Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have to provide lunch for your nanny?
If so why?

Yes. Because she cannot leave the house to go out to lunch and doesn't get a free lunch hour. Simple.

This.

We do, but we didn't have a nanny until we had multiple kids, so she was expected to prep their lunches and eat with them. She still brought her own lunch half the time because she had a taste for something in particular.
I remember when we just had one infant though, and DH and I very rarely ate lunch at home, and often fixed pre-prepared or frozen things for dinner. I would have had to specifically purchase things for my nanny to eat for lunch. In that case, I would just discuss this with your nanny beforehand. She may have a preference one way or another. Either way, I think the most you would be expected to do is provide some bread and lunch meat or something similar to fix something fast. I don't think you should be expected to cook for your nanny.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have to provide lunch for your nanny?
If so why?

You should not have a nanny. Trust me.

+1 I agree.

Anonymous wrote:Do you have to provide lunch for your nanny?
If so why?

Yes. Because she cannot leave the house to go out to lunch and doesn't get a free lunch hour. Simple.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Off topic though. Why don't employers offer grandparents day off to nannies????? They drive us nuttttttsssss!!!!!! They come off with the craziest ideas ever and always in your hair and not in a helpful kind of way. Afternoon nap is turning into neighborhood walk with her in tow. Can't she not see her grandson is sleepy to death and not in need for walk.

Speaking for myself, it's because I trust our nanny and don't trust the grandparents.

+1. And the grandparents are not physically up to the task in our case. I'm sorry it makes my nanny's day harder, and I apologize for that, but it doesn't happen but a few days a year. It allows grandparents to spend the day with the kiddos even though we have to work.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I advise you not to offer lunch.
Because some people will eat a regular meal, some others will eat A LOT, and honestly you're not there to feed someone who eats a lot.
Some others will start asking for fancy stuff as well.
You don't want to deal with that.

What is nice though is to offer some snacks and some drinks. It's cheap and pleasant for the nanny.

You sound selfish, if that's how you think.

Anonymous wrote:Off topic though. Why don't employers offer grandparents day off to nannies????? They drive us nuttttttsssss!!!!!! They come off with the craziest ideas ever and always in your hair and not in a helpful kind of way. Afternoon nap is turning into neighborhood walk with her in tow. Can't she not see her grandson is sleepy to death and not in need for walk.

Speaking for myself, it's because I trust our nanny and don't trust the grandparents.

Providing lunch isn't necessary, but I do think you should provide snacks and drinks. Unlike many other employees, it's more difficult for a nanny to run down the street and grab a bite to eat or a drink.

Nanny here. I advise you not to offer lunch.
Because some people will eat a regular meal, some others will eat A LOT, and honestly you're not there to feed someone who eats a lot.
Some others will start asking for fancy stuff as well.
You don't want to deal with that.

What is nice though is to offer some snacks and some drinks. It's cheap and pleasant for the nanny.

No.

But you can if you wish to. Or you might if your kids are older and your nanny will be preparing their lunches.

I have always explicitly stated that meals are not included, so everyone is clear. And then that softens over time as I naturally include some of the nanny's preferred things when I shop, make plenty of extra for all of them to have together when I have leftovers, tell the nanny to include herself in recipes I suggest she try, etc...

But especially when my kids were infants the answer was no.

Off topic though. Why don't employers offer grandparents day off to nannies????? They drive us nuttttttsssss!!!!!! They come off with the craziest ideas ever and always in your hair and not in a helpful kind of way. Afternoon nap is turning into neighborhood walk with her in tow. Can't she not see her grandson is sleepy to death and not in need for walk.

One of my MB's used to provide lunch but I never expected it. I was coming from another job and started with her at lunchtime so she offered.
I would just set out expectations from the beginning. In all honesty, I would prefer to bring my own lunch but it is nice when MB/DB say to help yourself to any food/drink.

Anonymous wrote:Do you have to provide lunch for your nanny?
If so why?

You should not have a nanny. Trust me.

I think you discuss what the expectations are. I don't explicitly provide lunch and she brings her own. However she is expressly welcome to anything in the pantry/fridge except for things for dinner that night. I daily tell her that there is such and such fruit and she should have some. She also makes herself oatmeal with the raisins and berries we have and eats it while feeding the baby breakfast since she comes in before 8 am. The baby takes a good 2 nap and I know she makes herself lunch, brought stuff from home that she keeps in our fridge supplemented with fruit and veg that we have on hand.

Do you have to provide lunch for your nanny?
If so why?