinet with the plates and surely it was. and its pretty high and he can't reach it. so yes while I agree three year olds are not the most trustworthy, obviously she put it there, since they were the only 2 home yesterday.

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Anonymous wrote:Many other situations that make me question her as a nanny and her judgment. Maybe in just looking for a reason to get rid of her because she is not a good nanny.

Then you should hire someone who is a good nanny. Easy solution.

OP only mentions the "other things" because no one is agreeing with her. 3 yr olds make up outrageous stories and adults busy with many things do forget about toys! Maybe you should quit your job OP and stay home with your snowflake(s).

If this is not an isolated incident, you need to get rid. You clearly don't trust her.

Anonymous wrote:Many other situations that make me question her as a nanny and her judgment. Maybe in just looking for a reason to get rid of her because she is not a good nanny.

Then you should hire someone who is a good nanny. Easy solution.

Many other situations that make me question her as a nanny and her judgment. Maybe in just looking for a reason to get rid of her because she is not a good nanny.

Oh this is something I am very guilty of - forgetting. And I can see myself reflected in this scenario, definitely not lying, just not remembering at the moment. Thankfully I have employers who trust and know me and would not immediately jump to the conclusion that I was lying. Says quite a bit about you MB or perhaps you've had other situations that would cause you to think this is the case.

The idea that she forgot didn't cross your mind, OP?

You are the reason nannies hate MBs.

Three year olds are not reliable witnesses. And a person could forget that she'd put a toy on lockdown, or misunderstood what toy you meant.

I would not consider this a fireable offense and I'm not even sure I'd consider it a lie at this point.

A fireable lie is discovering your child was left unattended and in harms way when your nanny claimed she was with him all the time, or your nanny calls in sick at the last minute and you discover she took the day off to go to the amusement park, or the nanny said they went to the park but in reality they went to her boyfriend's house and watched tv while she and the boyfriend were "napping" etc...

How big of a lie is grounds for immediate termination? One of my three year olds toys was missing today and we spent 30 minutes looking for it and he was quite upset. Then he told me it was in the cabinet with the plates, and nanny put it there because he was being mean to her. I texted the nanny to see if she saw it by chance and she said nope, hasn't seen it.