Anonymous wrote:MB here. I think it is totally reasonable to ask for a raise. Its not like you could get another job for just those 3 hours. She should have given you one at a year, but maybe she just wasn't thinking of it. I would be appreciative if you offered to do other household things during school hours though. she may not be taking you up on it now bc she wants to respect the initial scope of your agreement and really does want focus just to be the kids, but it's a little different having no kids to care for at all for a few hours.

Thank you so much for this thoughtful response.

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I think it is totally reasonable to ask for a raise. Its not like you could get another job for just those 3 hours. She should have given you one at a year, but maybe she just wasn't thinking of it. I would be appreciative if you offered to do other household things during school hours though. she may not be taking you up on it now bc she wants to respect the initial scope of your agreement and really does want focus just to be the kids, but it's a little different having no kids to care for at all for a few hours.

Same poster- I should say that even if you didn't offer to do other things, I would still agree to the raise if I thought you had a great relationship with kids.

MB here. I think it is totally reasonable to ask for a raise. Its not like you could get another job for just those 3 hours. She should have given you one at a year, but maybe she just wasn't thinking of it. I would be appreciative if you offered to do other household things during school hours though. she may not be taking you up on it now bc she wants to respect the initial scope of your agreement and really does want focus just to be the kids, but it's a little different having no kids to care for at all for a few hours.

Anonymous wrote:Always bring this up during interviews.

I totally agree but it wasn't an issue at that time.

Thank you so much for the replies!

Are there any mbs that have been in a similar situation? Where a kid goes to school a few hours a week and you still gave an increase despite that?

My mb has always been adamant about me not doing chores or laundry and just focusing on the kids. There have been times where I have tried to help with laundry while they sleep and she is always saying to leave it. I say that to say I don't think it's likely she will give me tasks when my charge
goes to school other than being close by the phone if I'm needed and making lunch for them. So is it standard for pay to remain the same once this happens?

Always bring this up during interviews.

It is reasonable to let them know what you require to be able to stay with the job. If your needs and theirs are no longer a good match, then it is time for everyone to move on. Best of luck to you.

You ask for a review, and then you ask for a raise or for the health insurance. There is no way to force them to do either, though, so if you truly need more money to survive, you need to start looking for a better-paying job, too.

Hi. I have been with my current family for 1 year and 4 months. I have not received a raise and my youngest is going to school in the fall. So I have been struggling with asking for a raise or with help covering my health insurance. I am concerned that when fall comes and I have the 2 mornings free 9 until noon that it would look silly for them to pay me more from their perspective but at the same time I need an increase in my pay to survive. If they were to help with health insurance it would offset the raise and I would be satisfied with just that.

How does one go about discussing this? Is it common or out of order. Please advise I would appreciate any input. Especially mbs.